Recently a friend of mine broke up with her fiance, before meeting the wonderful guy im with now i went thru a tough break up also and am over it now but I was wondering... is it simply time? Realisation or finding someone new that helps you get over a heartbreak? What are your answers? What do you think helps to mend a broken heart?
2006-10-05 14:25:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The passing of time helps immensely. Also, getting back in touch with loving yourself, and who you are helps immensely. You might very well meet someone who helps pull you through the tunnel and back into the light again and that has to be stirred into the mix, for sure. Time is like one of those programs on your computer that "works in the background," and it is very effective because one day you awaken to discover you are not that old person any longer and your sights are set on present realities and you feel like doing stuff again. Your situation is a little like being depressed when depressed means unhappy because you have experienced a loss. It is not quite as bad as grief, but the first few days it happens to you it is grieving that is most closely associated with the way you feel. Then you go numb for awhile. Then you begin to find your own inner resources once again. Everyone reading this could tell you a true story about a love, lost. It would a true story, and a hard story to listen to. But almost without exception, mental health has replaced the need for sadness and loss, and the person would be sharing that story to better lift you from having to trudge through that valley any longer than you absolutely have to. I hope my answer helps anyone who is stuck in the low point, because all of us knows how God-awful that feels, and we ask, from our hearts, that whoever is in that position this evening, will not have to stay there much longer. Sent with good energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)
2006-10-05 14:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 15:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its different for everyone and depends on the circumstances of the break-up and your friends character. In general its an old cliche but time does help.
Finding someone new can also help but it is good to take some space inbetween relationships before jumping straight into another. It allows time for reflection and to re-assess what you really want or are looking for. Maybe your last relationship wasnt as healthy as it could have been and you can use it as a learning curve to make better choices in the future.
Maybe join a club if you are lonely. Meet up with friends - a regular ladies night out?
Enjoy being a strong,independent, single lady and men will fall over you. The more heartbreak and pain we feel the greater the capacity we have to feel joy - and that will come!
2006-10-05 15:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jungling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a love can makes you forget another one. Or maybe if you are a so controlled mind you can forget him by yourself..One of my friends did something once:
She had a bad experience with someone she was in love, then the first thing she did was--> threw everything what could make her remember him away and she stopped to go to those places that they used to go and stopped to meet their common friends. Cause she said: "If you keep seeing or hearing something from someone you love you will never forget him." And I need to admire her cause soon the guy was like crazy after her. Even so, she didnt change her mind and soon she found out the guy with she would marry some years later.
I hope to have helped you.
Good luck :)
2006-10-05 14:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is the first step always. getting through comes before getting over. Try very hard to take the time you need to really look at yourself, who you were during the relationship, what the other person was like and why the two didn't work out.
From there work toward the things that you know you need in yourself and in a companion. Again if you really want the best for yourself, take the time to get it right the next time love comes your way. good luck
2006-10-05 14:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by rick and lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dancing, Boxing & severe velocity working The later takes away a great form of thoughts you somewhat do sense lighter some people say writing stuff down enables (no longer my cupa tea) specially, understanding which you deserve happiness and if no longer with this individual (loser in my case) then 'the only' for you is obtainable someplace, in basic terms save faith
2016-10-01 23:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have the idea, you need to realise and accept that it is no more and a clear period of time to truly grieve.
Rebound realtionships, binge drinking, drugs and one night stands only make you feel worse for longer!
It helps to have good friends but who wants to hang around with a sad sack? Misery loves company though!
2006-10-05 14:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May sound a rubbish answer but try comedy and being with people and not on your own and keep busy and time will help with the rest and substitutes are not personal development only life will give you that!
2006-10-05 14:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by william john l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time & meeting a wonderful friend , both are important factors that might help in mending a broken heart
2006-10-05 14:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by hard to get 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer
2006-10-05 14:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋