I like the thought of it, all I've done so far is kiss, and I'd like to do more, but when I'm around other ladies I get really nervous, and I cry. Why?? When I'm not around them, I can't wait, but then when the opportunity arises, I choke. The opportunity hasn't risen in a while, and that makes me sad too. how do you meet women? I would over the internet, but that would be too much pressure because I wouldn't know the person at all on top of that. Help!
2006-10-05 18:31:10 · 16 answers · asked by crazypantsmcgee69 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have hyped everything up in your head that's why you get so nervous and cry, you want to but you don't want to stuff it up. Just relax and go with someone who knows how to take it slow and to make you comfortable. maybe even have a couple of drinks before hand (i don't mean smash'em down like you haven't had a drink all week) everyone knows a couple of drinks make them a bit more forward and less nervous with everything... You have to go to a gay club or something, sweetie please don't go over the net to much uncertainty... Good luck and remember RELAX you will be alright : )
2006-10-05 19:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you get upset cuz despite your feelings you are still concerned about the societal, moral stuff about the whole thing.
First, there seems to be little doubt in your mind that you are gay (or maybe bi). And from what you said there is little in mine.
Second, you need to slow down. I know that may sound weird since the opportunity "has not arisen" lately. But I think you are trying to push things too fast. And this may be part of the problem with the crying and all. Which brings me up to
Third, female love is not all about sexuality (although that is a great part)--it is much more about emotion and feelings--the stuff that guys try at but are not all that good at. So when you do meet a girl you like--you can take things slowly--and do the kind of things you naturally do with gfs--you do not have to jump right into sex--if you go slower--I think it will be easier and more natural--and you will not have the trauma you have been experiencing.
Fourth, I suggest either an online or just a gay bar. With the online thing just be as honest as you are here. Girls will understand that. Also with online dating--you will be corresponding before physically meeting--so you can feel each other out--and you can tell all the stuff here and more. Also, gay bars--you can go there and just hang. Believe me you will meet girls who will be understanding. It will not be a pressure thing--like in a hetro bar scene.
If you do the online thing--do the stuff you would normally do in this type of thing. Make the first meeting real ordinary--just meet in a public place for a cup of coffee. It will not be all that truaumtic cuz you already know each other. And if it dosen't click at that simple meeting--that is it and you can move on to someone else.
Make it easy and take it slow--you will enjoy!
Good luck:)
2006-10-05 22:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself firstly and most imortant. Find the place and activities that you like and look for women that you find attractive in those areas and start talking. Put the intimate, romantic, and sexual side away and see how the friendship or chemistry goes. Make subtle comments and statements about lesbian relationships and life in a hypothetical way and see how the women you are interested in react. You'll know. Don't worry, when you find the one it will be smoother and more interesting than you think.
2006-10-06 05:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u meet the right woman and you desire her. If she feels the same.She will recognise what your intentions are, Touch each other on the hands.The rest will follow.You can talk to another woman far better than to a mere male , Like all relationships someone has to make the first move.A woman who has had too many bad times with a man usualy gets on well with a desirable person like herself. If you want to love another woman it will happen when u meet the right woman.
cedwen
2006-10-05 21:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Cedwen M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make the opportunity arise again and try not to choke. If it is something you really do want then you can control your emotions. Good luck darl.
2006-10-05 18:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's more of a fantasy for you and the fact that you feel nervous in real life tells you that you should keep it a fantasy? Just an idea. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, you just remind me of someone. Sometimes you feel a way for a reason, that's all!
Good luck
2006-10-05 19:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by italianlovespink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I feel the same way. I always dated men all my life but have been too shy to talk to women, great posts and the answers have been helpful (except for those guys who think a night with them will do the trick...they're pervs who're exagerating)
2006-10-05 19:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Noi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put yourself out in the open and start talking with the ladies and perhaps you will score real easy. You are suffering from low self-esteem, so build yourself up and be proud of yourself cause you can make your world a sucess.
2006-10-05 18:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same dilemma. Let it go, in terms of active searching, and you will be surprised how it can just happen. It did to me, and now I feel much more complete as a human being. (And by the way, only another woman knows best how to make you ***.)
2006-10-08 09:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by bot_parody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your definitely a Lesbian... I think you should take your time, you just might fall in love with someone who would be willing to wait until you relax..... Your first experience will be much better with someone you get to know first and feel comfortable around....
2006-10-06 07:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋