My wife says that I need to grow up however i take it as a insult.?

Question

I have two childrean who are toddlers. My wife says that I need to grow up becasue i like to hang out . I never give my children baths however i do watch them. She tells me that she thinks the friends I am hanging with are no good . She says that she sees a change in me for the worst when i hang out with them. No they do not have children and no they are not married. I metthe guy about 3 months ago. I really enjoy his company. He does not work so he is home most of the time. I go to his house and we watch the game or play video games. My wife says that she does not care she just wants me to balence my time better. My wife and i have had problkems and we do want our relationship to work. She thinks that this friend is keeping me from taking care of responsibilities. She also thinks that the time I sped at his house i could be home helping out sometimes. When i am home I like to just chill. I really do not like chores. . Should she be mad?

Answer 1

Yes!!!! She should be mad. You are a man with a family. They come first over every body including some loser with out a job. Get up of of your a-s-s and start doing what you are suppose to do' Share the responsibility of a home. Stop hanging out with bums and learn to be a husband and father.

Answer 2

You say that you want to work it out with your wife, but all I hear are excuses. Do you work? If so, when do you spend time with your children? You say you watch them but don't help with the other stuff. Guess what, they are your kids, you are suppose to watch them. You know, one day you are going to open up your eyes and they are going to be asking for keys instead of you to play a game.
Maybe you envy this guy because he has no responsibilities. I am wondering how he pays his bills. I, as a female, would not be saddled with a bum. Is that what you want? You want to live like him? Save your wife some trouble then, and leave her now so that she can find someone who will love those children and give them the time they deserve. Those children didn't ask to come into this world, did they?
I can't tell you how often I wish for the days when I didn't have little mouths to feed. But, then I realize that without them, I would be nothing. I wouldn't worry about anything because until them, I didn't care about anything.
Those children will grow into little grown-ups and it is half your responsibility to make sure they don't end up like your friend who sits around in his underwear all day with his worse problem being how he is going to get a beer out of his fridge without getting out of the chair. I have to agree with your wife, grow up!

Answer 3

What your wife say is right. Ok you don’t like chores, neither does your wife or anyone. You don’t expect her to do all the chores. If not hire a maid. Always remember that you’re married and have a family. There’s lots of thing you need to think and it totally not the same as your bachelor day. Work things out with your wife. Spend some time at home and have some times for yourself. Don’t regret when it too late.

Answer 4

In case you don't know it you are married. Stop acting like your single and going home to mommy. Your not acting like your married. Your wife is running the house and raising your children. Your going to friends and chilling at home. Sounds like your still home with your mommy.

I feel sorry for your wife because if after two children and you still act like a single person living at your moms. Your marriage is going down the tubes fast and your are to self center to see it. Your wife wasn't just saying grow and do more. She is telling you to be part of the marriage and do your share or your going to be single again.

You better grow up fast and be a farther, a husband and an a adult.

Answer 5

What do you think for god sake
you have 2 children and yet you are hanging out as if you are in high school
you are beign use by this friend I bet you when you hand out you the one that carry all of the expense (since he is not working)
you like to just chill didn't you just finish shilling with your friend
Boy look at your future look hard because you are looking on a one way street to divorce court than you will not have time to hang out because you will have to work to pay child support

Answer 6

yup she has every right to be mad. No one likes doing chores, however they stil need to get done. You are a grown *** man so theres no reason why you shouldnt be taking care of your responciblilites at home. NO ONE should take priority over your wife and your children. Say goodbye to the video games and your lazy friend for a while. Make sure things are right at home before you beging wasting your time on anything else.

Answer 7

Yes she should be mad and all women will agree with that especially ones like me who have a husband who did the same things that you just said. He wanted to play video games, go drink a little with his buddy and just chill , while i was at home with our newborn baby boy and it DEFINATELY made our relationship go down the tubes really fast . I am now getting a divorce as we speak after 4 years of being together and he now regrets everything that he did and realizes all the neglect that he did to me but it's a little too late so i would really suggest putting your priorities in order hun if you don't wanna lose your family. Good Luck! :)

Answer 8

Yes she should be mad.

You are a mature, married man with family responsibilities, and here you are acting like a teenager with no worries other than when the next game is. Try helping out with the kids!!! Watching them is not enough!! You can hang out with your friend, just not every day, or every weekend. Spend some time with your wife. Remember, she's your wife, NOT your Mother!!! You have to help around the house too!!

Answer 9

yes, she should be mad and rightfully so ... it was not an insult, it was a statement of fact. you are a father now and have a responsibility to share in the care of your kids (that means everything - diapers, feeding, bathing, etc) ... this guy you are hanging out with is going nowhere ... and if you allow it, he will suck up all the energy you should be giving to your family. kids can make a big positive difference in your life if you invest the time in them, they will open your eyes to the world around you in a refreshing and delightful way that is far more interesting than mindless video games ... stop acting like a teenager and be the man.

Answer 10

It isn't your friends holding you back and making you ignore your responsibility, your problem is that you are extremely immature, so any distraction will get you off track. I feel sorry for her, she sounds like a decent woman who made a mistake and married an idiot who will forever act like he's 15. I hate guys who say that they "watch" their kids like they are doing something they should be praised for, rather than doing what comes natural. You really do need to grow up.