My oldest daughter is going to be 10 in December. She is growing up quick and I look at her and the lovely young woman she is becoming. Then today I was talking to her as she was getting out of the bathtub, and she told me she was scared...that something was really odd. She already wears training bras and she shaves her legs (I was not happy with the aunt that taught her this so young!) and now she tells me she's growing hair in odd places. Well, any woman knows what those odd places are (under her arms and her bikini area). I told her that this was normal and not to worry about it, her body is just changing so she can grow into a young woman. We've already had the period talk and all that, but I am scared to death! My daughter is growing up so fast, and wearing training bras and shaving and growing hair in womanly places!! I dont know how to do this! I am new to this...my mom barely even spoke to me, much less gave me these talks! Am I overprotective? Thats good though isnt it
2006-10-05 19:26:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think you are doing just fine! It's a good sign that your daughter feels comfortable talking to you about these issues. It doesn't sound like you are being overprotective at all. Just keep talking to her and giving her these facts straight out. She'll thank you for it and grow to be a confident young woman because she was taught to embrace these changes and to enjoy being a woman.
2006-10-05 19:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Zorlinda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how much you would have loved to have your mother reassuring you during all of your changes. Your daughter is going to continue to change regardless so why not see this as an opportunity to let her know what she will be experiencing.
It's a great way to open up those lines of communication that often close during the teenage years. If she knows she can get honest answers from you now...she'll be more likely to come to you when her life becomes more complicated than shaving.
You sound like a wonderful mother....she's lucky to have you!
2006-10-05 19:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
overprotective is good. But think about this.LET THE HEAK GO. Most women like your mom wont even mention the word. Now moms talk about it. We don't want girls to get it then think something is wrong. Sit her down and have a heart to heart. I was 8 when I started wearing a training bra. Let things happen. You can't stop it. she will probly get her period soon.
2006-10-06 03:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Halloween freak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be as open with her as possible. Don't be like your mom, or my mom for that matter that did the same thing (we didn't talk about anything personal like that). I still don't talk about personal stuff because she made it uncomfortable and im now 26. Just remember that what you do know will affect how she is with you when she is older.
2006-10-05 19:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by someoneoutthere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try not to be protective, but to be very open with her, kids can get rebelious if you are too hard on them or abusive if you are too leanient. striking the balance may be easier if there is lots of trust, talk and spend as much time with her as you can, if she see's you as someone she can confide in and seek advice from you will have much more controll over what she does as a teen.
2006-10-05 19:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by kingoftheintertron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, over protective is not good, be totally frank with her, and then also be frank about the dangers of sex and the horrid lifechanging effects it can have on you, like unwanted pregnancy, not all at once but if she even hints at having a question be totally honest. not encouraging sex but honest about her development. no one said boo to me, i survived it however.
2006-10-05 19:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't worry, you sound like a great mother . It sounds as if you have a brilliant relationship with your daughter - treasure it.
2006-10-05 19:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋