We have been dating for about 4 months now. I haven't trusted him because of little things he has told me and some "coincidental" things that have happened. I spyed in his email yesterday and found that he had signed up to a "bed buddy" dating site mid last year. When I saw that it freaked me out. I asked him about it and he completely denied it even after I had shown him the site with all of his information on it. CC info, name, he had some friends on there. Even tho I showed him everything in his face he denied it. He even swore upon his mother and everything he knows. It bothered me a bit but not as much as him lying to me in my face. I need some opinions. Oh yea It was just a one month subscription.
2006-10-05 17:12:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To me it seems like he has the policy "deny, deny, deny" just like a boyfriend I had a few years ago. As long as he doesn't admit it- he beleives you'll have doubts about it- or even make excuses to help justify his actions- even in the face of absolute proof.
But really- it wasnt your job to snoop through his stuff (even though, I wouldve too!) and if it was over a year ago, for only one month before you were dating I assume- then I'd say forget about it. But just keep your guard up- b/c now u know he'll lie to you if threatened.
2006-10-05 17:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it... he may have signed up just to look at pictures of naked people. Some sites won't let you look at the pictures of folks unless you create an account... Or maybe he is telling the truth and he never signed up.
My friend Mark is married to a Korean woman who doesn't know the culture here and when she looked in his email she straight freaked out and wouldn't speak to him for days! What she saw was all those generic canned spams that everyone gets saying "Hi it's cindy from the personals, thanks for writing to me and check out my web cam!" and numerous others like it and was totally convinced that he was cheating on her with all these web chicks. I'm not saying that that's what it is, but you never know.
Plus if you've been dating for only 4 months and this happened mid last year then it shouldn't concern you. You just invaded the guys privacy and got mad at him for something from before you were dating him. I once heard someone say that a question that has no right to be asked doesn't deserve a truthful answer. He may feel the same way.
2006-10-05 17:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some bad news for you jocey...
If he lied to you about this what else has he or is he willing to lie about?
Just a 1 month subscription? If he's with you why would he even need a one day subscription?
You should be mad on both counts, getting involved in the datin gsite while he's with you and then flat out lying to you over it.
Get rid of him (which I hate to say) but it won't be something you can change in him and it won't go away soon either.
2006-10-05 17:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by KIRRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying kills relationships. No grey area here. A bf having a bit of web fun or even an occational "bed-buddy" one can survive - not lying, not lying on your face. there is nothing that says "insult" more than white lies, it says either you are too dumb to understand I am lying or it says your value system sucks hence I have to lie. Both are answers leading to fast exit. If you need coffee buddy (with occasional hug) I am ther for you!
2006-10-05 17:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Puneet S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he signed up to it mid last year then how can his account still be active now. Maybe he needed a little sumthin sumthin because you weren;t given out enough of the cream pie, you get me aight
2006-10-05 17:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a lying cheat and u should move on before he really hurts u and a guy who swores upon his mother and he is lying straight in your face - HELLOOOOOO - do I need to write more.
2006-10-05 17:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't believe him. First of all, if you are his girlfriend, why does he need to have that kind of thing around. I have two sisters whose husbands cheated on them, a friend who just lost her baby last night, she miscarried due to stress from her husband cheating on her. Wouldn't it be nice if all the attention they put into those things, they gave to us instead of that stuff that really has no potential for them, we women would be much more happier. No wonder women are so crabby towards men.
2006-10-05 17:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Becsteroni Magl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the evidence and he lies to your face...if he can do that...then he can lie about things you have 0 proof about...plus...why be in a relationship where you cant trust him? No trust No relationship
2006-10-05 17:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by A Sad Guy... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have that much evidence.. and he still denies it.... you need to let him go, girl.... u can do bad all by urself...... u need to find someone that is rite for u....... do this... on a piece of paper.. write down on 1 side all the good things he does for you and on the other all the bad things he does... and if the good outweigh the bad.. keeep him.. if the bad outweigh the good... let him go....
2006-10-05 17:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe him. wow! you had all that evidence and he deinied it. imagine what hes hiding behind your back that you cant ever bring to his attention. get out quick. Protect yourself. he lied on his buddies?! Hes no good! Liars will set your pants on fire.
2006-10-05 17:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋