My SO and I plan on getting married , just a bit later on (we decided at least a year after we met) , We were both fine and dandy. We are very happy togather as we are. No Rush of any kind. Then He breaks it to his ma that i am preg (6 months at the time , not his was preg before we met , exsplained it to her that it wasn't his). I like his family a lot , they are nice , alwyas have been to me so far. Later that niht she calls and scolding my SO , and starts demanding to know our INTENTIONS , saying that joining te family is a commitment and that once you ae accepted , there is no going back. I seemed alil confused , she was telling us that she wanted us to get married right away , my SO says that is she has it her way we will be married before the baby is born.
I found it odd and rather upsetting to have this woman whom i respect dog my SO , NOT ME , and start acting as if we MUST HAVE A SET DATE. I dont know what to think. What do you think ?
2006-10-05 15:08:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T get married just because some one is tells you to or feels you should. that has to come from with in you and your SO so tell he to mind her own business and when you set a date before or after the baby comes you will let her know until then she should keep her nose out of your business. Good Luck !!
2006-10-05 15:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the unborn child's sake, she is trying to tell you two that to avoid having a bastard, you must get married before the child is born. If you can keep the fact that the biological father is not the person you are marrying, you may well convince this child when it it an adult, that it was born legitimately. However, the truth of the matter is if you don't marry either the biological father or your SO, this child will be born illegitimately and could grown up disrespecting you and the father. Whatever you do, think of your child first who is going to grow to an adult who'll want to know what you and its father were thinking when you had unprotected sex, then chose not to marry!
2006-10-05 22:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get married on other people's time schedule. You have to be ready yourself. Even if they don't respect your wishes or your better judgement. I don't agree with getting married just to cover up the fact that you got pregnant whether or not it's his child. It's almost stupid because your baby is determining when you get married. Neither your baby or your SO's mom determine when the marriage happens or if it happens. You can set yourself up for disaster if you make your decision too quickly. i hope that helps.
2006-10-05 22:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't let anyone pressure you into anything
2006-10-05 22:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
RUN,RUN,RUN
2006-10-06 00:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋