I have been married for 27 years and an old highschool sweetheart contacted me through classmates.com. Should i communicate with him? He may find out I don't look like I'm 18 years old!!!!! Oh and I love my husband.
2006-10-05 18:02:31 · 14 answers · asked by quickspend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We never forget our first loves, and as we get older, our memories of our youth, the exuberance we had for life, our hopes and dreams are exquisite and sometimes exaggerated.
Of course you don't look like you did when you were l8, but neither does your "old lover". He probably doesn't want to see you in person, only reminisce; relive the past through shared experiences of your youth and naivety.
Your husband probably had an "old high school sweetheart" too. What would you do if his contacted him and wanted to communicate with him?
Tell your husband. If he doesn't want you to communicate with your "old lover", then don't. E-mail your "old lover", and let him know it was good to hear from him. Tell him about your children, grandchildren, and how happy you are. If he continues to attempt to contact you, don't answer. He will eventually realize that you don't want to have contact with him.
2006-10-05 18:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be up front with your husband. Tell him what's going on because if he finds out while on the computer, he will think you are doing something behind his back. Tell him your classmate contacted you and asked if you would reply back because he was curious about how you are doing and how your life turned out. I think that it should be okay for you to reply once or twice, but don't even think about emailing this dude all the time and letting him email you every chance and starting an online affair especially if you love your husband. That would be so unfair and disrespectful to your husband.
2006-10-05 18:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband stay away from this slippery slope. Since you cannot recognize it I will tell you flat out. Girl that is the devil toying with you. This is exactly the sort of temptation you pray not to be lead into. Do not keep up communications let it go and be happy with your husband you are risking everything for what? Do Not Do This.
2006-10-05 18:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy your motives are so bad and your going on a bad road. Your first statement was,"the guy may find out I dont' look 18 anymore". and then oh by the way I love my husband.
Your intentions are bad. If you do this your sleazy. Dont' put your marriage at risk.
2006-10-05 18:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Just send him 1 email to say hellow & briefly explain in a friendly way that you are happily married & you are surprised that he has crossed your path & maybe some day in the future you will meet again, then end the conversation there. If he continues to send you mails, tell him to stop. You will start unnecessary trouble in your marriage if you pursue a relationship with him.
2006-10-05 18:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband...I have been married 12 years and recently have been in contact with my former fiancee. He is happily married with 2 kids and I have 3. When he contacted me I told my husband immediately and said I'd like to respond. I have let him read all emails..but he doesnt anymore..says its fine..and I have a good friend back in my life.
2006-10-05 18:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by jessified 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your husband did this w/ his ex? Get a copy of your wedding vows. There is nothing in there about e-mail exceptions from classmates.com.
PS - I've struggled w/ the same thing, but I love my wife and would not hurt her.
2006-10-05 18:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a very bad thing. If you're asking yourself this question ..then that means you're kinda thinking its wrong..so that means no, unless your husband is okay with it, and you aren't tempted to hook up with the old lover again
2006-10-05 18:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your loved ones's unlikely to be the only you spend something of your existence is he's. they are your loved ones there there to get mad yet additionally after a on a similar time as they are going to come around. in basic terms carry in there and do what makes you happy!
2016-12-26 10:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be sure of yours and his intention. And think about how would you feel If your husbands ex-girlfriend request to see him after sooo many years how would you feel. The best thing is to talk to your husband and you both visit with your ex. (my opinion only).
2006-10-05 18:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by demetricegrn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋