I stay in this town for the money. I am tired of the people and pretty much don't make any friends cause i don't want to get to know any more people from here. I don't want that drama in my life. It never works out for me here anymore and I am waiting till i move to reconnect with people. I am sad that people here constantly disappoint me and I know it isn't gonna be a whole lot different in another place I just can't stand this place anymore. I leave in 10 months. I still have 2 longstanding friends here that i see everyday and i have a blast with. but i have no interest in even talking to other people 'cause they are so shallow and empty. I am content waiting till i move in my current situation. I am not afraid of anything at all i mean seriously. I just don't care to meet anyone else from this town. Am I in trouble should i do anything besides focus on paying off my bills so i can leave and go back to school with money in my pocket????
2006-10-05 21:46:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds like you are on the right track to adult-hood. If you know that there are elements around you that you don't find attractive, I think you are right to stay away from them. Make that money! Pay those bills! Save it up so you can do what you really want to do in the future!! God(if you believe) gives us opportunities and stepping stones. Sounds like He gave you maybe what you prayed for? The friends that you've kept will hold you until you move on. Stay focused. It's only 10 months. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Have faith and believe in your self. Take advantage of that money, because it won't last if you hang around a bunch of shallow losers. You have a good plan, keep it up!
Good luck and don't worry. Peer pressure can be over come with diligence and strength. It sounds like you have both.
See your self in 10 months where you want to be and make it your goal. The work and the isolation will make it worth it!
(You still have your good friends, and those are the ones you want to go to Hawaii with!!!)
Stay strong!! Be confident!! Command your life Your Way!!!
Make your future your own and it will happen.
2006-10-05 22:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by meowzer mix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd call that antisocial. Whether that's a problem or not is up to you. Some people just don't make many friends. I don't. I talk to people, I'm not rude. But most of the time it takes a lot to even remember people's names. I can't honestly say I have even two real longstanding friends near where I live. Most of my friends, as I would use the term, are on the Internet, although a couple of those are people I used to know live. We only got back in touch after a very long break (like 20 years) once I started using the Internet.
Maybe your just one of those people who places great value on the word "friend," and mostly has acquaintances it is no hardship to leave behind. I have exactly one person who is close enough to me right now to really call friend, and I call her my surrogate daughter; she calls me her Mama.
2006-10-06 04:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think it is the people in the town that got you down. You started off your description with 'I stay in this town for the money'. and you end 'focus on paying off my bills'. Going out and meeting people cost money which goes against your game plan 'pay off the bills'. So you are stuck there for 10 months, try making the best of it. You can change your focus just be creating a new, empowering question like,
'What can I do today that would make me feel incredible and that does not cost a lot of money?'
I believe a question is like a command, changes what the mind focuses on.
2006-10-06 05:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by bs_batman_88 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think what you describe is necessary being antisocial, and I think its fine to look forward to moving on. Have you considered the possibility that because you know you will be moving on, you don't want to make friends in the anticipation of having to lose them again? In any case, 10 months is a long time to be miserable. I would suggest finding a way to occupy your time that helps you feel good about yourself and what you're doing. Basically, since you have another 10 months to go, make the best of it - you might be surprised at what opportunity knocks on your door if you give it a go. Good luck!
2006-10-06 05:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand fully how you feel, I live in Switzerland since 1983. It is a great country etc. but...u got it in a nutshell. We are even being mobbed here. It is called jealousy. I originate from Liverpool UK and came over here and got married to my first wife. Success after success, then came the jealousy, car totally scratched multiple times...etc. etc. etc. But to get back to your question: No you are not being antisocial, you are being selective because you have experiences/ setbacks with these people. So, why run away. If YOU want to live there, do not let them drive you away! It depends how much you want to stay there.
In our situation, I opted to stay and fight and I can tell you it is hard work. You have to decide if it is worth it for you!
Cheers and good luck!
2006-10-06 04:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Gary H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to hang out with people you don't like.
you gotta listen to your inner voice, without judging it.
if you don't like these people, you've got your good reasons to. So, just wait till you'll move, and in the meantime find some one you like. if you don't have patience.
everything happens for a reason.
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2006-10-06 06:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by What U see is what U get 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I am doing the same. Except I am married in this city & with my husband who has a successful & established business and I, myself have a gr8 job that I love...but I can't stand this city (except for its weather :))....So all the best & stick to your guns...
2006-10-06 05:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are wrong.you must change yourself.so you can stay in this town and earn money and enjoy of being there.
don't forget one of the best features for successfull persons is
that they can adjust themselves with the envirement.
try!you can!!
2006-10-06 05:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by hrb_ a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant see you have a problem you are being selective in who you choose to mix with and spend time with...if you are happy that's fine..good luck for the future.
2006-10-06 04:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by geordie.lady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do what you want to. pay your bills and dont worry about oter people but those whom you care for and just be happy and get your life straightend out.
2006-10-06 08:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by snow19752006mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋