Am i too young to get married?

Question

I've been with the guy 2 years. We have lived together for a year and a half. He wants to get married, but i am only seventeen.My sister got married at 17 and she is still happy. Do you think i'm too young to be married. Some people say no but some say to wait until i'm older. I really love him. We are a perfect couple. I know i want to spend my life with him but i dont know if i should make such a big commitment yet. What do you think? Why do you think that?

Answer 1

You are too young! Your sister may still be happy now, but that can always change. And who let you live with a guy when you were still fifteen? How old is this guy? You need to give yourself a chance to become an adult before you make adult decisions.

Answer 2

you know the answer don't you ! when you get married it's all fun a games do you both have jobs stop and write down just what it's going to cost to rent . then lights water garbage heat add it up and see if you have enough left over to buy clothes shoes food doctors dentist you get the picture . also car insurance for under age 25 cost a lot then whoops along comes a baby and your life will change for the next 30 yrs cause they will always need something .then when he wants to buy something big car -stereo etc. then the fight will start because you will feel trapped and no where to go . and it could end in a divorce at least wait till you are 19 or 20 get some maturity under your belt finish school to get a good job these days you need a diploma or you can work at mc donalds with no way to advance because you don't have a diploma if it's true love he will wait . good luck

Answer 3

In this day and time it's too early . You need to get your education before considering marriage for several reasons.
1-It's harder to get an education once kids start ariiving, and marriage settles in.
2- you cannot make a living without a college education.
3- It's 3 times as har don a female to get a decent job even with a College education as it is a male. Much harder without an education.
4-Although you may be happy as your sister is, the likely hood of a divorce later on in life rises each year. Very few people will live their entire lives without a divorce, seperation, or death in the family.
5- In the event you do lose your husband for some reason the likelyhood of you becoming the primary bread winner for your family is much higher, and without a college eduation it is hard to accomplish.
6-You as well as your husband and future children will reap the benefits of a college education and career. YOU will someday sit down and remember asking this question and be thankful that you made the decision you did.
I married my high school sweetheart who was17 and I regret her not getting her college education because she woud have made such a difference in her personal life. I can now see wher she deserved an education, and could have gone so far in the sciences , research, bilology and things we both ar so interested in.
Best of luck:):)

Answer 4

To be perfectly honest, probably.

If you're involved in a sexually active, monogomous relationship, and have no moral qualms about that (or at least, not enough qualms to stop the behaviour)... then does it really matter if you get married now, or wait a couple years to get yourself settled into adult life?

Most people at 17 change dramatically by the time they're 24/25ish... that said, divorces are easily obtained if you get married and discover it was a disaster. Just don't be shy if that happens. If you have serious qualms about divorce, then definitely take a few more years before jumping in.

Some people at 17 are more than mature enough to enterinto a relationship like that.... a majority aren't. If you'd asked me at the time, I would have insisted I was one of the few, but looking back I can't believe how young I was... and I'm only 24 now! In a couple years... I bet I'll be looking back at now and thinking the same thing.

Man... right now you can't even have a glass of wine at your own wedding.

Answer 5

my opinion is to wait. what is the rush? you are 17, about to get out of HS and go to college and get a degree. he has to understand that your education comes at the top of list of your priorities and if he does not then he obviously cannot respect your decision. my best bet is to have him give you a promise ring and later propose to you while you both are getting your degrees. once engaged, wait until you get you BA or BS in your hand so that you can make your own money and a living in case it does not work-worst case scenario-and then get married. im 22 and im not married and my bf is not going to pop the question any time soon for me but for you it can be different. look, i think that like other people have told you, getting married at 17 is too young and they are right. if you get married and go to the same university and lets say work, then you will have marriage life to take care of on the top of your school work and i would not recommend that at all! and just because it worked out for your sister does not mean that it will work out for you too-remember that divorce rates are really high-and you should have your own income as well! conclusion: get a degree and then marry him!

Answer 6

I am 21 and i would love to be in your shoes!!!! Iv been with my partner for almost a yr and a half but we don't yet live together and i want to get married. I know we are meant to be together and so does he, we both want to get married but don't have the money. On the other hand my sister is over 30 she's been with her guy for 5yrs but still isn't ready! and my brother took 7yrs to get engaged and 3more yrs to get married!! What do you want? are you engaged? if not then that comes first then marriage so it isn't as soon as you think. Your basically married already- you live together, you love each other, you spend every minute with each other that you can, and you want to get married. Why wait- for what?? If it's what you want then do it, if it's not then hold off. What does your heart say??

Answer 7

Don't do it. Marriage is not for the young. You don't even really know what the rest of your life is. The next 5 to 8 years you and he are going to change more than you could ever dream. You also would be losing the most fun and learning time of your life.

You having only lived about 20% of your live. You still have 80% to live.

Answer 8

When it comes right down to it, only you can tell. Sometimes, there's just no right time. Its either too soon or too late.
Bear in mind however that, marriage entails a lot of responsibilities and it takes a lot of maturity to make it work.
It's not just based on mutual love.
Moreover, there is no clear cut formula on a happy and successful marriage but its really a big step so you need to seriously consider the consequences. Maybe there are other things you might wanna do with your life before you tie it with someone else's.
Just think about it before you decide to go "all in".
Good luck.

Answer 9

You are way too young! You need to live life first and see what its all about, you dont need marriage gettin in the way at your age because the next thing will be he wants children and then your life is over till there 18! Live life first then decide if you still wanna marry this guy. Hope you ,isten to my advice!

Answer 10

Actually 17 seems quite early to get married (you're still under of age!) but it depends on what you want to achieve from life...are you going to pursue further education at a university level for example? Have you got a job? are you economically independent? How old is he? You should consider all these factors before...