Any advice for a single mother who has a 14 y/o son who has behavior problems? He goofs off in class, tyalks back, is defiant, doesn't follow directions, has bad attitude, is rude to mom. I am at my wits end. What are some things I can do to keep my sanity? Any suggestions?
2006-10-05 17:39:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks so far for the answers but.. i meant like who can i speak to? should i get classes? should i join an organization??
2006-10-05 17:53:54 · update #1
Cut off his fun activites or free time. When he learns there are consequences to his actions he will hopefully see the light and straighten up. Good Luck to you.
2006-10-05 17:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by mr.mister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st. take the door of his room off the hinges. Tell him if he wants to act like a 5 year old, then his right to privacy is nill. Take away all his games, etc. If he threatens you in anyway, call the cops. Take away every perk, every luxury. If you have a relative who can play hard-***, so much the better. No physical violence of course. Intervention is key. Don't wait until
someday he's dead, or you are standing in front of a judge explaining why your son had a dUI, wrecked a car, and killed someone. Use your resources. Talk to the school. Find parent support groups. Get counseling for yourself, and group counseling for the two of you. Find activities where the two of you are forced to do things together.(scouts, church, etc. )
He may be out of control, but you are the only person who can stop this. Part of it may be your personal parenting technique. You need to up your game. You can do this. If you love him, you will. If his father is anywhere around, try to enlist his help too, as well as your family.
Not acceptable.
Disrespect.
Poor grades
Not doing what he's told.
Remember to listen to what he's saying, but tune out the emotions. Kid's are very good at pushing buttons.
It's up to you! Good luck!
2006-10-05 17:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fourteen. That can be a hard time for boys. Their brains are in a wash of hormones. They are up one moment and then throwing looks, comments and possibly things the next.
You have to remember to remain calm, reacting only will make him reactive. True, half the time you want to whack the crap out of your kid, and the other half...Maybe your son is reeling and doesn't know how to gain control of his behavior. He doesn't know how to stop.
It could be there is something deeper that could be wrong, making him act out. It's a very confusing time for young males. Maybe you will have to find a counselor or strong male role model to intervene or give some advice.
I wish you all the luck and hope some of these suggestions help.
I get to deal with fifteen year old. God help us.
2006-10-05 17:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's puberty. my son is the same way I've been dealing with it for 5 years [he's 17 now] I just keep telling myself 1 more year and he can get out and maybe he will appreciate what he had.you could get counseling it might help but unless you have insurance it's expensive.
2006-10-05 19:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the mother, you are the one in control. you are the one who has the power over him, stick to your rules and show him if he does wrong they will be punishment. dont allow him to push you to the point to whear you dont know what to do. show him who is boss and what you can do and will do if he cross's that line. most of all show him you mean business and you will and can make him adbide by your rules. good luck.
2006-10-05 17:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, just stay consistent! Otherwise, he'll walk all over you.
2006-10-05 17:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by 2Good4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him to bootcamp....
2006-10-05 18:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋