one of my colleague is too elder than me. his approach is not good. many times i ve told him that i'm thinking as a bro and friend
but he is not hearing my words at all.
also i dont want leave him as it it nor i want to change his attitude.
can any one suggest me.
2006-10-06 00:16:12 · 9 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
how can u work anywhere with 3rd grade writting skills?
2006-10-06 00:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by and now you know 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess you are saying he is making unwanted personal advances. If this is the case, you need to act right way to get this in writing.
First, send an email to this man and state the specific behaviors that you wish him to stop. Make sure your message includes the words "stop immediately" and drop all cutesy talk such as "I like you as a brother or as a friend".
Second forward the message you send to your supervisor and let him/her know that you are attempting to handle this on your own, but are now putting the problem on record. Let the supervisor know that you will write again if the behavior continues. If this man is your supervisor, write to his supervisor.
Third, stick to your message which is "No" and "Stop" and consistently report and further unwanted personal advances.
It is very important that you NOT continue to use words such as "I like you, but...". He hears the first part, but not the second - that's human nature. You may not realize it but talking like that and acting shy or coy is encouraging his hopes.
If you act now to make it clear, you will still be able to work together in the future assuming this is a normal guy. If you don't, there could be a big blow up. Either way, once you go on record, your company probably has an obligation (it absolutely does if you are in the US) to help you put a stop to this.
Best wishes...
2006-10-06 07:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Zana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not hearing you because of the way you talk. If you write the same way that you talk , that would be the reason. I could barely understand what you were trying to say. (tip) There is a check spelling right above every paragraph box for your convenience you should really think about using it.
2006-10-06 07:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by josified 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your colleague and he is bothering you despite repeated requests from you to stop, report him to management. It's up to your superiors to maintain a harassment-free workplace.
And, just out of curiosity: why would you want to be friends with this moron anyway?
2006-10-06 07:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously it's someone from a foreign country that is still working on english what is happening is sexual harassment in the workplace and here that's totaly unacceptable over there it might depend on the country
2006-10-06 07:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by keoni_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him there is no way, not in a million years, to see him as a potential boyfriend. You may say the distance between your age and his is smth you could not overcome.
2006-10-06 07:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mira 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can help you. Can i teach you grammer first? Then i can help you. It sounds like to me you are confusing yourself with your own words.
2006-10-06 09:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must tell him: "you are too old for me, I don't want relationship with you."
tell him he must understand or you will complain in workplace.
2006-10-06 07:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?
2006-10-06 08:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋