After a split do you try to be friends or prefer to make a complete break?
Especially if the break up was by mutual consent...
2006-10-06 00:13:45 · 17 answers · asked by Mad Professor 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depends on the reason for breaking up and what they want to do. I have a couple of ex's I keep in touch with purely because we were friends beforehand and got on well. Then a have other ex's I never keep in touch with because there was too much emotion involved and they choose not to get in touch with me. At the end of the day, we're all people and we shouldn't ignore others we've spent long periods of times with. Afterall, they have influenced us and changed us as people - good or bad. They are a significant aspect to our lives and I don't belive they should be ignored. If it was up to me, I'd keep in touch with them all. I might not love them, but I care about them and wish the best for them.
2006-10-06 00:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Friends, always. Been there done that. Was friends with the guy for 10 years prior to dating. Break up was mutual, and we are still best friends now, 3 years later. Couldnt be better.
2006-10-06 00:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my experiences, x's usually become y's/. Why did I go out with you in the first place!
Even if it is by mutual consent, there is still a reason you don't want them as your partner. You can be friends but it takes time to deal with the new situation and there are inevitable reasons why it becomes less civil
2006-10-06 00:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by lucyt20 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I are very good friends. It took 2 years after we split up for us to reach this point in our lives. We make better friends than we do spouses to one another and we're both acceptive and ok with being friends. Our break up wasn't mutual but we both decided to made it as easy as possible and didn't cause one another more problems.
2006-10-06 00:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have some time apart and with a break from communicating for a while, so that you both separate your thoughts from the relationship. If you do that, friendship afterwards can work.
It depends on the person, and what you both want to do. Generally I've done "complete breaks".
I'm 38 and still learning all this stuff as I go!
2006-10-06 00:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by James 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Complete break
2006-10-06 01:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by caribbeangal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try not to be. He comes to the door to pick our daughter up at the weekends and he's sooo slimy nice. I don't invite him in and only give one word answers to him. I'd much rather scream 'I hate you!' but I have to be seen as being nice because my daughter doesn't need to know how I feel. Mind you, we were mates once, we celebrated our divorce together but it doesn't last, it's all false otherwise you wouldn't have split in the first place.
2006-10-06 00:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by jeeps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if either still feels that they are in love with the ex. That would lead to a lot of heartache when the ex finds someone new.
2006-10-06 00:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All my breakups have been quite emotional and distressing- so I don't try and do the "friends" thing with them. I'd rather keep the memories of them as my lover then ever see them as just another mate. I wouldn't ever want to look at them and feel nothing anymore, and have them do the same. I want to keep it special forever.
2006-10-06 00:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't see the point in being friends. It complicates things. I have friends already, why would I need an ex to be my friend too?
2006-10-06 00:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋