I have just finished giving birth to my son who is just 1 month and 3 weeks old. I do not know if its my "mother figure" or my current appareance that is making my husbby lies to me about his female co-workers.
My husband and I had a huge fight about this girl named Winnie (who interned at his workplace) 2 weeks before I went into labor. He called her a lot (although each phone call only lasted a few minutes) and he emailed her saying stuff about his likings and he wishes they can keep in touch. He got mad at me for looking through his email account and phone. I only did it is because he was acting a little weird.
Until now, he still talks to Winnie. He said she was hired for the weekened (my hubby works on weekend too) and then got fired recently. Now, my hubby is talking to another girl named Sara who is working on the weekend too.
Tonight, I missed my hubby call. When I got a chance to call him back, it went straight to voice mail. I called him 4 times. more detail coming
2006-10-05 22:00:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They all went to voicemail. I automatically suspect he is talking on the phone with someone else and he is ignoring my calls.
I heard someone talking infront of my house so I went over to the window and looked downstair and saw my hubby is talking on the phone with someone. I didnt know why he's not coming in and continue talking on the phone instead.
When he finally came in to the house after being on the phone for a LONG LONG time, I asked why didnt he pick up my calls cause I needed to ask him if he wants dinner I was going to order out. He said "oh, I didnt get your calls. So many people called me, it was Sara, Mark, then my dad." I believed him but I still wasnt sure. So I looked at his phone recieved call list, no one called him except me and his dad which he didnt pick up. But on the dialled list, he called Sara and they were on the phone for 54 minutes. I doubt they were talking about work related subject. I think my hubby likes her eventho he told me she has a bf.
2006-10-05 22:01:29 · update #1
My hubby told me Sara is our age (early 20s), asian like us, but her bf is indian and he is 30 something. As long as she is not married, it still means her option is still open. Is it right for my hubby to talk to another like that and lies to me about it? Or am I thinking too much? Can guy and girl become friends?
2006-10-05 22:01:46 · update #2
my hubby also have crazy addition on internet porn!! I think he mastubate everynight after me and my baby went to sleep. Unfortunately, he is doing it in the same room where we sleep.
2006-10-05 22:02:06 · update #3
am i thinking too much or not trusting my hubby enough? is he being too stress over our new life? he works and attend college full time,
2006-10-05 22:03:17 · update #4
Based on what you have said I think your hubby is cheating on you. Last thing you need right now isn't it. Sorry but that's how it looks.
2006-10-05 22:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying to you is never a good sign .... dont get into a fight about it, but there is a problem here and your trust has been broken. you do need to get this issue out in the open and discuss whats going on. he may be afraid of confrontation and thinks a little white lie is ok.
yes, men and women could be friends, however, it does not look good if she is talking to him about her bf problems, he may be trying to help her out, but she should be talking to her bf.
i suggest you involve him in helping you more with the baby while you work on getting your sexy shape back... do the exercises the OB/GYN gave you and you will be back in shape in as little as 90 days. he may be feeling ignored now that the baby is here. give him some better attention ... you are BOTH raising the baby, not just you
Parenting is a 2 person job ... dont put the baby first, but instead, BOTH of you attend to the baby ... a shared responsibility brings you together
2006-10-05 22:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he thought of her as just a friend than he should have been comfortable talking to her in front of you (not outside) and at the very least willing to tell you he talked to her. Then he lied to you about it, he's knows he's doing something wrong else he wouldn't be trying to hide it.
2006-10-05 22:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt trust your hubby as far as i could throw him.. from what you are saying... he is being a selfish #### and not thinking about you, and his new baby! you need to talk to him, and confront what he is doing. You are a new mum, hormones all over the place, and you need his support, not for him to be making you suspicious..
Can you talk to a friend/counsellor about this...
hey good luck, but confronting feelings is the only way ahead..
2006-10-05 22:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by tiny_lou1965 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...im sorry, but if im in your position ill be totally messed up...
i don't think i can live my life with this kind of man knowing that it will be full of lies, infidelity and ocean of tears...
try to talk to him and you'll feel it if he has something to hide....if he has problems let him know you care....if all else fails, time to call it a day and leave him and take your child with you..be strong!
2006-10-05 22:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in serious denial, girl. I don't know how old you are or how long you two have been togther, but he is cheating big time!!!!! You arein for a lot of hurting!
2006-10-05 22:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by gigi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take how it is , who really know what is behind- only your husband. If he has too much time give him something to take care of the child because you got really sick of ..............
2006-10-05 22:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's tired of you. And you'll need to give him lot of sex at nights, to get some attention for awhile.
Or you can just kick his nutts and tell him that you don't like all that sh*t he does with other women.
2006-10-05 22:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband is being very sneaky, I don't blame you for worrying.
2006-10-05 22:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be cheating but he may not , he might be streessed and talking to a friendly ear
2006-10-05 23:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋