my son wearing my sarees. i caught him. told him that it is not good but he is not accepting. he is of 11. he also want to wear bangle and make up. pls answer.
2006-10-05 23:08:36 · 10 answers · asked by raaga 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
LET HIM! What does not fit into someone tight little ideas seems to dealt with via humiliation. He might just be a cross dresser. Nothing wrong with it. Some very well respected men in parliament, the law community and loads of other places cross dress. It is possible to succeed and cross dress. I am not a cross dresser but I have a friend who happens to cross dress. He was shamed as a kid for doing it and as a result his family have not seen or heard from him in over 20 years. Be sensitive to his need to do this, he may not be a cross dresser, he may just be curious about your clothing.
2006-10-05 23:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most crossdressers are straight
so don't make him out to be "gay"
ask him why he crossdressed and he may never tell you
Some boys in away want to know what it is like to wear a dress or skirt as they are not ever aloud to by society rules
shay has already told my story but I don't think even he truly understands how hard it is to talk about things like that
your son may never crossdress again
but he may do it behind your back
touch on the subject and work out for your self how he feels it might only be a stage or something he wanted to try
if you ever have a little party that you say invite a few friends over with kids make one of them a themed night and make it 'a go as your partner /cross dress night"
but don't make your son do anything he dose not want to
crossdressing is only a form of expression but he may not want to show it
Ps bangles and make up for boys is apparently the new thing
good luck
and if he dose tell you he want to be a girl see your doctor they will help a counselor and child psychologist will tell you if he is ling nothing happens to quickly when they are eleven
and be supportive as a mother your child needs your guidance
good luck
2006-10-06 02:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, while I understand society frowns upon it, there is nothing wrong with him wearing the other gender's clothing. Women wear pants all the time now, so what's the big deal if a guy wants to wear a skirt. Are you afraid he's stepping 'down' on the social ladder by emulating a woman? (which is prejudice against women) Are you afraid he is in some way perverse? (which is being narrow minded and hypocritical) Are you just afraid of him catching problems outside if he's caught? (which is a fair concern for a boy you love) Well, try very hard to set your own attitudes aside. Approach him as you always should, your son whom you love. If you don't wish to encourage, that's fine, but don't discourage him either. He needs acceptance, and of all the things to reject him for, this is such a little thing in the grand scope of things.
2006-10-05 23:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is just clothing what you really need to know is
dose he want to be a girl
My partner Zara is a transgender
started to cross-dress when she was about ten
but she always had the thought she was a girl trapped inside a boy
she has had a problem for many years and is now only facing it she is 26 now
she has had a very long hard look at her life and has found the reason why she did not act earlier
was because she never had the guts to admit it to her mum
surprising to both her and i her mum did not care
but when she told her we both thought we would never see her mum again
what i am trying to say is
as a mum you need to be supportive of your son
he may be just going though a stage
he may want to just cross dress for the fun of it
he may be like Zara and that is something you may need help with
what ever the reason he needs his mother and you need to support him no matter what happens
2006-10-05 23:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by eat it then die 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just curious and wants to know about differences and rules between men and women. He is so young and will probably grow out of it.
I wouldn't make it an issue yet and probably never, if he's still crossdressing when he's older, it would be considered his problem to deal with and not yours.
2006-10-05 23:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by johanna m 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Very hard for you, I know. But he is your child and you love him. If the teasing and tormenting of the other kids does not deter him, surely your concerns will not either.
Maybe lock up your clothes so he has to mature a bit before wearing women's clothes, if that is indeed his permanent choice.
2006-10-05 23:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Rani 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most crossdressers are straight, so if you are worried about him being gay, then he still could be, but most likely not.
2006-10-06 00:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by closetcoon_fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should accept his decision, it is his life, but don't worry he may grow tired of it.
2006-10-08 03:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ben N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your kid.
Its your duty to love him no matter what gender orientation he is.
Besides, taste improve with age.
2006-10-05 23:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by elymendoza1984 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Leave him happy and gay in his gayness
2006-10-05 23:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by camilo r 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋