Unable to perform sex in 1st 20 days since marriage. Please help!?

Question

My wife's age is 18. Her vagina hole is very tight, so I have found it very difficult to enter my penis into it. I have tried many times but succeded for very few times. My penis is thick and the few times when I succeded in penetrating my penis into her vagina, she could not bear the pain and I had to take it back. Also when I try to insert my penis into her vagina sometimes it slips toward the backside, please help us. We both are worried. Also there is one more thing. My wife's body is not sexy. She is very tall, slim and have small boobs, thin thies and small back. I dont feel too much sex on her. I have to work hard to feel it. We both love eachother but still have not succeded in completing sex. Please help.

Answer 1

Use some lube.

Go to the adult store and buy some lube.

Answer 2

This is a good example of what can happen when you wait for marriage! Often times it works out fine! But not in this case.

Basically she is not aroused enough, and it sounds like you aren't either. Her vaginal entrance is tight and dry and your penis is probably not as hard as it needs to be to penetrate her.

So, you need to do a good 30 minutes of intense foreplay until she's dripping wet and wants you inside her more than anything else! Also finger her while you're eating her out...try to get 3 of your fingers inside of her comfortably. Let her be on top; try having you sitting up against the wall with a pillow to support your back. I lost my virginity in this way and the angle of his penis was very gentle. Then she can control depth, speed, angle, everything so as to minimize pain. Also purchase a water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly or Astroglide and put it on the condom (or your bare penis).

Answer 3

Wow, you're brave, saying your wife's body is not sexy. That's pretty harsh, if you ask me. Well, as far as some tips that may help. You need to "warm" her up, not a few kisses and then mr.happy is awake and you want to get to it. Unfortuately, for you, women need sometime to warm up, you got to "pre-heat" the oven, foreplay and all kinds of stuff. And if you say she doesn't have a sexy body, why would you try any foreplay on her erogenous zones, which then makes me wonder if you just want to get to "it" right away. Anyways, lubrication would help also, if she doesn't "self-lubricate" very well, if that's normal for her. You also have to encourage her to relax, but make sure she wants too. She's probably scared and tense, so it's harder for her at first. Just have patience and be a little more understanding, and keep your brutal honesty to yourself.

Answer 4

first of all, what a crappy thing to say "i dont feel much sex on her" then why did you marry her. I would guess that you're biggest problem is not how "thick" you are, or how "tight" she is; its nerves. She needs to relax a little more, a womans body can accomodate any man, providing shes relaxed and confidant that her husband wont hurt her. As well, she probably knows that you find her sexually unattractive, so that is only heightening her anxiety. romance her, go slow when entering and if necessary use a lubricant to help. Love her for who she is.....all of who she is, including her body

Answer 5

Ok, here's what you do:
1) Find the closest high school
2) Find out when the football team meets for practice
3) Wait until the end of a particularly energetic practice and toss her into the locker room. Say the words: "It's DVDA time!" Trust me, they'll understand.
Pick her up in about three hours. You will find that not only has the "tightness" problem been solved, but she's learned some fun new tricks as well! Happy honeymoon!

Answer 6

2 things:

1. She may not physically be able to accomodate you. Small vagina, big penis. Not good.

2. You will have to 'break her in'. This takes effort and patience on your part.
a. Slow and shallow intercourse preceeded by intense foreplay.
b. Incredible detail on pleasing her first which will allow her to expand and give maximum acceptance of a large oversized penis.

Good luck.

Answer 7

sexual attraction is very important for intimacy. however, since you are already married, try to concentrate on her positive points and yu'll be ok. about the tightness it may be a sexual dysfunction. This is wen the woman is soooo scared of the act that all her muscles surrounding the vigana contract and tighten. Try to get medical as well as psychological assistance.

Good luck

Answer 8

Take is slowly with your wife, you need to get her ready to have sex by stimulating her using your hand or your mouth. Perform a lot of foreplay before you try to enter her.
It takes women much longer then men to get sexually excited. She needs to relax so that it wont hurt and she needs to be wet down there as well.

Read this and it might help

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foreplay

Good luck

Answer 9

You need to work together at it slowly so you both know wot each other want in love making. Try a small sex toy to easy her pain. And most of all relax each other and enjoy.

Answer 10

Look you have to make feel pain until her vagina gets loose put some baby oil or vaseline on your penis to let it slip in ....... you have to be careful these stuff might burn her from the insideand and not healthy for some women ........ she's the type of small penises like2.5" and 4"

Answer 11

Ok-- relax (her too!!)
First you need to set an atmosphere and then, my dear boy, you need to learn cunnilingus - no thats not an Irish airline!

You need to make her relaxed and hungry. Now she is afraid and frigid. So she makes the moves- not you, let her mount you rather than the other way around - let her "drive" ok?... just lie back after cunnilingus and think of ....well thats up to you really :)