I was with this girl for about 6 months and I loved her. Problem was she was a convicted felon. At the time when we were just dating, I didnt think much of her past. I was ready to have her move in and start our life then I started thinking of the concequences of us being together. My job is a police officer in the military which I was told by my senior leadership that I would never get any farther in the military nor would I ever become a civilian police officer if I decided to stay with her. Obviously I was thinking long term/marrige and the complications we would have ect. I ended up deciding that I couldnt jeopardize my career or future so I let her go as easily as possible. Of course she didnt understand, thought I was selfish and hated me. I'm over her now, its been about a year but I still think about it now and then and wonder if what I did was right or like she said...selfish.
2006-10-05 21:18:02 · 10 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You were right. Could have screwed up your whole life.
You only knew/dated her for a short time. You didn't get to see her bad side yet, as everyone's on their best behavior for the first year or so in a relationship. Don't go on the guilt trip. Find someone who can help you, not destroy you.
2006-10-05 21:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what was right for your carrier. Sometimes the road breaks off and there are choices that have to be made. Sometimes those choices suck. I hate being away from my kids. I feel like in some stupid way I'm screwing them up by not being at home 24-7, but I am in nursing school.
I know that someday everything will be great for everyone.
You made the right decision to go ahead with your carrier.
You didn't make those decisions in the past that were going to harm your future why should you pay for others.
That person you broke away from my be super cool but with the military and police force your not only you, but also your family. You can be the best person ever but have that one family member that houses the meth lab and you will never hear the end of it lol.
2006-10-06 04:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you just guilty of what had happened to your relationship? or the reason is that you still love her? Well, its only "YOU" that can answer those questions. I can say that if you really love a person, you will sacrifice everything for the sake of your love to her no matter what happens. You will not consider things that wil affect you coz you love her and also you will face the hindrances that you two can encounter. But what you did is let her go. You can't blame her for accusing you "selfish" coz you hurt her. If you still have feelings for her right now, i suggest you to think things over and talk to her if you still want her back. Good luck!
2006-10-06 04:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by HisAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you were selfish and I think you are still selfish. She did something wrong but she has paid her time. Shes all level now. What more do you want from her? Your so called promotion will be jeopardised if you marry a ex convict? Wake up pls, its your performance and maturity that gets you promotions.
2006-10-06 04:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by mr_musicproducer 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get on with your life and find new love. Don let guilt hold you back. You have the right to make your decision. Once you made it don look back.
2006-10-06 04:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really hard to say....but honestly....if your heaert is tellin you that it was a mistake then it prolly was....those other ppl dont know how you 2 were...or they didnt know her like you did....im sry you had to let her go...its really sad.....but pl make mistakes and sometimes there hard ones we have to live with......but in the future dont let other ppl tell you what to do..you need to follow you rheart.that will lead you to true happiness with anything no matter what
2006-10-06 04:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be judged for your spouses past.
It's Bull**** that has been told to you.
Youve already spent half a year of your life w/ her.
As long as you love her and she loves you , it's all good.
2006-10-06 04:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wat you did was quite selfish and foolish
and i dun blame her for hating you
you love her and she loved you
wats more to say
people change and make sacrifices for those they love
so wat if she is an ex-convict
people can change because of love
marriage is forever your job isn't
and now you have your job
but you lost so much more
and you will regret letting her go
2006-10-06 04:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by x040493t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u did what was right for you...if she has a problem with that its her problem and if u think about her maybe its because we all dwell on the what ifs
2006-10-06 04:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did right...
2006-10-06 04:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋