My exwife is teaching my son wrong things and everytime we fight about it she threatens me with taking me back to court and getting the papers changed. Is it really that easy?
2006-10-05 15:36:55 · 18 answers · asked by rebeleyedguy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just recently gotten custody of my son, on Feb 11, 2006 to be exact. I was going through the same type of issues, but my sons mother had turned into a lesbian and I didn't approve of my son being raised that way. According to my lawyer the only way the child can be taken from you or the papers changed is there has to be a drastic change that has taken place with the child's well being since the papers were first signed by the judge. For example in my case when we first got the papers signed by a judge his mother had a steady job, home, and was living a pretty stable life. Years later when I finally got her to court she was jumping from temp job to temp job and living from place to place and my son had been staying with her mom for the past 4 years. So basically my advice to you is if you're doing right by your son and he is in a stable home and you pretty much have a stable life you have nothing to worry about. The only thing a judge will be concerned about is if the child is in a healthy nurturing environment where he can grow up like a normal healthy child. Another thing you can do is if you know you got all your stuff straight, call her bluff and let it blow up in her face. Also do you know that you can go to the attorney general and make her pay child support. All you have to do is call your local attorney general child support division and tell them you want support from his mother, and they'll do the rest. Man don't let her threaten you into doing things her way. You raise your little man and do what YOU feel is right for him. As the custodial parent YOU have the last say in all that goes on with him, and always remember that. Hopefully I didn't ramble too long. But most of all I hope it helped you. God Bless and Stay strong bro....P.S. if you need anymore info email me at sire2g@yahoo.com and I'll help in any way I can.
2006-10-05 16:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the beauty of living in America. You can take someone to court for just about anything. Now whether or not a judge will change the papers, is a whole different subject.
He would listen to her side probably but she would have to prove that the child would be in a better environment with her than with you, like proving abuse, neglect or something like that.
It is not just cut and dry, like she gets to decide that the papers will be changed. It is not her choice, that is up to a judge.
2006-10-05 15:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT really that easy. What she's doing is giving you the business because she knows it gets to you. Hard as it may seem - next time she says this - smile, say "okay - give it a try - bye." Keep smiling, give your son a big hug and gently close the door. Every time you raise your voice - she wins.
Keep records. Get a calendar and write down all the rotten things she says and does - but the minute you give it back to her - you lose. NEVER NEVER NEVER raise your voice in front of your son.
2006-10-05 15:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won a divorce, and assuming she listed the baby in the papers (as she could have, and if he replaced into ordered by using the courtroom to pay baby help, then she did), then hazard is ninety 9.ninety 9% she does have complete criminal custody and he has no visitation rights (because of the fact he did no longer ask the courtroom for any), so i could project to declare she's being honest approximately that. And confident, he could be arrested. You better initiate calling people to purpose to get a experience. Then I recommend you get your man or woman vehicle--and not could rely on people--until now you are attempting this back. by using ways, it is attainable to acquire a divorce without the different man or woman being served in case you do no longer comprehend the place to discover them (and you're making a valid attempt to discover them)/they cover to steer clear of being served/etc.
2016-10-18 21:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by templeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly there is a reason you got your son and she didnt. talk to your son and make sure he knows whats going on. be totally truthful with him and he may be able to help you make a decision. but yeah she will have to pay for a lawyer and all that again could she afford it? does she pay child support? whats the current agreement what does your lawyer say can happen. its not real easy but it can be done. if your son is over 12 (its different in every state i think) he can decide where he will reside
2006-10-05 15:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer and you need to stay on her good side till you figure out what to do.
Swallow your pride and let her have her way for now until you know your rights and what you can do.
If you were not married at the time when your son was born you may have less rights than you think. States vary.
2006-10-05 15:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by John16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. She has to prove you are a unfit parent, or declare in front of a judge that the child is being mistreated. She can also file for joint custody, good luck.
2006-10-05 15:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can attempt to regain custody, but would have to prove you are unsuitable to have custody. This also works both ways. You can legally sue for full custody, without visitation, if you can prove she is a hinderance to the child. You can also sue for monitored supervision of her visits, but in any case I would suggest you contact someone who is knowledgable of the legal specifics.
2006-10-05 15:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by dreamchsr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLSSSSSSSSS NO ITS NOT EASY.... ME AND MY HUSBAND ARE GOING TROUGH THE SAME THING WITH HIS DAUGTHERS MOM.LISTEN THOSE PEOPLE PLACED YOUR SON WITH YOU FOR A REASON... THEY ARE NOT GOING TO TREAT HIM LIKE A YO-YO IF HE IS STABLE AND SECURE THEY ARE NOT LIKELY TO DISTURBE THAT. BELIEVE ME YOUR EX- IS IN FOR A RUDE AWAKENING.YOU JUST MAKE SURE YOU KEEP RECORDS ON HIS GOOD DAYS AND HOW HE ACTS UPON VISITS WITH HIS MOTHER IF HE COMES HOME TO YOU DOING THE WRONG THINGS MAKE SURE THAT IS GOES ON RECORD SOMEWHERE KEEP A JOURNAL TAKE YOUR SON TO SOME KIND OF THERAPY.. THAT IS HOW WE MODIFY THE VISITS ON MY STEP DAUGHTER.. WHEN EVER SHE CAME HOME SHE WAS STRESSED DOING AND SAYING THINGS BAD THINGS AND NOW THE ONLY WAY HER MOTHER CAN SEE HER IS TROUHGH THE DEPARTMENT OF CHILDREN AND FAMILY SHE HAS A SUPERVISED VISITATIONS ONE HOUR A WEEK.TAKE CHARGE BE PROTECTIVE OF YOUR SON. GOOD LUCK. AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A LAWYER HANDY.
2006-10-05 15:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you have your ducks in a row if it results to going back to court. If she can prove you are unfit to raise your son, it can be possible. Pray about your situation.
2006-10-05 15:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by missmozee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋