We're advised 'no sex be4 ariage' I plan to marry at 30, how can I survive til then without even masturbating?

Answer 1

To be very honest, I dont think you can! You should do what you think and not what other people advise you to do...you are your own person!

Answer 2

Not having sex until your 30 is rediculous, your missing out on probably the most fun time in your life, what a waste.

You only have this one opportunity to live your life, the chances of you finding a girl at 30 who is also a virgin is very small and you can't choose who you fall in love with to a large extent.

Masturbation helps you find out about your own body and how it works, how you feel, sex is difficult enough first time round and without this extra information you are going to have a very dissapointing first time.

I can only say this to you, imagine i said to you that you were not allowed out of your house until you were 30 years old, you can't feel the sun on your face, breathe fresh air, experience the countryside or seeing the Sea.
To me, waiting until your 30 to have sex would be like this, just missing out on so so much and gaining virtually nothing.

Of course, you should wait until your ready and find the right person, but the wait 30 years just because it's a nice round number is crazy.

Who says you'll meet someone then or maybe she wont wait and you lose th love of your life to someone else?

Are you going to go through your whole life missing out?

Answer 3

All my cousins had intercourse until now marriage and that they are nonetheless mutually. So basically i think of intercourse until now marriage is reliable simply by fact the third clarification for divorce is sexual compatibility. maximum human beings I quite have seen who're mutually and stay mutually have 3 issues in hardship-unfastened faith, a minimum of between the human beings have the two dad and mom mutually and that they've there very own area like they're aloud to bypass out with there buddies.

Answer 4

Deary...it is the electronic age...
Sex in the City....Charlotte and the Rabbit..
Who said that masturbating was wrong? I understand the no sex b4 marriage thing(don't agree, but understand), but not the other????? Whom ever advised you on this ruled probably did it themselves!!! You know, do as I say, not as I do..
Any how, you are just going to have to make a decision that you feel ok about and can live with. It is a natural thing..not dirty.

Answer 5

Masturbate and have sex with men! i know that the school; systems are all on this abstains kick, but at the end of the day you need to know what is out there you don't want to marry some girl that cries when you do her or some **** like that! so do what you want to do as longs as you feel comfortable

Answer 6

Hi. I am not a guy, and not an authority on this issue. However, I know many guys who have maintained their virginity into their thirties. Masturbating is a bit trickier. Many virgins do struggle with that. It can be conquered with only occasional slip ups but honestly, only with amazing will power and spiritual and social support. The guys I know who have masturbation in check also have accountability partners... so they talk to them about their struggles and give advice on what they do to keep their lusts in check.

They keep their minds thinking about pure and holy things... they are Christians and think about helping others and about the promises that God shares in the Bible. If they begin having fantasies, they try to change their sexual thoughts towards the girl and begin to think about her life and how they can pray for her... she isn't an object but a person.

Also, pray for wet dreams. That is a natural way the body releases the built up semen.

There are web sites that might offer help to you:
http://www.pureintimacy.org/gr/intimacy/understanding/a0000122.cfm
http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/Sermons/ByDate/1981/280_Sex_and_the_Single_Person/
http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/Sermons/ByDate/2002/108_This_is_the_Will_of_God_for_You_That_You_Abstain_from_Sexual_Immorality/

I really don't think a man can avoid masturbation without supernatural help that comes from knowing God in a deep real relationship. He can give you strength to fight this. :) Just run from the lust and fill your mind up with words from the Bible.

Answer 7

My wife has already answered this question!

So I won't repeat the pattern but I will offer my personnal opinion:

This is proof that organised religions are cults and would outlaw sex and masturbation if they could. They make us feel guilty and "soiled" (sinners), keeping us in check though fear and their ages-old art of mass manipulation.

Sex and masturbation are normal and dare I say essential to our health and well-being. Not allowing yourself these pleasures will not just frustrate you eventually, but will prevent you from maturing on a sexual level.

Cheers!

PS: This is my opinion, nothing more. You choose how you want to live your life... But I offer my viewpoint on organised religions whenever I see someone distraught by their "cults" 's control over them.

Answer 8

Oh Luv!

IU am so sorry for you! Like my hubby would say, blame organised religions for their brainwashing and indoctrinations!

Oranised religions f*ck us more up than anything else, making us think sex is evil and masturbation is a way to hell.

These concepts are not true, and are essentially created for the "church" (power hungry hypocrites) to keep control over people through guilt and fear.

Too bad you refuse to accept yourself as a sexual being; because I believe one MUST have sex before marriage in order to really know what they like and what to avoid in bed.

Answer 9

Well, look at it this way. 'Waiting'

1) will not allow you to be infected with s.t.d.'s,

2) it will imbue you with an ability to 'appreciate what is worth waiting for,'

3) it will generate for you a reputation for having mystical powers for abstention, and

4) it will neither kill you nor do you damage.

Keep it up (the good work, I mean).

Sash.

Answer 10

"Survive" seems to be a bit of a hyperbole, don't you think? You'll survive, but you won't have much time to enjoy our marriage before the baby making comes into play. Fertility begins to drop, you know.

Answer 11

That's how you become pregnant by saying "I am not going to have sex before marriage" and then you get into the heat of the moment with your girl and have no protection available.