i broke up with my ex-fiance after being together for 2 years...we had big family issues(he was so dependet ,he worked for his father and he couldn't move without his permission and...) but he loved me so much..i loved him too but i couldn't bare being controled by his parents and...after 2 months i got engaged with my husband which we married 2 months ago (we dated for 4 months)...he is a very talented ,rich and handsom guy...i've known his family since i was 5...anyway...now i can't stop thinking about my ex- i've got doubt about my marriage..althought i know getting married with my ex was not a bright idea and we had big problems but i had strong feelings for him which i didn't know until now( i broke up with him so easily and didn't think of him until these past weeks after my marriage)...i just don't know what to do...and this is not something that i can talk about it with annnyone!
2006-10-05 22:18:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You made the better choice and not because he's rich and handsome. It's because he's not a mama's boy who can't make a move without his parent's permission. If you'd married your ex you would have a hell of a life, and I don't mean that in a good way.
Any loss is always filled with "what ifs". You think that everything would have been alright if you'd married your former love but it wouldn't. He wouldn't have changed because of you. He'd always be sucking up to his parents, trying to buy their love with his faithfulness and you would have come in a DISTANT third.
Maybe you didn't have any grand emotions when you married your husband but emotions aren't as important as faithfulness, commitment, dedication, and the will to work through the hard times no matter what. What's important now is that you show your husband that you respect and admire him. If you can do that he'll show you all the love you could ever possibly want and eventually you'll wonder what you ever saw in that clueless dweeb you used to date.
Congratulations on your marriage!
2006-10-05 22:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though your former boyfriend loved you very much during your two years courtship, he is susceptible to changes and there your risk due to his lack of independence or sense of security. It is in fact a blessing in disguise for you.
I would say you are a little unfair to your husband. You jumped off from a relationship of 2 years, dated your husband for only 4 months. You can’t simply switch your love overnight. Give your husband the benefit of time and a chance for a blissful marriage, which is made easier as you have known his family since the age of 5.
Don’t harp on your past anymore. Work on the present and strive for happiness in the future, like you often hear, move on. Good Luck!
2006-10-06 00:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that u are big and u should know what u want,firstly marriage is for better for worse and i quess once ure in is for good.but to my own understanding real love is what really matters,but you should learn how to love your husband cos your in already and i dont think coming out from the marriage will be of any help to you cos your ex might not take you back again.so good luck girl just try and love your hussy ok?I wish u all i wish my self in my own marriage.
2006-10-05 22:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are seriously lacking intimacy with your husband. spice it up a bit. get him to open up some more...try to avoid kids for now...and overall...be honest with him.
he will appreciate your drama and you might even get to know him and develop that sense of deep trust anyone who is considering marriage should have BEFORE PROPOSING.
Its not too late for you to fall in love with your husband.
But its going to take a massive exertion of honesty on your part.
the capacity to let go...and really trust him...with YOU!
otherwise he will even subconsciously detect it and your marriage will be off on the wrong foot at best for the first few years. Open up, I can tell you have a lot of anxious energy. and decent perceptive depth of character enough to acknowledge your own feelings and faults. EXCELLENT! That can be made into tears of joy and warmth rather than biting your lip and sticking your head in the sand. Be 'the woman' you really are and get to it. Let yourself go. Find your trust. Because hell, you are already married now!
2006-10-05 22:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by jorluke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you married him under false pretenses, digging for gold instead of love, a relationship with a foundation built on dishonesty is shaky. be honest with yourself and with your husband. stop living a lie
2006-10-05 23:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a reson you got rid of your ex . love the man your in love with now.
2006-10-05 22:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by pmcl7725 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with...
Remember that song...
2006-10-05 22:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋