my husband has been an assshole lately?

Question

He yells at me and treats me like crap these past two days i try to ask him whats wrong and he just ignores me. man i hate him so much right now, what should i do???? today we were pulling in the drive way and he yelled at me and i told him not to and got out of the car slammed the door and my son got scared and started crying, i wanna tell him that if he wants out just to tell me but to not treat me like shiit, what should i do? oh and i also reminded him that our 2 yr aniversary is this saturday and he just said SO??

he's just a dickk, yesterday he spanked me real hard and my reaction was to kick him and hit him, i thought i was being assaulted.. cus i was calmly watching tv and he comes out of no where and hits me i guess hes still mad at that.

no hes not on drugs, he would rather spend that on our son or video games

Answer 1

Something is bothering your husband. What about his job? How is money situation.What has changed recently? Before you want to divorce him. Try your best and find out what is wrong. Men do not talk as much about their problem as us women do. I used to write letters to my ex-husband begging him to talk to me. We eventually got divorce - lack of communication.
I am concerned that he displays such poor behaviour in the presence of your son. Suggest to your husband that you both seek guidance. Chances he will refuse. Don't want any outside help. But in the meantime you are dying a little bit each day.
Try your best and assess the situation. If it becomes intolerable write him a letter explaining how you are hurting and that you really need to know where you are both going from here on. If only for the sake of your son.
Good luck.

Answer 2

He spanked you? that's crazy why would you let that happen oh man i bet you were mad what did you do did this happen in front of your son and why is this any different from a normal argument and how can you be sure he's not cheating or doesn't have a substance abuse problem does he drink or anything?? you have to stand up for yourself and make it clear that you have to be treated with respect and that your son needs a good role model and maybe you could even suggest counseling maybe it's his work that is stressing him out because men internalize things that happen at work and its really not your fault he does sound like a big meanie though.

Wow! Answering your question in a big run-on sentence was just as hard as reading it that way. Take a deep breath when you're asking for help so we can make sense of these questions. Good luck!

Answer 3

Honestly, Wow I was in that similar boat and let me be the first to tell you that you never know with these men!.
It could be a number of things, but always us women want to think right away that yeap he don't want us anymore", but no hun that might not be the case.

First you should keep in mind, that if you both are having trouble or problems at work, or with bills or have to much stress cause by a certain thing that this could be a big factor in the way he has been acting.

Or it in fact might be that he has some thingsa on his mind that he maybe not know how to express to you becusae of what it is or how you react to things,.

I think you should deffinetly pull him aside and adress him in a serious but understanding manner, and ask him or start off by saying I have been feeling really stressed latly or bad or unhappy becuase how you have been treating me or just write a note that if he has some time or can pull away from what he is doing then you would really like to talk to him about something,

Remain strong for your child, and stay and keep in mind that use this in your advantage on approaching him, as far as using this just say can he talk to you about whats going on or why is is so upset beucase you really care and want to help him or make him feel better for the sake of your relationship and your child, this is not a good thing infront of your child, lets not do that in front of him,.

Hopefully this can help alittle, good luck....

Answer 4

My gut instinct tells me he could be using drugs. I guess that's because it's what ended my marriage. My ex used to be a raging maniac. It comes from using speed (methamphetamine). I know because I used to do it too. I've been sober now since December 1999. Do some research. Whether it's drugs or not, it sounds like he has somewhat of an anger problem. Your first priority needs to be for the safety of you and your child.

Answer 5

that's good that u understand u've tousled (that's said as unsleeping). So ur no longer as undesirable of someone as u imagine u-r. U ought to Confess ur sin first to God. He already knows what u've performed yet He needs to work out in simple terms how a lot ur sorry and really love and favor Him. Doing this may teach Him. that's sooo elementary for all and sundry to assert i'm sorry yet for us to admit that we are incorrect is amazingly very confusing to do=Confession. Then Repent (do not do it again). like the adulteress did in scripture. She admitted her sin and then say sorry. Jesus then forgave her (Jn.8:2-11). Do both easily a kind of through the Holy Spirit and do not do it again! Then u'll be o.k. in the eyes of Jesus then God. might want to the Peace of the Lord be with U.

Answer 6

only continues to do so , because all you will do is slam a car door! he is probably getting a real thrill out of pissing you off! try laughing at him and telling him to grow up! he will become even more angry when you ask if you should call his mommy to come over an make it all better for him! just laugh at his child like behavior and tell him he is yelling like a mad lil boy!

Answer 7

you mention only the last two days. I would try talking to him when its a good time of course. something is bothering him. maybe its his work. maybe he's afraid of being layed off. maybe you have debt and he worrys how he's going to manage could be loads of things on his mind.

He normally has a good track record im presuming? if so before you freak out and lose it.. count to 10 and try and see what's bothering him

Definately something there have him open up to you.

All the best

Answer 8

Ask him to go to anger management seminar. He needs to get professional help now, before it is too late.
I went to anger management, and the doctor prescribed medication to me and it has really helped me out.
I wish you and him the best of luck, but you need to do between yourselves.

Answer 9

calm down, first you got to find out, why did he suddenly turned out to be this way ?? maybe something happened at work that made him so depressed/stressed. keep your cool, sit down and talk nicely with him just before you sleep.

Answer 10

YOU GUYS NEED TO TALK THIS OUT. MAYBE SEE A COUNSELOR. OR TALK TO A PASTOR. AND TRY NOT TO YELL IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD. MAYBE YOU BOTH NEED SOME SPACE. WISHING YOU THE BEST.