My mother-in-law lives in my home and is truly psychotic. She has been living here for one year. She has already ran my oldest child out of my home. I have talked to my husband about putting her in a nursing home but he said he thinks she would be abused. Im ready to leave a 10 year marriage over this demon. Any suggestions?? I am desperate
2006-10-05 15:32:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband is an only child. There are no other siblings to help.
2006-10-05 15:44:13 · update #1
You have got to insist that your husband move her out-- an assisted living community might be a good compromise. They can have their own apartments, but also have staff available if needed. Point out to hubby that his mother has already run one of your children out.... and that you may be next.
2006-10-05 15:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lordy, Lordy, Honey, you have a big time problem. There is an old saying that goes "Two families can't live in the same house" and that is what you have....two families in one house.
I think you know the answer already. If you cannot stand her in your house you have four options.
First, are there any other sister in laws or brother in laws that could give you a break and take her for a while??? If so, split her up, equally, for the year.
Second: Tell her she is going to a nursing home. That might wake her up a little.
Third: Put her in a nursing home and then keep a close watch on her. Drop in at un-announced times to check on her. Take NO crap from the low pay workers that work there. Old folks ARE definitely abused in some of the nursing homes. How about an "assisted living home".
After a lot of thought and you can see NO way out, and IF it has gotten to the point you are becoming physically and mentally sick of it all.....tell your husband this and that IF she doesn't go, you can't stay any longer. That MAY wake him up. 10 Years is a LONG time, but IF all else fails......you only choice may be a divorce for your health. Good luck. Pops
2006-10-05 22:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a limit to love and the relationship beyond the person when it comes to his family or her family for that matter. When it comes to a point where your child has to leave because of another family member then it is time they go. Tell your husband flat out either she goes or the rest of you do. Love is love and you can understand that he doesnt want her to get hurt but he has to realize that this situation has already hurt you and your oldest child and things are only going to go downhill from here. Now the resentment and the anger are going to start coming in and who is going to be next to leave. Tell him straight out figure out different living arrangements for her or you will find other means of living arrangements where you can be with all of your children and keep your state of mind in tact.
2006-10-05 23:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thought is having her live with another sibling of your husbands since you havent given any concrete details on her behavior its difficult to give more suggestions. If she has no other adult child to live with, say that doesnt have children, then you and your husband need to have a sit down with ma and try to work out a peaceful solution to living together. How she can drive out your son...how old is he? Well, good luck.
2006-10-05 22:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE would run my child out of our home. Your hubby needs to open his eyes and borrow a pair of b*lls. You should get about 2 or 3 nursing home brochures and tell the mister to pick one or you will!
2006-10-05 22:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Burford Bigelow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before you leave you're marriage, if you're really that serious -- think about talking your husband into moving to a duplex and put Mom in her own apartment next door.
2006-10-05 22:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by bugnscout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling. If he won't go with you, go alone, then you either stay with things as they are or leave. Sorry, it isn't any more complicated than that. You and your husband are having a problem.
2006-10-05 22:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if things were better before, someone should be aware except for you. Make a stand and tell your husband your feelings
2006-10-05 22:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to get her out, there are many good nursing homes where she wouldnt be abused, he's a grown man and his mummy shouldnt dictate his life....GET HER OUT....mother in laws are evil
2006-10-05 22:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be your husbands 1st priority --- if you are not -- LEAVE!!!!
2006-10-05 22:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by brainfreeze007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋