My Mom used to tell my Sister "oh yeah?...Well I love you."...which made her even madder....
I tell that to my son now...
If this has happened to you....What do you do?
2006-10-05 19:01:58 · 23 answers · asked by mysticfairy74 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do something similar with my own child. When he yells "I hate you!"--- I bark back with some volume " well, I love you." and then I start laughing.Then he cracks up too. Once he got really carried away.. and I pulled him aside and firmly asked him if he really wants to be talked to in that manner and I imitated him.. and he replied "not really" and that was that. Now he doesn't mean it at all... I believe to some degree that you let them explore themselves.. but they have to learn manners and self control.. and they have to learn it from you. Letting kids get away with everything will come back and bite you later. Can you imagine when they are 16 and yelling I hate you or shut up :-O? So start somewhere!! But there is a balance, when he was acting up I had to understand where he was coming from. When we connected it was like magic.. . so he took me seriously when I told him that there are better ways to comminucate his displeasure.
Ray
2006-10-05 19:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by mint_ice_cream 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beat the crap out of them! LOL...just kidding...really!
No, really-one thing I learned is you have to give children room to express themselves. And just like you need time to cool off when you're angry-so do they! I know it hurts, and I know it makes you mad-but the best thing to do is to not say anything at all. Give your child a while to cool down and then go talk to him/her about their feelings and/or the subject you guys were arguing about in the first place without being accusatory.
This doesn't mean that you have to back down on whatever your stance is on the subject, it just let's your child know that they do have a platform to express themselves, and reaffirms that you care about their feelings.
Children are people too!!! Little people!! LOL!
2006-10-06 02:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by mybootyisthatbig79 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A child reacts this way when he or she is feeling insecure or guilty, their only outlet is to attack the one person they love the most and in their way they are actually asking for you to confirm your love for them and for you to instill comfort and security. In my opinion the best way to react is to hold them and tell them gently how much you love them and why they are so special to you. Children need you to be constant all the time, remember they are very sensitive, if you are calm they will settle, if you are uptight they can feel this - your vibes will create panic in them. Hope this helps!
2006-10-06 02:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by sandforest1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes I get mad, but I try to blow it off because they forget pretty quickly when they need money for a smoothie or new clothes. lol. My daugher is 14 and drives me nuts most of the time, but she also has a sweet nature side to her.
2006-10-06 02:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Muffin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts anyway but its a child, they don't understand all of their emotions right now. Ask your sister now if it bothered her how her mother responded was there a better way. I think really just say to him/her, "I know you feel that way now". And then let it go. :)
2006-10-06 02:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jan G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 6 yo said that under her breath the other day & I said "I love you more and if you ever say that again I will spank you".
I believe in respect, even from young kids.
CT
2006-10-06 02:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my son but he doesn't say "I hate you", he tells me "I'm mad at you" ..I just embrace him and tell him well, i love you beyond the sun, the stars, the galaxy, i love you infinitely. That's it he smiles and everything's well
2006-10-06 02:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Petra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister tries to keep calm when my niece says that. I tell her not to take it on board if possible. I'd say it's important to keep up your self esteem.
2006-10-06 02:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by rochelleslomovits 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it easy.....try to find out why the kid is saying that.
maybe the kid wants something...........try to recognise the reason why the kid is mad and try t resolve it, kids are delicate and never leave a misunderstanding linger in between of you and ur kid.
try to talk to ur son
2006-10-06 02:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by kritika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter said that to me... hurt like hell! I let her walk away. But, she came back and apologized and said she was just frustrated.
Different from my day and time because had I said that to my parents.... we wouldn't be chatting. LOL
2006-10-06 02:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tisha J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋