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My wife and I have een debateing. I work , and my wife is in school. When I get off I am tired. She has school and th ekids. My wife feels like a marriage is 100 percent. She says that it does not mateer we both have responsibilities. Should a man who works eight hours a day have to come home and do something to help out . Should both the man and the woman share responsibilities like the dishes and the cleaning of the kitchen. Please share your opinions. My wife thinks that I am selfish.

I My wife said that I should sometimes ask her how her day went. I said to her what could possibly have happend that was interesting between 3-7. Was I wrong? I have a 2 year old and a 8 month old. i never giv them baths. Is that wrong? My wife ask me to help clean up the kitchen before company came over. I told her I would do it but put it off. She was really mad when her friend came over and i was outside conversating with a neighbor. I ended up not doing it at all

Answer 1

i don't agree with u at all but i have a feeling you didnt help her b4. give her a break her and there, u had a long vacation and need to start helping out.poor women waited to long to train u....anyone knows u have to start early. my hubby is a state trooper n works 12 hr days and still comes home and will do anything for me. i guess good men really are hard to find.

Answer 2

I agree with your wife.
She goes to school, raises the kids, cleans the house, cooks your meals, does your laundry, and everything else. She has more than one full time "job" here, even if she isn't getting paid to do any of it.
You, on the other hand, are getting paid for your ONE job. It wouldn't hurt you to help her out more. Think about all the chores that you would have to do if you lived alone, then think about how little she is asking of you. They are your kids too, it's your house too, you help eat the meals, make the mess, dirty the dishes, so it's only fair that you pitch in to help. She has so many things to do each day that it isn't right that you want her to be "supermom" and do it all herself.
I am a stay at home mom, and I do most of the work around the house. But that doesn't mean my husband doesn't help. It's not every day, but he does do it. And he always helps with the kids.
Being a father is more than a sperm doner who happens to live there. It's responsibility too. You can't expect to build a good relationship with your children if all you want to do is be the play toy when you feel like it. You have to change them, feed them, bathe them, dress them, etc... It builds trust, and they learn that they can depend on you. If you never do anything while they are young, they won't come to you with problems when they are older. They will always want their mother, and you will be left out in the cold. You only get one chance with your children, and the strongest and most lasting impressions are bulit when they are young. In a few years, they will be off at school and playing with friends. They won't want to have anything to do with their parents, who have become boring in comparrison to their friends. Enjoy this age while it lasts, and while your children still want your attention.
If you still think that you are right, and she should be carrying you through life, then maybe you should look into counseling. Marriage is a partnership, it takes work on both sides. If you want your relationship to be a strong lasting one, you need to be more considerate of your wife. If she asks you to do something, and it's a reasonable request like doing the dishes or bathing your children, then you need to do it.
At the very least, you should talk to her about how you feel. Draw up a chore list so that you know what she expects of you. She can give you one or two things a day to do, and neither one of you will be overworked the way she is now.

Answer 3

You are selfish. You should help with the house work and the kids. If you only work eight hours a day and your wife works from the time she gets up until she goes to bed who should be more tired. HER. She is taking care of a 2 year old and a 8 month old that is a job in itself and it's alot more than just 8 hours, plus schooling. She is crazy to put up with that. Let me ask you this how would you like it if she went to work for 8 hours and came home and did nothing to help you, and you had to do all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, giving baths, taking care of the kids, and everything else she does in a day. My sister told me a couple of weeks ago she read an article about stay at home moms, and the years wages ( if you add up everything we do in a day 24/7) our yearly income would be over $140,000.00. Plus she goes to school, you should be ashamed of yourself. And by all means you should ask her how her day was.

Answer 4

YES!!! You are very wrong. Children are a huge responsibility and truth be told she probably works harder than you. Being a working man I can understand that you tired after working 8hrs.(10 in my case), but the fact that it took the both of you to make the children that the two of you are suppose to be raising should let you know that you are required to do your part no matter how tired you are. As far as asking her about her day and talking, if you did that in the beginning you should keep it going because if you didn't she will never let it go. Don't take a backseat to your children they will be grown before you know it. And clean up some damn time that's just nasty and this in not 1951 anymore and she is not you mother.

Answer 5

It's nice being able to come home after work and not having responsibilities. It's just not very realistic or fair to her. She's got 4 hours of school but probably should be studying about the same amount of hours as well. That equals out to an 8 hour day for her. On top of that she's sposed to take care of the kids and the house. She has more responsibilities than you are acknowledging. At least help out with the kids.

Answer 6

Marriage responsibilities should be 50%/50 %. You need to take more interest in your wife's work. And, yes you should help wash and or bath your children, this helps build stronger relationships with your children and your self. Men should understand that women work just as hard if not harder than men today. Quite your sniveling about doing chores when you both get home from work, if you jump in and help then the work gets done faster and then the both of you have more time to spent loving and enjoying each other. Grow up and do your part....Good Luck..

Answer 7

Its amazing how unbeleivably lazy u are, you dont show (therefore dont have) any interest in your family especially your wife and you openly tell them that, by saying dumb **** stuff like "what happened that was so interesting between 3-7" and by not helping her with YOUR kids. Your wife is on the track to leaving you, and if and when she does I hope you realise thats its all your fault. For your sake you need to learn from the answers your given to this question and apply it immediately.

Stop using your job as an excuse to sit on your ****, my hub works 10 hours a day for 6 days straight and he creates time (all by himself by the way) to ask me how my day was and loves talking and hanging out with me. He also helps me around the house all the time. We do have our problems but next to you hes in the spotlight, I hope your wife finds the same cos she deserves that n more whether it b from you or someone else; we'll just have to see.

Answer 8

If a man treated your mother or sister the way you treat your wife how would you feel, or if you have a daughter how would you feel if her husband didnt help her or do anything and you had to watch her suffer by dealing with life on her own, if something happened to your wife just think how lonely your life would be, then you would have to take care of the kids and do dishes and give baths, clean house, change nasty shitty diapers, jeez put yourself in her shoes, you should be worshiping the ground she walks on she has given you two beautiful kids, and takes care of them and you

Answer 9

Yeah if you want your marriage to work you should really help , I am going through a divorce as we speak and my husband sounds alot like you and that's not a good sign. A housewife/mom works just as hard... b/c it's 24/7 not just 8 hours hun . Just do the little things to help out even if it's just folding up some laundry or dressing your kids for bedtime and just try your hardest to do it without her having to ask you because then it really lets her know that you're wanting to help and you're not even having to cook a whole meal or anything, just little things add up :) , good luck ! :)

Answer 10

Your tired? Well how do you think your wife feels.. Why don't you try living in her shoes for a day. You work 8 hours? Oh the woos. Why you figure up how many hours she works. I'm sure you will see it's more than 8 hours. Get off your lazy *** and HELP HER!!!!!!