Well ive been with my boyfreind for sometime, but it seems as if his folks dont like me no matter what i do.. i love him soo much.. but i dont know what to do... his step-mom n dad seem to not like me but more of his step-mom. but im confused on what i should do... i dont want to leave him because he and i love eachother very much.. but i dont know what to do.. its like its all getting in the way :(... i need help.. please.
2006-10-05 15:10:49 · 23 answers · asked by babe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depends on your age.
If you are an adult, then try to talk it over with her, maybe you two can come to at least a mutual agreement. If you can't then I'd suggest that you tell your boyfriend that you do not feel welcomed at his parents home, and that you prefer not to be where you aren't welcomed.
If you are a teen, I wouldn't worry about it much. Here's the thing, some parents don't want their "babies" tied down, they think that (and it doesn't matter how nice you are) you aren't quite good enough for their child. In time that should pass, and if it doesn't... go somewhere else, make him come to your house, or just meet somewhere else.
2006-10-05 15:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to talk with his folk and tell them to back off and treat you with respect and show you kindness. If he won't do that then he is not right for you. A man must step up and protect the women he loves from harm no matter where it come from whether it be physical or mental.
On the other hand don't you be to critical of them. The more you complain about the more pressure it puts on him.
2006-10-05 22:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his step-mom is going to cause you trouble now expect it in the future as well. Before you get real serious make sure that you will live in another town if you stay together. You don't need a lot of sorrow in your life.
2006-10-05 22:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him and he loves you, but i can understand why you would be worried they're getting in the way. Although, if things are serious or will be serious in a short while between you two, they will have to learn to accept you. Your boyfriend is the one dating you not them. They have to get used to it. Maybe you should ask them or ask your boyfriend, or get him to ask them why they don't like you and try to work on it.
It sounds difficult and i can imagine the way you feel so i hope everything goes well between you two and his parents, step parents or not.
Good luck!!
2006-10-05 22:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whos decision is it. His or the stepmothers. The mother usually tend not to like their sons girlfriends maybe b/c they don't like to see another woman running his life. I once saw a TV show that had a similarity as to what u r going through. The mother did'nt want to let go of her son and was jealous. Is you boyfriends stepmother close to him a a motherly figure?
2006-10-05 22:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by dmac9836 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people have lousy families to some extent, so as long as your relationship is good with your boyfriend, don't worry about his folks. Especially in the case of stepparents, they usually make little to no attempt to have any meaningful relationships with the friends/mates of their stepchildren.
2006-10-05 22:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he say? Does he think they like you or not? Bottom line is that it doesn't matter if they like you or not. What matters is that you two care about each other and if you two want to be together. It makes it nice and easy if parents like their son or daughter's b/f or g/f, but it doesn't have to be that way.
2006-10-05 22:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? how long have you been with your bf? Why does it seem like his parents don't like you? have they done something to make you think that? You should do nothing. It is up to your boyfriend to talk to his parents and make things right for you. If he loves you as much as you say he does, he will find out why his parents don't like you.. if they indeed don't.
2006-10-05 22:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by pink9364 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're not with him to be with his parents...but I understand wanting to be accepted. You could try asking them sometime why they don't like you. Maybe they'll tell you, but you need to be ready to hear the answer. But maybe you're just insecure. Maybe they like you just fine...you'll only know by asking them personally. It will show you are mature if you confront them in a postive way, and truly want to understand what you've done to upset them.
2006-10-05 22:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Peach Tree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how does he feel about her if he takes her opinion extremely seriously you may need to have a talk because you will want to find out if you wil be together for a while at all.
2006-10-05 22:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by stag89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋