2006-10-05 19:20:19 · 13 answers · asked by gorgeous witch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forget that idea, be pleasant and polite and not pushy. Do not butt into her territory (like the kitchen if she doesn't ask for help). If you are nice, she'll eventually like you first. Don't EVER expect to be treated like family, which might be a good thing.
2006-10-05 19:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably just trying to cope with having a live in mother type figure around. She may have a little hostility toward her mother moving and even a little ticked off that her parents relationship didn't work. In her eyes she might be asking her self why they couldn't work out like what make you so much better. Teenage girls are always pissed off as it is. You have to be the adult and stand up to her. She is living under your roof and if she can't treat you with a little more respect then she can go back to live with her mom. Next time she snaps at you when your boyfriend IS NOT home you need to say this.....look I am trying my best to deal with these arrangements as well and I want to be your friend I am not trying to be your mother but in this house young lady you will respect me as an adult because I give you respect. If you do not start showing a little more kindness and appreciation then privileges will be taken away. This way she can't run to daddy and she will know you mean it and you are sticking to your guns. Then invite her to do something special before her dad gets home to start a clean slate as friends...and you don't have to yell to make the point...good luck
2016-03-27 06:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling of treating someone like his/her own child should come naturally.. If you try to make her doing this, something will be somewhere even if you try to pretend as if you were her own daughter this will not going to last forever and after putting efforts if you fail to make it happen you will be frustrated...
By the way why on the earth you want her mom to treat you as her own daughter... there is always some difference stay where you are...
2006-10-05 19:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE anyone get closer to you or like you. They pretty much do or don't. It is a little more difficult with the mother of your boyfriend. She wants the best for her son, so she will be on the look out for flaws. The best way to try to get close to her is to be yourself and be open. I don't mean discuss your sex life. Let her see who you really are. If she likes you she likes you if she doesn't she doesn't.
2006-10-05 19:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find out tell the rest of us. I don't know of any mom that really feels that way. Even my own mom is mean to her daughter in laws. Look at it this some day it will be your turn.
2006-10-05 19:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is a reasonable person she will like you because you make her son happy,,talk to her honestly,smile,tell her jokes are rubbish,,just be yourself,,and dont forget a touch can speak louder than words,,putting your hand on her arm while laughing,,that sort of thing,,increases emotional contact as well as physical contact,,it shows her you like her,are comfortable with her,,and dont forget to laugh about your b/f with her,,she has lots of tales to tell so listen,,add what you know and keep it fun,,dont forget for every girlfriend he had she has had to let go,,she may be distant because she knows what it is like to accept someone into their lives for her son to end it and they then are gone,she has no choice in the matter so to choose to like and make an effort is more of an effort for his parents,they have to give lots but receive little back.do little things that keep in with the family,if they help with cleaning up after a meal,,so too should you,if she goes shopping,see if she wants a hand and then take her for coffee,if she knows you care for her son she should make that effort to keep him happy and if she likes you too,thats a bonus.
2006-10-05 19:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we'll, just sit down and talk to her like ask how her day was and if your at your bf's house, hang out with her in the kitchen.... That's how I felt at first, than that's what I did and now my boyfriend is my husband and his mom likes me alot.
2006-10-05 19:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by heidi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her like your mother but mean it!
Carpe Diem!
2006-10-05 20:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by afrodyzyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her like your own mother unless thats bad
2006-10-05 19:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by tony r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really a tough job. Noone can make her mother in law happy, specially girls because mother thinks you have stolen his son
2006-10-05 19:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by naveen k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋