hey,can anyone adivse, and help me make an important decision in my life.I am dating with a guy, who went blind at the age of 7...and u know he is nice, he loves me, and i like his character ,his intelligence,,all that concerns him,,he works hard,,i mean he is blind,, but he works and is very creative in his work.so he is asking me to marry him, and i doubt, if i can ,,i eman if it won't be too difficult for me, to live with a blind person.if there is anyone who has such an experience, please..advise,, iwil lappreciate..
2006-10-05 22:25:25 · 23 answers · asked by annababajanyan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So what's the problem, he sounds like a decent man.. he can see things in you.. and you see things in him.. I see great things in your future.
2006-10-05 22:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you dont have a problen dating him.. so why would it be so different? Thats like saying it would be too hard to marry someone with red hair or ugly feet. Its superficial. Of hes such a great guy his blindness should not be an issue. WHen you marry anyone there are things you have to learn about eachother. Living with anyone can be hard and frustrating at times wether they're blind or not. I say go for it!
2006-10-06 05:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by ApRiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have never mention how you feel about this person
I would advise you to leave the guy alone so he can married someone that love him, you don't need to feel sorry for him because he is blind
He sound like a wonderful person,
I have a blind frind he become blind as an adult, he is married
but the wife also love him & she never put his blindness first but his character
2006-10-06 06:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well , I fail to understand what this "modernist" people living in a so called "modern age" think about love and feelings..Ask yourself first if you really love him..I think somewhere in your question you have answered it all saying you dont "think" you can live with such a man....Anyway love is considered sacred and such physical attributes are concerned irrelavant .. but i think personally , you arent in the frame of mind to marry this guy , please i request you , go and talk to him and tell him this isnt going to work instead of keeping him waiting and thinking that you would accept his proposal sooner or later ..
Please take action now - he is going to be hurt anyway so its better you tell him you dont feel the same right now and make sure you tell him you would be there as a friend for him for ever !
Please ACT Now ...... !
2006-10-06 05:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you dating him if you have this prejudice against the challenged? living wih a blind person is no different than living with anyone else (except that you cant move the furniture around without telling them) ... their life needs order because they see how their environment is laid out in their mind and commit it to memory ... everything must be put back in its place so he can find it or avoid falling over it. no other special changes need to be made in your lifestyle. also, dont expect him to notice your new hat/dress/hairdo/purse/shoes when you walk in the door, unless it smells new, he wont know until he touches it. (excellent foreplay, by-the-way), but dont marry him on a trial basis ... its a real commitment ... oh, and you dont have to worry about him gawking at other women (wink)
2006-10-06 05:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him. You don't love him if you have to ask that question. You need to marry someone you love.
"i eman if it won't be too difficult for me, to live with a blind person."
That says it all, right there. You are only thinking about yourself. Break-up with him and move on!
2006-10-06 05:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Tan Zanite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. you love eachother and that is what matters. my question to you is why are you doubting a life with him? you knew he was blind when you started dating, it didn't matter then why should it now? you've already learned some ways to live with a blind person, it really won't change much the rest of you life. stop with your silly fear, everything will be ok. he sounds like a great guy that you are great with.
2006-10-06 06:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me his blindness is a problem for you already. If you need to ask a bunch of people that you don't know, whether or not you should marry a guy that you love, you shouldn't marry him. Oh wait, You didn't even mention loving him.
2006-10-06 05:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father went blind after he and my Mom were wed 26 years. If you really love the person, then I say go for it. If you are only doing it because you feel sorry for then then no because you won't be doing them any favors. My father said that sex after blindness was nice baecause he got to grope more. Mom said it was better because he couldn't see her naked. LOL
2006-10-06 09:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by BONNI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think only you can answer this question.
Tell him you have some apprehension to saying yes because he is blind. Just be honest with him. Marriage has to have trust otherwise why bother. I'm more than sure he has thought about his eye situation.
Whatever happens after that happens.
2006-10-06 06:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by cinattra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you need to ask yourself is if you love him. If the answer is yes then marry him. It shouldn't matter if he blind or not.
2006-10-06 05:28:15 · answer #11 · answered by Sarah B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋