Hi. Could you tell me if this is classed as cheating.. Sometimes I visit prostitutes but only have safe sex (with a condom) is this classed as cheating? It means nothing as I dont have any feelings towards the prostitute. I only do it because I get a bit bored with my wifes sex.
2006-10-05 23:21:22 · 71 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-05 23:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
What you have just mentioned is the definition of cheating!! If you looked up cheater in the dictionary - there would be a picture of you!
How to tell if you're cheating..... Would you tell your wife about these visits? Does she know? If you can answer yes to these two questions.... its not cheating, if you answer no it it!
How would you feel if your wife was visiting male prostitutes?
Sex is probably boring with your wife because you're boring in bed too and you're not doing it for her anymore. You probably couldn't get sex anywhere unless you paid for it anyway.
Why don't you just patch things up with your wife and make a bit off effort instead of sneaking to some dirty hooker.
2006-10-06 00:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are cheating. Don't fool yourself by saying "safe sex", Sex with someone else apart from your marriage partner is cheating, no matter how you try and fool yourself. Does not matter if you have feeling for the prostitute or not, you are cheating on your wife. You either need to talk to her about it and you need to put some effort in before you ruin this marriage. No being rude or anything but you are an idiot and you need to work fast before your marriage is over.
Unless she is very understanding, I can see that you have ruined this marriage already, so just salvage what is left of you and her dignity now.
2006-10-05 23:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by Raide UK 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dude you already know that sex with anyone other then your wife is cheating so my questions to you are how would you feel if it was the other way round and don't you think your wife deserves better then a jerk like you just coz things in your bedroom department with your wife has become boring doesn't mean that you should go and cheat on her if you truely love your wife you would have sat down and talked about things and asked about each others fantacys and used them to spice your sex life up but you choose to run to a hooker instead even though you are using condoms thats still not 100% safe so you should stop and sort things out with your wife she deserves better from you
2006-10-05 23:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Denver 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is most definately cheating. How would you feel if your wife cheated on you? Maybe you should talk to her and see if there's anything you can do to stop this boredom. Going with prostitutes really is the lowest thing a guy can do, especially a married guy.
2006-10-06 05:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES it is cheating ! deoes because your having safe sex make it OK ???????? ( dont think so !! )
You obviousley don't love your wife that way anymore as she has everything you need so you shouldn't have to look anywhere else should you? Why not tell your wife wot you want or tell her your getting bored visit some shops like Ann Summers to spice it up not turn to some one you don't even no on a street corner that could have anything to share with you ! ( other than love !! if you catch my drift !! )
2006-10-05 23:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by stan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you even asking this question,you must know the answer! Why havent you been talking to your wife and trying to improve things instead of paying for sex? Having no feelings towards the prostitute doesnt mean what your doing is ok,I find it down right disgusting!
2006-10-06 01:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by fairyb04 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are you should be able to talk to your wife, perhaps take her away for the night buy some sex toys and get the spark, back how would you feel if you wife visited a male for sex because shes bored with you!!! I know how you would feel, think of the diseases you could be passing on!! Play dating games perhaps shes as bored as you.
2006-10-06 01:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I would class what you are doing as cheating. Why do you feel the need to visit prostitutes when you have a wife at home?
It may mean nothing to you, but when (and she will) she finds out how do you think she is going to react to your misdemeanours? I have said it before COMMUNICATION is the key. Talk to her for goodness sake before it's to late.
2006-10-05 23:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by classychick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No of course it is not cheating when you sleep with another woman that is not your wife.
Plus, it's your wife's fault for being boring in bed right? Did she stop going down on you after you got married? Did she stop wearing the sexy lingerie? What is up with that?
Have you talked to her about being boring in bed? If not then maybe you should suggest things but don't tell her she is boring because it will be a blow to her self-esteem. And you don't want to go down that road.
The money you are spending on prostitutes you could be spending on your wife.
2006-10-05 23:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by cinattra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes this is cheating, test yourself, if you are doing something that you know your wife would not approve of, then it's cheating. If your wife isn't good at sex maybe you could try improving your own approach to it, maybe you don't understand what turns a woman on and how to get us in the mood, we work differently to men. Buy a copy of ' how to give her absolute pleasure' from Amazon online
2006-10-06 07:30:19 · answer #11 · answered by good tree 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋