my g/f and i have ben together for 2 years. i love her varry much. i trusted her complety until about 3 month aggo when i found some mail that she left out that was some letters from a friend across the country. they things they were talking about was how much they like each other and how they wish they could sleep together. so confronted her she broke down and told me that she still has fealing for him, but she agreaed that it would be in the best intrest of this relation ship that she stoped talking to him. so a few months have gone by and i found out that she is still talking to him. so im haveing a hard time trusting her. i want to but now i question what else she is lieng about. i think it is varry disrespect full of her to be doing thease thing behind my back. i want her to say these thing to me and not some one else. she doesnt seem to care. is it time for me to just give up? (sorry about the spelling)
2006-10-05 13:29:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She lied to you once, and you gave her a fair chance. That's good enough, then she lied to you again. Not trusting her maybe was the best thing you should've done. I know you love her and all that, but it's not worth it if she doesn't love you. As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck!
2006-10-05 13:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by nataliajolie101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, speaking from a rational point of view, I can't see your relationship being teneable. My advice is not to hang onto the relationship for the sake of it. I have been through a similar experience and I felt like a torture victim pleading for mercy. Any reprieve feels good, but it merely restricts your future.
I understand that this is a difficult time for you, so I hope that my words give you some sort guidance, however small.
2006-10-05 13:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Johio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you can not trust someone after a few years what hope do you have .It is not that you can not trust someone ,but you know in your mind what is going on and this is not the person for you unless you do not care if she has relations with others .Then you have to ask yourself is she only with you because you are a good provider or would she still be with you if you had nothing .
I do mean nothing ,not poor and in debt ,but you have nothing .
2006-10-05 13:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by playtoofast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should have dumped her when you first found the letters you can not trust her she is still lieing to you you can do better she has no business writeing letters to another guy and talking about how she wants him she has crossed the line I bet you if this guy lived closer she would be F***ing him and down inside you you already now this i think you need to end it before you get hurt even more find someone that will be good to you and love you the way you need to be love sounds like she does not know how to love just yet good luck
2006-10-05 13:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by mcdanieljoanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mentally she probably left the relationship with you when she decided she had feelings for the other man.
Do you really want to stay in the relationship till they really do something? Will it make it easier on you to leave her if they did do something? You sound like you already know the relationship is ending, but are not sure about giving up on it. Trust your gut instinct, it never lets you down.
2006-10-05 13:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be with someone once you can no longer trust them .. do you really want to spend your life constantly worrying about weither or not she is faithful, and telling the truth. Doesn't sound like something i'd put myself through. Trust is one of the most important things in your relationship. If you cant trust her, the woman you love, then who can you trust.
2006-10-05 13:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by quickie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eih i think the best thing you can do is to talk to her about the matter without accusations because i think her fear is that when she would confess to you'll be so mad and rude to her..calm yourself first...hear her out and maybe there's somehting more than you see..then you have to come up with an agreement..but if the things between you wasn't cleared up then i think you need time and a little space apart...in this ways you can think things over again...and maybe regain your confidence and trust to her or find a greater love...
2006-10-05 13:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the two of you need to have a long heart to heart talk because if she has feeling for someone else then she cant be 100% true to you and if that is the case you need to move on before things get worse and you wind up being hurt worse then you think
2006-10-05 13:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have trust and communication in a relationship then you don't really have a good relationship. If I found out that my bf was lying to me and didn't care if it hurt me, then Yes I would end the relationship.
2006-10-05 13:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you are putting way more than she is into your relationship. obviously she isn't feeling the same about your relationship as she used to. i would just cut your losses and leave the relationship. it might take awhile to get over, because it is a long relationship, but it is probably for the better....
2006-10-05 13:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋