2006-10-05 16:29:00 · 15 answers · asked by 5324 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Don't tell the guys where you got this, but three we look for in women: 1- she thinks I'm funny, laughs at my humor. 2- Makes a guy believe he is the best lover any girl could have, and 3- she must work, however must not make more than her guy, because we men are waaaay to insecure to handle that. Almost forgot; most important for me: good body, looks, know what she's doing in the sack. She has to turn me on. has to. What's long term nowadays, 3 mos? --R
2006-10-05 18:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 3? You must be kidding lol
MONEY.... Yes that's number one because without it you have NOTHING else and all marriages go down the tubes without it, it's a STATISTIC so don't fool yourselves. I wouldn't live in poverty, nor do I compromise, nor sacrifice in this one life i was given to enjoy everything that this earth has to offer..... nor would I have to work if married, nor spend my OWN, nor share my own safety net. Why struggle if a man doesn't ENHANCE my life and make it better and fuller and easier.... I might as well be alone and have my independence and remain happier!!........
Honesty, faithfulness, emotionally sharing.....
Exceptional intelligence and a GREAT communicator, Cultured, distinguished, with a good reputation and greatly respected both in his Professional and social worlds, Sense of humor, easy going, not fussy, letting me control the things I want to control, but still a ''take over guy'' and a real man [yes.... they can be both but KNOW where a woman takes over which a SMART, sensitive, savvy and slick man does know, in other words, like all the men I HAVE known and been involved with and almost married lol...
Decent to be seen with and not embarass me, a good dancer [because I'm always 'out on the town' in the best places and he has to love that lifestyle too], GENEROUS and not a penny pincher even if having a lot of money [there are those CHEAP millionaires TOO! lol I've got plenty of my own but wouldn't support ANY man, even a husband, he's got to have HIS own too.... Like the old saying.... "What's mine is mine, and what's yours...... is mine'' LOL], watch out and TEST first, because however he's treating you BEFORE marriage, it only get's worse and goes downhill when the bloom is off the rose sometimes.... so make SURE you're living in ALL situations first, before marrying ANYONE.......
Doesn't have NOR want kids
and so much more, including all the other things everyone else has mentioned but these were just EXTRA practical ones added..... it's 3AM so I can't think right now. But those are the PROTECTIONS....oh, and he has to love me more than I love him.... remember that girls, that's the best guaranteed life you can have. Love him just enough to be happy with him BUT not too much where if things go wrong you can't pick up and move on and feel GOOD to be alone and on your own again!
I don't believe in marriage, and am too happy, secure and confident to indulge in anything but fabulous long term relationships or even NO relationship just dating fabulous men, but if you DID love someone, those are just SOME of necessary and MANDATORY things that should allow anyone to even CONSIDER it. But it still wouldn't happen to me and I never let it even with all of the above crossing my path many times and 9 different proposals [only ''so far'' lol]........
Stay single and REALLY enjoy your life with everything at your fingertips and IN your life without that awful piece of paper making a man think he OWNS you and your being STUCK wiping kid's vomit and washing dishes, cause that's what happens WITHOUT ''money''.......sometimes even WITH it. Ugh! ......
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And the statistics are against it these days [60% failure, and those are only the one's that get divorced..... another 20% or more stay together miserably for financial reasons, or the KIDS, and make them miserable too. Not a prospect very inviting when really doing some SERIOUS thinking]........
Men will hate this of course lol...... but this is for the WOMEN. Marriage was made for only men. They marry women for the convenience of a live in, instant sex parner always right in their own beds lol...and maids, nursemaids, chauffers, cooks, and to continue how their mothers used to take care of them, which most women only find out AFTER the ceremony! If RICH...... you can hire all that [almost all lol].... if you feel you MUST get married :-( .......
Oh, and by the way.... I come from a GREAT family with one of those 10-20 percent PERFECT marriages that my parent's shared and blessed with a wonderful life growing up and now as well so ''baggage'' not where all this is coming from, it's WHY I have no baggage...... and it's from LOGIC and BRAINS and seeing what's going on in the REST of the world, including friends who would NEVER do it again!
Well, the question was for a "MATE" not a husband but all the above goes for both. I'm only here about a week, and got carried away on this one :-) [well, many other subjects too, actually].
2006-10-06 03:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by mamzellle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Smart - i.e., be smart enough to tell a good joke, comment on the state of the world and not be a ditz.
2) Willingness to try new things and speak up if you didn't like them.
3) Talking - does he communicate with me, even in a fight, in a respectful way.
2006-10-06 02:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by clivencheese 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. He must never cheat on me or abuse me-even once he gets the boot out the door.
2. He must have a sense of humor and make me laugh.
3. He must love me and my family without a doubt.
Money should never be in issue in a relationship-it just makes things worse.
2006-10-05 23:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. Work ethic
2. Intelligence
3. The ability to make me laugh
2006-10-05 23:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by jenrod 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, for one, you've got to love him, that, I can't tell you about, you've got to find that out for yourself, however, some important traits about being a succesful mate are being easy-going, one who doesn't overreact to simple things, as well, one who is good at communicating and is open about doing so, and as well, one who demonstrates the epitome of being a gentleman.
2006-10-05 23:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by thalog482 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Humour
Intelligence
Confidence
2006-10-06 02:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Intelligent, 2) a practicing believer in God, and 3) has the ability and willingness to work out our problems together, fairly and effectively
2006-10-05 23:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm married now.....but when I was still single I wouldn't go out with a guy...
if he had children
if he had been married before
if he lived at home
2006-10-05 23:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Intelligence
Sense of humor
A lively sense of sexual curiosity
2006-10-05 23:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by Danny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋