Please, this is a serious question.
2006-10-05 16:04:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take the time to sit your good friend down and listen to them. Has this just come out of the blue? If so , it might have more to do with your friend's hurt at the break down of a relationship. Sometimes a badly hurt or disillusioned friend will choose to give up on actively seeking love and opt for a 'safe' relationship where they think they'll be valued as a friend and a lover and that they will not have to risk being hurt again. It is crucial that if this is the case you do not encourage it or foster false hope. If it has been a case of loving you for longer than that, then, as gently as you can you should explain that, whilst their feelings may have changed and deepened, you still regard them as a very special and very dear friend and that you really cannot help them to sort this one out... they must come to terms with their feelings in their own way. If they cannot reconcile their feelings then, sadly, they may well find to continue 'settling' for friendship only may prove too great, in which case they must think long and hard whether your relatonship can survive this. Ultimately they are the only one who can resolve this. You will be there for them, as ever, as a FRIEND, and will respect whatever way they choose to deal with this. That's probably the very best you can hope for. I wish you and your friend the very best of luck in sorting out a really difficult dilemma. xox
2006-10-06 02:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I appreciate you're serious, but I don't think it's possible. If this guy has been holding on to this hope this long, it's going to be devestating to him (and he will in fact, reject the notion that you don't feel the same, and for years will try to figure out how to get you to "see" the love between the two of you).
Well, here's something you may want to consider trying: Start hooking this guy up with other girls. There is likely nothing you could do that would better illustrate to him that you are in no way interested. If you were dating, he'd chalk it up to "I'll get my chance again when loverboy is gone". You trying to fix him up really says "Not only am I not interested, I want to help you find someone else to love". It's the only way he'll really understand that you have no interest, but it might hurt less. Maybe you'll get lucky and hook him up with someone that he can go for.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 16:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with the person, explain why you want to end the relationship and if they are a true friend then all will be ok. But don't flaunt their faults in front of them(whatever they are). Having a really great friend is one of the most rewarding things anyone can have.
2006-10-05 19:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the friendship is strong enough then it should survive this. That said though if that person's been developing feelings for you over a couple of decades then there's going to be strong feelings involved. Be gentle!
2006-10-05 16:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by johnny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta seem him in the eyes and say seem I basically don't experience that way for you anymore. And flow away it at that. adult males like me do no longer like it while the girl is basically too staggering approximately it. It makes us think of you experience sorry for us. you basically gotta tell him right this moment up.
2016-10-18 21:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by templeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arrange to meet some place quiet, tell him how much he means to you and explain that you have given it serious thought and decided that your relationship works much better as friends and that you don't want to lose his friendship .
2006-10-05 20:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by P J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down with the person and talk see if you wont to end it or not but if this guy is your bf then it well be hard on him but see if you too can still be friends.
2006-10-05 16:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by james t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way is to honestly explain your thoughts and feelings - don't dress it up or tone it down, that will not help, just say it calmly and clearly.
2006-10-05 21:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you are letting them down for, but in the end it all comes down to communication speak to them explain you never would hurt them if it could be helped.but...
2006-10-05 20:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about what? depends on the situation..
2006-10-05 16:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋