W told me everything about his affair during the time we've been apart in different countries.He never asks about divorce because of it,but if I can't accept the truth and keep fighting for it,he says that it's better to let him go.He says he loves me as same as before.As long as I can forgive him,he will love me more because of my mercy and forgiveness.I realize the logic,but it's actually hard not to think of the scenes that he's kissed by other girl.Does anyone have the same situation before?Tell me, what should I do?Some philosophers say wise men don't ask about the past,but how can we do for the future?
2006-10-05 15:17:43 · 7 answers · asked by annishuang0224 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't forgive a man under those circumstances because
what was is now never the same as before and if your smart
you'll find a man that appreciates you for you. Yes god said forgive everyone in time you may but you also may find a man
who really loves you for you I know this because I found him. But, theirs hope around the corner for you so don't give up keep your chin up. Someone told me when you act professional you'll scare the jerks off and have a descent man come along, especially when you dress descent too.
Good Luck! Alway's remember
theirs hope and you will find when you
at least expect it.
2006-10-05 15:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get the opportunity, watch Tyler Perry's movie "Diary of a Mad Black Woman".
You will see how her husband treated her, and how she was able to forgive at some point, not for HIM, but for HERSELF. Sometimes we need to forgive just to be able to get on with our lives. This is something I'm trying to learn now, as I recently found out that my husband's been cheating. I'm not at the point where I can forgive because I'm still angry at him, and my feelings are hurt. I will NEVER forget, but perhaps one day, I can forgive.
By the way, forgiving also doesn't mean you have to stay with that person. You can forgive but decide you're not going to put up with their wrongdoing.
2006-10-05 16:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by MaknMeCrzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a great tool , but when some one cheats on you and you forgive them they always get this idea they can cheat again and again and you will forgive. It is all up to you but for me I kicked his sorry a** to the curb and I am a lot happier for it. Good Luck
2006-10-05 15:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so i would ever forgive give him. i can forget but i dont think so i would forgive...if a guy is chaeting it means there is something not right with the person that he is . he looked for something different. if he would have everything in the first place he would even look for anybody. but there are expetions....they dont need to have a reason....
2006-10-05 15:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to forgive. If you love him, you will. But its hell to forget. I couldnt forget and got divorced. I forgive him for cheating, but I could never trust him again.
Go seek couseling.
2006-10-05 15:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to truly forgive is to forget,too.ya know how sometimes you will ground your kids for something they did,but then a while later you will try to remember why they were in trouble, but cant.that's when you truly forgive AND FORGET.TO FORGET, SOMETIMES IS SO MUCH HARDER.
2006-10-05 17:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by TABU22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated once he will cheat again especially if you let huim get away with it, men are pigs
2006-10-05 15:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋