So I asked a girl if she would date me, and she was not sure if she liked me liked me, so a week after I asked (being today) she said no she was not going to go out with me and I said I was fine with that to her...and I know she was going to day no for the last 2 days but still I feel so depress that she said no...
so I went out and got 2 boxes of this energy drink called "Bawls" and I am going to drink all of them Friday. any way can someone out there make me feel happy Please. What makes you happy no matter what is going on in your life?
2006-10-05 16:21:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hang in there guy. Look, you're hurt and you're broken-hearted about this girl not wanting to pursue a dating relationship with you. It just "effing" hurts and there's nothing on God's green earth that you can do about it. We've all been there, guys and gals alike, and it's painful, but it's life.
Sometimes women can put a spell on us that we have no clue as to what it is exactly about her that is driving our feelings and strong passions. All we know is, we've got to have her, and we'll go to any lengths to win her heart.
Can I tell you a little story about a gal that had such a spell on me, and not so long ago as a matter of fact. It started off as just, wow, this is one beautiful, young attractive woman. Something in her eyes, her smile,her hair, the way she moved, even her short and pithy, to the point retorts. Every little thing about her.
Well, it just got to the point where I had to give it a shot, and so in a desperate and awkward moment, I asked her out. She said, "I don't know." Now I think deep down I knew what this really meant, but in my delusional thinking it was more like, O.K., she didn't give me an outright "no," so maybe there's still some hope.
A few days passed and one day, at work, we were sitting outside taking our break, and she asks me if I have good credit. I said, as a matter of fact, well, yes I do. She wanted to know if I'd cosign a loan for her to buy a new Jeap or something. Well, I pondered the situation over night and realized what kind of person this gal really was, but that didn't deter me one bit. So I went ahead and composed a letter basically saying that although I didn't know her well enough to cosign a loan for her, I did certainly want to get to know her better and again asked her out. I gave her the note at work and asked her what she thought about it the next day. The only thing she was concerned about was the part about me having doubts about cosigning for her. She didn't care one little bit about going out with me. You would think that I'd have gotten the message this time, but I still couldn't let go.
Several months later, we were again outside taking our smokers' break and she started going on and on about how she had to have this little cute puppy dog for her son. The problem was that she didn't have the 200 some odd dollars to buy this little chiuaua or what ever the heck it was. I said, well, don't you have a boyfriend who would certainly help you out with this. This is where she really got creative. She replied that although she sort of did, she didn't want to take lagre sums of money from this guy because she didn't want him to think he was her boyfriend. So in my delusional thinking and confused emotional state I'm thinking, if I come up with the $200.00 and she takes it, it means I must be her boyfriend.
Well, I did happen to have the money , wrote her the check, she accepted, and guess what? She said thanks. That was it, period. Nothing else changed between us except that I was still hopelessly "in love" with her, but now I had a big resentment to go along with the pain of her not having the same feelings for me as I had for her. The pain was excruciating, and I was on the verge of breaking down.
The point I'm trying to make is that you are what you are and this gal that you're "head-over-heals" with is who she is. You can't force her to feel the same about you as you feel about her. It hurts, and it hurts bad.
The good thing is that you are honestly expressing your feelings about all this. What troubles me, as a recovering alcoholic, is that you want to go out and buy two boxes of this energy drink tomorrow and slam it. I know it's just an energy drink, but it's the pattern that you're setting up here as a way of coping with your pain that concerns me a bit.
Look, guy, there's nothing wrong with you and the way you are. I'm guessing that you're somewhere in the neighborhood of being a teenager to young adult. Trust me. There are plenty of girls still available who will like you for you. And guess what? You won't have to jump through any hoops for them, you'll be able to be who you really are and build something that is real.
Can you do that? Can you, after you get over your feelings for this current gal and the hurt of being rejected, are you capable of moving on to something real? Or, will you end up taking the road that I have chosen? An elusive quest for some imaginary woman that is never available, yet insanely driven and compelled to pursue something I can't have? And if I ever got her, she would end up consuming and destroying me?
In your time of grieving, and you are grieving, keep in mind the deep meaning of this simple yet effective prayer. In A.A.,. we call it the "Serenity Prayer."
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
The courage to change the things I can;
And the widom to know the difference.
God bless you my friend, and I'll be praying for you.
2006-10-05 18:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Family & Friends.
Guys and girls come and go, but your family and your friends will always be there for you regardless.
Basically - she missed out. Let it go at that and move on with your life. If you spend all your time feeling bad about her saying no... you're losing time you could be spending with the next best thing.
When you live right, you feel right.
You asked a question and you got your answer. Tomorrow is a brand new day - be thankful for it.
Do something nice for yourself. You'll feel better.
2006-10-05 16:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by apinkfreak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it hurts when you get let down i know i have had loots of let downs before. and everybody has had them too so don't feel alone. at least feel good that you tried u know a good saying for you right now is this.. the only way you can loose is if you take yourself out of the game. and you didn't you didn't loose anything here because before you told her that you liked her u guys wern't goin out but now you still aren't but at least she knows how you feel so yeah to get my mind off of things i work out. do some running and ride my bike but a good thing to do is to try to find another girl that you like or hang out with your friends they are the best ones to go to when you need some comforting you will eventually will get over it but NEVER i mean NEVER do drugs to get your mind off of her CUZ SHE IS NOT WORTH YOUR HELTH!!!
2006-10-05 16:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by allie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYONE GOES THROUGH THIS AND YOU HAVE TO REALISE THAT IF IT IS MEANT TO BE SHE WOULD OF SAID YES!! IT JUST SHOWS THAT UNFORTUNATLY YOUS WEREN'T MEANT TO BE TOGETHER AND IT SHOWS THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO WOULD FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU AND WHO IS BETTER THEN HER!! YOU CAN'T GET YOURSELF DOWN ALL THE TIME SOMETHING LIKE THIS COMES UP!!! YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG AND REALISE THAT THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON AND YOU WILL LEARN FROM ALL THIS LIFE EXPERIENCE!!! I MAKE MYSELF FEEL BETTER BY THINKING OF ALL THE GOOD THINGS IN MY LIFE AND HOW GRATEFUL I AM TO HAVE WHAT I HAVE AND THE LOVING AND CARING PEOPLE AROUND ME AND ALSO A LOVING PARTNER!! :D
2006-10-05 16:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by pqr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
observing an O-Zone song video continually facilitates me while ideas approximately my previous boyfriend start to ensue back. The lead singer is particularly gorgeous even nonetheless they do no longer sing in English. chatting with my buddies frequently lightens me up too they supply me some wish. i'm frequently magnificent at making myself happy at night situations. i do no longer comprehend what it is, i assume i'm an optimist. =)
2016-10-18 21:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by templeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just play my guitar. but really you should forgrt her. theres so many girls out there. and if she said no then maybe your not as well suited as you thought. find someone who loves who you are. and in the mean time pick up an instrument. dont let it get you down just remember thatit happerns to everyone xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx and flirting always cheers me up try that.!!!
2006-10-05 16:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that God loves me no matter what I am going thought. It is hard to put into words how to be happy it is something you have to fill in your heart. Once I received Jesus into my heart, just knowing that he is with me makes me happier because I am not going thought it alone. You can have him In your heart too all you have to do is ask Jesus in..
2006-10-05 16:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋