could we call that lying/cheating/unfaithfulness/what?
2006-10-05 23:17:34 · 19 answers · asked by Alam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you love her? Then forgive her. It may have happened long before she met you. So many things you have left out. Did she tell you this or did you make love and find there was no hymen? Not all virgins have a hymen as it can rupture for many different reasons. Or did she tell you she wasn't a virgin? Did it happen while you guys were together? If not then it has nothing to do with you other than her sexual history in relation to safe sex. What is done is done and none of us can go back and change it. Were you a virgin when you married her? If not then you have absolutely no cause to affect insult. There's just so many things left out here.
2006-10-05 23:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she had sex with someone else while she was already dating you, she was neither cheating on you nor was she unfaithful to you.
If she claimed to be a virgin however, and knew that it wasn't true, then she was definitely lying. But how do you know that is the case? A girl's hymen can rupture for a number of other reasons besides sexual intercourse, such as sports activities, improper insertion of tampons, etc.
But all that is really academic, what this really boils down to is this: her past is none of your business, and she shouldn't have to explain anything she did before she met you (or possibly feel that she had to lie and cover up for fear of your disapproval).
2006-10-06 06:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why do you think that she isn't a virgin? Different women have different physical reactions to their first experience - don't assume anything, ask her.
Second, had you told her that you, too were a virgin? Don't hold her to any standard that you aren't prepared to live up to yourself.
Thirdly, do you love her? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Concentrate on what is important about your future together, not your unfounded speculations about her past.
2006-10-06 06:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by gellhorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up...sorry to say that!
That's not lying....maybe the poor lady loved you like crazy that she didn't want you to know that she had a previous experience cause she thought you wouldn't marry her!
But the most important thing, is getting OFF that computer screen & go TALK to her...!
2006-10-06 06:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by Drowned in English! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you could call it all of above but u've gotta forgive as well unless u married her basically because you felt she was a virgin.
2006-10-06 06:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by bimby babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself ... did you marry her for love or for virginity? grow up, sh*t happens. if you are that shallow, she is better off without you, you have your priorities out of order.
hint - after the wedding night she wouldn;t have been a virgin anyway .. too much importance is placed on the state of a womans hymen
why is it the guys who are screwing every girl they can find before marriage place such importance on virginity on the wedding night? do they think they magically achieve respect for womanhood with the magic words "I Do!"???
2006-10-06 06:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You could call it lying.. I don't think you can call it cheating and unfaithfullness unless she did it with someone else while she was with you. Get over yourself the past is the past
2006-10-06 06:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lying and I would not trust her again. I would not care that she wasn't a virgin as long as she didn't lie about it.
2006-10-06 06:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask urself whether u r virgin?mistakes r made by man n not by God.
2006-10-06 06:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by dentist 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lying yes cheating no
2006-10-06 06:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ice Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋