why do ppl run away 4rm me when i am depressed n alone?

Question

why do ppl run away 4rm me when i am depressed n alone n when i need them more

Answer 1

The majority of "regular" people dont know what to say or do when someone is in crisis. People are afraid of emotions, and I dont think they run away from you because they dont like you, they just dont know what to say or what to do to be able to help you. It is quite normal actually. I have a friend who found out she had breast cancer....she had quite a few friends she would talk to on a regular basis, yet when she was diagnosed a lot of her friends fell away. She was really upset about it and thought that the people who shunned her must have thought breast cancer was catching. I had to remind her that it is not the case and most people do not know how to deal with another person's grief......they dont know how to approach a particular subject in case they say something wrong.. In actual fact, the best way to approach anyone who is in crisis is to attack it head on....dont be afraid because the person usually wants to talk about the way they feel. Dont be too hard on your friends. Maybe instead of letting them run away you could tell them..."I really need someone I can talk to...please dont be afraid of how I am feeling because the best thing you can do is just listen"...Tell them you dont need words of advice just a friend who will listen and not judge. Most people need to be told what to do in situations like this. Fear of your feelings is the probable reason why people will run away...they just dont know how to deal...It is very common indeed.

I was always a person who others would come to for advice, so I appeared to be a very strong and capable person. When my marriage split, I felt all alone, my friends stayed away from me, and they obviously thought I could cope. I didnt know what to do...so one day, I just took a deep breath and rang one of my good friends and said.."I am really hurting can you please come over and keep me company". Sometimes people dont know what you really need, so maybe you need to tell them. I think you will find if you tell people how you are feeling and what you would like from them, they wouldnt be so afraid.

And there is a question I would like to ask you. I looked up your history and you leave the decision on all your questions to the voters...Does that mean you dont read the answers? People take a lot of time and effort to answer questions like yours and if you chose a best answer at least people would know someone has helped you somehow...we would at least know your question was a serious one.

Answer 2

Depression scares many people, they are feeling uncomfortable because they do not want to say anything that would make you even more depressed. They do not want to be held accountable for an action you may take from advice they may give.
Having a trusted friend that you are able to talk to and share these feeling with would be beneficial. Or seeking a professional, I do understand your thoughts, I Pray for the best for you. Take Care.

Answer 3

Because when you're depressed and alone you're not much fun to be with. Most people don't mind supporting a friend who is depressed, but if you are chonically depressed, you will tend to have less people around you, and that will make you even more depressed. It will get worse and worse, unless you seek professional help. Try this: when you're around people, even if you feel depressed, don't talk about your problems to them, don't look depressed, talk to them about things they are interested in, and smile a little. People will find you more pleasant to be with and will spend more time with you, AND you will feel better and more supported. In other words, FAKE IT if you have to. But its still no substitute for getting real help. Depression is not joke.

Answer 4

What are you saying around them...? Sometimes that's why. Sometimes it's coz they have their own things and cannot spend every minute with someone who they know needs help but they are not qualified to give it. I'm afraid to depress you with what I'm saying...but am sure you know some specific reasons why for each person whose company you think you want.

Also, you could be inadvertantly pushing them away with your body language.

Sometimes we need to pray instead, and think of one really good person to tell stuff to, and go to them, and help ourselves best we can by working on good things and keeping busy. Sometimes when there is a feeling so low, we can't possibly feel motivation, the motivation can be to get rid of the low feeling by doing good things only.

Answer 5

Negativity brings people down...do you like being around depressed people? You may be suffering from something like clinical depression or SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), I suggest you see a doctor and see if you can minimize the depressive episodes. And learn some better coping mechanisms for aloneness, there's lots (exercise, work, volunteering, church, clubbing, etc. etc.)

Answer 6

Let me ask you a question...Are you this way often???? If you are people dont like to be around people who bring them down and are sad all the time...Now there are those who can, it takes a special person to stick with you and put up with all the madness...This is how you know you have found a true friend, if they are there for you, you know they are good people...

Answer 7

Am in the same boat.I get depressed once in while.When I do people seem to run away.I Guss they think that your the strong one so they gust Don't want to admit that your human gust like them.When I hear that I put my head up real high and smile.Saying I got this.

Answer 8

It happens with everyone not only u..

Please be independent and do your duty and be there for people .. dont expect , i know this is preaching but you know thats how people are - most of them are loosers , be there and independently .. and take up a hobby , keep yourself busy ! be there for people who dont have anyone .. visit some children centers , spend time with them .. visit the old age home .. share their pains , you will realise what life really is !

Answer 9

They don't know what to say or do to make you better so they avoid you , please get some counseling & help if you are OFTEN like this, you may be bipolar .

Answer 10

Probably you look more ugly then usually, and they are scared of you.