2006-10-05 16:09:22 · 21 answers · asked by xman77 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Makeup
Speaking as a parent-I can understand your wishes for everything good for your child and you see her heading down a path of potential pain. Bisexuality among teenage/young adult females is becoming more common. Just because at this moment she is attracted to girls does not mean she will be a lesbian. If you freak you will send her the WRONG message. Talk to her-let her know you love her and support her. Make sure she has information regarding safe sex-just because she isn't engaging in heterosexual contact doesn't mean she is not at risk. Contact your local planned parenthood and get information for yourself and her.
Teenagers feel adrift and are trying to "find themselves". I know it sounds dramatic but it is accurate-they are not yet adults and are struggling to find their place in this world and were they can be accepted for who they are.
Be patient and above all OPEN and LOVING. This could just be a phase--or it could just be who she is. The fact that you know of her attraction shows she trusts you. As a parent it is hard to be a friend as well as a parent, but in the end when she has matured both emotionally and psychologically she will truly know how much you love and trust her as her own person and not just as an extension of you.
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2006-10-05 16:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is 16 then I think it's time that she be allowed to start making some decisions on her own. I'm not saying you have to let her go hog wild or anything. But allow her to express some individuality. If her tastes lead her to admire women instead of guys then so be it. Whether or not you approve this is something she is having to cope with too and both of you are going to have to come to terms with her prefrences. Even if it's not the most comfortable thing to do maybe just talking about it or even setting aside some time to be with her so you can decide whether you think she is ready for the dating scene or not would be best. Remember, she is going to think what she wants no matter what, you should support her in anyway possible. But don't hide your feelings either. State your concerns and comments then let her feel her own way about in a field where she would like some experience.
Just stay calm and try to take it all in at a pace you can deal with
Good Luck, Music
2006-10-05 16:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by Music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be an ongoing fad with a lot of teenage girls today. I wouldn't lose all hope yet. The whole idea of being bisexual for girls is considered cool by this generation especially in today's high schools. I have a 15 year old so I can somewhat relate. I would for the time being just try to ride it out and hope that this wears off eventually. More than likely she will meet some guy that she likes better and just move on. It has at least happened here with several different girls I know.
2006-10-05 16:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Angie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stepbrother just came out as being gay and i can't be more supportive. to tell you the truth, i don't really care either way. i want him to eventually be as happy as i am (engaged!!) either way. and like someone else said, if it was a date with a boy would that be alright? because trust me, that can get her in a lot more trouble this point.
a good friend of mine had been seeing boys for awhile and then started seeing a girl and they have been together maybe 8 months now, and she has never been happier. i always felt bad hanging out with her because she was mad all the time, now we can both be mad about our significant others and that is much more fun :-)
you should feel lucky that she trusts you enough to share that information with you. I never tell my mother anything and actually nearly died because of it (going back to the more trouble part of this post) let her know that you love her no matter what. Anyway, she may change her mind like my friend did, she may be doing it for attention, or, she may just think, her dad supports and loves her enough not to question who she is.Plus when i was in high school, i had a crush on a girl and now i can say a girl is hot but i would never go to bed with one. Be supportive and but not pushy about whats going on.
2006-10-06 05:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by haleysname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry not, most adolescents are still unaware or unsure of their sexual orientations till they are much older. It is perfectly normal for one to be attracted to members of the same sex at one point or another.
Try talking to her about your concerns. Keep it as an open conversation rather than a condemnation. Keep a distant watch over her. Be discreet.
Young boys and girls are prone to problems like this but they eventually grow out of it.
Keep cool.
2006-10-05 16:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the best thing you could do is support her and continue to love her. She is still your daughter. She may or may not be a lesbian, but the fact that she trusted you enough to tell you (i'm assuming she told you) means that she values and cares about you a lot. She's going to need a lot of support right now, and the best thing for you to do would be to work out your own issues and support her and refraing from making judgements about her sexual orientation.
2006-10-05 16:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not to young, I know a few who have said they knew since they were very young that they were gay or lesbian. I am sorry you having a hard time with this but, she is your daughter. She needs your support more than anything. Love should be unconditional.
2006-10-05 16:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by J. A. M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it'd take alot of guts 2 tell thei'r mom it's not u that neeeds to cope it's her put urself in her shoes i bet she was scared outta her wit 2 tell u that! u should exept who she is and i bet (no offence) but if she's 2 grounded like she has rules and she gets 2 do nothin' then she probably is rebelling!SO ur her dad do what u feel is right but let her make some decisions
2006-10-05 18:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it is not up to you about coping with it, you should support your daughter. She may just want to experiment, but if that is what she likes, so be it. Life is too short to worry about everything, being gay is not the end of the world. Just let her be happy.
2006-10-05 16:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Michael J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Attracted to females? In what way? That means she is a lesbian then. But we shouldnt draw conculsion too fast. Maybe u should have a talk with her and perphaps talk to shrink or sth. This might help both of you.
2006-10-05 16:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by pinky_days 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋