If you had an affair or slept with someone else..would you tell your other half the truth & be ready to face the consequences OR bring it to your grave?
2006-10-05 21:18:10 · 23 answers · asked by ddko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends entirely on your spouse and your relationship. Can you truly reveal your hearts to each other, and are you both secure and mature enough to not get totally freaked out about it? Why would you tell? To strengthen the marriage with total honesty, or so you could confess and be purged of guilt? In other words, would telling just be one more selfish act on your part?
In the long run... so what. Just love your mate with your full heart and everything will work out
2006-10-05 21:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it to the grave and repent of the mistake, don't repeat it. I think it's human nature to remember the bad things than the good, worst if the partner is the unforgiving type, he/she will keep bringing back the past to attack the spouse once something unpleasant crops up in their relationship. Hiding a mistake is not right, but after confessing to attract problems is worst. If you have a religious belief, confess it to your God and move on from there.
2006-10-06 00:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that question is kinda loaded. First if you loved your spouse and you wanted to work it out then you should tell. If you didn't love your spouse then you should still tell and then continue your relationship with the other person. Don't continue to lie a lie, if you don't want to be in a marriage or if you want to see other people let it be known and cut it lose. Obviously there is something missing in your relationship if you had to venture out to another, find out what that is and resolve the issue or move on. Real men face consequences they don't hide.
2006-10-05 21:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Teena R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the consequences of both, there is a price to pay either way. You know your wife and what the consequences would be if you told her. However, I would lean towards being honest, otherwise you cheat on her EVERY time you speak to her, touch her, sleep with her, etc. because she does not know the truth about you. Also, things have a way of coming out, and then it will be much much worse.
2006-10-06 00:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheat during marriage, you tell and face the consequences of your actions. If your partner cheated on you, would you want them to tell you ... or take it to the grave? What if a child's involved? I mean, come on, word of advice....DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU.
It works every time. Treat others as you would like to be treated, and that pretty much solves a lot of the problems on this board and in life.
2006-10-05 21:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... normally i will tell my partner first before i slept with other woman. But even if i slept with others without telling them, I won't feel guilty or fear... Coz I felt that if u did something wrong to your partner, you have to bear the consequences if she find out... If u fear of it, den dun take the risk
2006-10-05 22:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, you need to consider why you did this - this is your slip up and your partner does not need your guilt.However if you desperately love this other person and want to leave your other half - you could tell. However, theres nicer ways of finishing a relationship. I think you really need to Analise why you did it - resolve this first in your own head - if it was stupidity shut up and promise yourself never to stray again - dont dump your rubbish on your partner. Then forgive yourself we are all human!
2006-10-05 21:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both scenarios will be hard to live with, should that happen, its better to face the consequences than to let it bug u for life. The longer you drag, the more things complicate.
2006-10-05 21:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of i'd bypass alongside with it. i'd be a touch freaked out about the total component, to be honest. yet inspite of this, i have only conventional like one man or woman who became into that life type and that i did not recognize them ok, so i'm distinctly ignorant to the go-dressing scene. To me it style of sounds like go-dressers would pretty a lot must have some form of gay inclinations and that is definitely no longer some thing i opt for to benefit about someone i have self belief to be my heterosexual mate...
2016-11-26 20:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by llorens 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough one to answer honestly. I have never cheated but I really don't know if I would be able to bring myself to tell him if I had. It's a sin, that I do know and if I took it to my grave, I would surely have to answer to God about it. That is a scarier thought.
2006-10-05 21:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by allheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋