My boss is a really nice person and I respect him. I liked him as a boss and just a good person with good moral principles. He is married and has 2 kids. But a week ago he said that he was not indifferent to me, that he loved me so much and couldn't help it. It was a great shock for me. He didn't ask me to be with him or there was no sexual harassment. He said that he just wanted me to know about his feelings. I, of course, said that this is all wrong and that he shouldn't have told me about his feelings and he apologised for what he did. The thing is that he is my direct boss and I see him every day at the workplace and i feel really uncomfortable. And now I started seeing in him a man, not only a boss. It's like I am getting attracted to him. I am really confused. What is best for me to do now?
2006-10-05 21:14:22 · 17 answers · asked by lugil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What he did is considered sexual harassment...And dont date the boss, you'll be sorry....
2006-10-05 21:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, it's wrong. One, he is your boss. Two, he is married with kids. You need to try to get transferred to a different department or find a different job if you can't stop thinking about him like that. And, BTW, him as your boss even telling you that he was "not indifferent to you" and that he loved you is sexual harassment! It is still considered a sexual advancement towards a subordinate.
2006-10-05 21:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First remember that he has a wife and kids so you dont want to be a homewrecker, second remember that he has control over you at work and if you were to pursue a relationship with him and then decide that u wanted out you will lose your job. There is tooooooo many bad outcomes out of this.
You shouldnt want to be with anybody that will cheat on theyre wife anyways, leave him alone and do what you go to work to do Work and not be the bosses mistress cause you will never be that special to a married man anyways.
Thou Shall not commit adultery!!!!
2006-10-05 21:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take his wife out for dinner, take her dancing, start acting like a husband. He's your boss and you need to be direct with him. You two spend a lot of time together working, and we want what we can't have.
Tell him to get back into reality. If you quit and he hires another girl in your replacement, who's to say he's nothing more than trying to get in your pants, and has feelings for the next girl too.
Don't be flattered, be disgusted. He's male, can't keep his boys in his pants. Lie to him and tell him you met someone. See if you can get a raise out of him though. You're there to make money, not break up marriages. Ask for a raise or you'll quit.
2006-10-05 21:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might puke considering that I'm a man and my boss is a man in his overdue 50s. However, if the buyer provider supervisor within the workplace( she's no longer my boss; I paintings within the warehouse) got here directly to me whether or not or no longer she's my boss, I might be glad considering that she's a doll! I've most effective had one gorgeous feminine boss in my paintings historical past.
2016-08-29 07:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, never, never, never build a private relationship with your boss or your co-worker. you will end up unemployed.
second never love a married man or you will end up a divorce static in case of marrying him or at least dumped
third: are you that kind of woman who distroys a whole family to win a man
be a respectable woman and avoid him. till him directly that you have a boyfriend and you love him.
be rational Don't wina battle and lose the war
2006-10-05 21:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by adorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you resign & look for another job? in the first place he's your boss who is married & has 2 kids.
don't make your self to be the reason for him to end his good relationship w/ his family & kids.
if you guys will be together, he might do the same thing to you also.
he might get attracted to one of his staff & tell that person what he really feels for her. believe in carma my dear.
it could happen to you. dont get offended w/ my opinion its just that its hard to get out when you're already hooked in that kind of situation.
2006-10-05 21:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by rea del rosario 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to explore your own feelings - Is it flattery or are you really becoming atracted to him?
get to know him a little better, ask about his life. It may be that the marriage has been dead for a long time - in which case, dont feel so guilty about it.
tell him his confession caught you off guard, thats why you reacted as you did. from there, you can build a friendship or a relationship if you want
LOVE CAN COME AT THE MOST UNCONVENIENT TIME, FROM THE MOST UNEXPECYED PLACES but that doesnt make it wrong, but you need to understand more about his situation before you can judge that for yourself
2006-10-05 21:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by miz Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cut it off now!......if you start dating him and things don't work out there is going to be big problems later, your job could be at risk. It's not good to play where you eat if you get my drift. And he is married, there are plenty of single men in the world, you should find one of those. It's not worth the risk.
2006-10-05 21:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by Teena R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't disturb some one's family. Tell him that he is on the wrong way. By the way, first time when he met his wife the mother of his children, he was showing the same thing.
Dear sister, Be kind enough to think positively about his wife and avoid this person.
2006-10-05 21:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋