why am i feeling sad and paranoid about my relationship after the birth of my 4th child?

Question

my partner of 7 years and i have 4 children and since the birth of the last one i have been feeling sad all the time, paranoind about what hes up to when he goes out, bouts of anger and sadness, and feeling like everything is falling apart

Answer 1

please seek help may be post pardum ..............it will all work out if u get the help u need

Answer 2

Might be postpartum depression, you should go see your doctor and tell them how you feel. It can be treated with drugs like any other clinical depression.

In 2005 Actress Brooke Shields publicize her battle with postpartum depression, an experience that included depression, thoughts of suicide, an inability to respond to her baby's needs, and delayed maternal bonding.

Her use of Paxil, an antidepressent was critcized by Tom Cruise a devout scientologist, a religion that frowns on psychiatry.

So the moral of the story is if you believe Tom Cruise and Scientogists you should not go see the doctor. But If you don't then please do.

Answer 3

Hormones honey!!

PPD - yes can be one cause. A major cause. I know I had it after my son, and it was hell for about 6 months! It can get better with medication, but you also have to make sure you are feeling safe and secure in your relationship.

Talk with him and let him know how you feel. You are probably still all emotional, not looking yourself, getting a lack of sleep, and with 4 kids... when was the last time he took you out and made him feel really special?

Let him know and make some time for yourself. Go out and pamper yourself, destress a little.

You are a busy lady, and these things come and go.

You will feel better soon, I am sure you have nothing to worry about!

Good luck!

Answer 4

I will get my wife on this one. We had our fourth at 12 years of marriage. She went into a bout of depression, worried about raising a forth in a three bedroom house, the finances, just about everything.

You may be going through a temporary depression phase. It is normal after childbirth. Look up Postpartum depression and "baby blues".

How long does postpartum depression last?
It's hard to say. Some women feel better within a few weeks, but others feel depressed or "not themselves" for many months. Women who have more severe symptoms of depression or who have had depression in the past may take longer to get well. Just remember that help is available and that you can get better.

What kinds of treatments help with postpartum depression?
Postpartum depression is treated much like any other depression. Support, counseling ("talk therapy") and medicines can help.

What can I do to help myself?
If you have given birth recently and are feeling sad, blue, anxious, irritable, tired or have any of the other symptoms mentioned here, remember that many other women have had the same experience. You're not "losing your mind" or "going crazy" and you shouldn't feel that you just have to suffer. Here are some things you can do that other mothers with postpartum depression have found helpful:

Find someone to talk to--and tell that person about your feelings.
Get in touch with people who can help you with child care, household chores and errands. This social support network will help you find time for yourself so you can rest.
Find time to do something for yourself, even if it's only 15 minutes a day. Try reading, exercising (walking is good for you and easy to do), taking a bath or meditating.
Keep a diary. Every day, write down your emotions and feelings as a way of "letting it all out." Once you begin to feel better, you can go back and reread your diary--this will help you see how much better you are.
Even if you can only get one thing done in any given day, this is a step in the right direction. There may be days when you can't get anything done. Try not to get angry with yourself when this happens.
It's OK to feel overwhelmed. Childbirth brings many changes, and parenting is challenging. When you're not feeling like yourself, these changes can seem like too much to cope with.
You're not expected to be a "supermom." Be honest about how much you can do, and ask other people to help you.
Find a support group in your area or contact one of the organizations listed below. They can put you in touch with people near you who have experience with postpartum depression.
Talk with your doctor about how you feel. He or she may offer counseling and/or medicines that can help.

Answer 5

I seriously think you need to seek professional help. This sounds like a serious condition, and I think someone can offer you a treatment to make you feel better. It is nothing to be ashamed of, asking for help. You have a husband and 4 children that need you. Take care of yourself and get that help.

Answer 6

Andrea Yates may have felt like you do.
She did NOT get help, and ended up drowning her five kids.
Get help now. Turn off the computer, grab the phone, and dial 911.

Answer 7

Hon, go see your doctor - you might have some post pregnancy depression and they can help. Don't wait - go and see them as soon as you can. You have got to nip this in the bud - you have a lot of people to take care of. Best of luck to you!!

Answer 8

Hormones, it is known as post partum depression or
" the baby blues." sometimes it causes an unrelenting clinical depression, get help.

Answer 9

hormonal?? maybe its the time of the month or maybe its been going on for a while. either way, it's either hormones or that issue that that movie star went through...what's her name? the one tom cruise got mad at for taking anti-depressant pills.

Answer 10

it may be post partum depression, that happens to women after they give birth sometimes.

Answer 11

GET HELP NOW !!!!!!!! talk to your doctor about all this.. this is not right.... this is post partum blues, big time, and you will NOT get over it by urself !!!!!!!!! GET HELP !!! God bless