We've been ttc for almost 10 months now...its no more fun!!! I'm tired of trying to chart and timing our sex...so were not having too much sex..or maybe too little....!!!!Its completely stupid i dont even think it freaking works im tired of popping pills every other hour...hoping today will be the day...yeah well its not and i cant get pregnant...and im soo dang frusterated.....I give up!! I cant figure out whats the right way to do it or whats wrong....this is the most frusterating thing ever...this is supposed to be a natural fun process and its not...it sucks!!!...........I GIVE UP!!!!! Does anyone else ever get tired of this junk?!??!?!
2006-10-05 23:30:22 · 14 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I swear all of my husbands friends keep coming around and saying oh yeah my gf's pregnant or oh yeah this happend they dont have a pot to pizz in but they sure the he!l can make a baby!!!! AGH!!!!
2006-10-05 23:31:52 · update #1
4 months is not a long time to be ttc. My sister was over 2 years. They won't even do any fertility checks until you've been trying for at least a year ( at least around here ). Relax... if it's ment to happen, it will. If the charting and everything is getting in the way, try going without it for a little bit and being spontaneous.
2006-10-05 23:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by lynnca1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell u EXACTLY why u can't concieve!!! u r trying far to hard and are far too desperate! If u don't chill out your husband will start to resent being a baby making machine only and u will be left with nothing! Im sorry if it sounds harsh, but Ive seen the exact same thing happen to my best friend. She is now without husband and baby, it just fell apart due to her baby obsession and u sound just like she did. I know its very difficult to think about anything else other than what u want but u really do need to start chilling out and enjoying each other for what u are. inject a little romance and passion back into your relationship and stop having sex with the thought of having a baby. just do it for the love of each other. if u are meant to have a baby u will, whats the point in freaking out about it it won't change anything, in fact it is obviously making it harder! Good luck
2006-10-06 00:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail right on the head - you are not having fun. That is what the whole thing should be between you and your husband - enjoying your relationship and making love because you love one another, not having sex just for baby-making purposes. Ten months is a really short time to get so upset about this. For us, it took two years, and it was a fun two years trying! I think women (unless they have a serious medical condition) just need to honestly relax, stop all this charting and running to specialists, just eat healthily, get exercise - and have a truly loving relationship with their husband. If a baby comes along, that is the icing on the cake!
2006-10-06 04:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustration completely. It took us only 3 months to conceive the first time, but I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. I had to wait a month before ttc again. It then took us another 9 months to conceive.
I was seeking the help of my OBGYN, so I couldn't understand why it was taking so long. But he kept finding medical issues that were preventing me from conceiving. The last of which was endometriosis, which he removed and I finally conceived the very next month. I didn't even have symptoms of endo, so had I not been to the Dr., I might not have conceived at all.
You didn't mention whether you had been to the Dr. for help, so if not, I wanted to encourage you to go. There could be something interfering with conception that is fairly easy to correct.
This is why I tell women not to wait a year to go to the Dr. They should go as soon as they decide they're ready to ttc. At the very least to get a check up. Why wait a year to get help? The OBGYN is the best place to start. If you have major medical issues, then you will be sent to a fertility specialist.
I also understand the losing interest in sex as well. We are in our 5th month ttc again. Our daughter is 15 months, so that's another issue that can interfere with our timing. We can't just ignore her needs. I don't believe in the idea of "just stop trying and it will happen", but I like the idea of a vacation - even if it's a short one. Try to time it to your ovulation time. It will give you something else to look forward to and hopefully help you to relax.
Best of luck to you!!
2006-10-06 02:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey there... Yes, I know what you mean. We've been TTC for over 3 YEARS now, so, believe me, it's a bit early for you to give up. Go see a fertility doctor and before you go testing yourself check your partner's sperm - it's a way easier and faster. Then, if everything is ok there, check your tubes, your hormones etc. I know it's a very frustrating thing, but maybe just take a break from ttc, don't give up just yet :))
2006-10-05 23:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by prasessa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel ya!! Try doing the Master Cleasnser fst - google it. It's just maple syrup and lemons. I did it for 5 days and next cycle got pregnant. And yoga.
2006-10-06 00:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i totally feel ur pain , ive been trying for almost seven years and i cant get pregnant , ive all but given up on the idea of ever becoming a mother
2006-10-05 23:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya! Everyone in our families is getting pregnant left and right - and ALL of them WEREN'T trying!!!! Personally I don't think sex leads to pregnancy, cause I haven't seen it happen to me yet!!! lol Good luck to you honey, baby dust to all of us who are TTC!
2006-10-06 01:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been preg. before? Has he ever impregnated before? I don't think You are the problem...The pills should do the trick! Daddy might be shooting blanks...
2006-10-06 00:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by jakkibluu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear this.
hmm, we were always told that relaxation helps. perhaps consider going for a short holiday?
good luck.
2006-10-05 23:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by ash 7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋