My ex contacted me recently after she left me, & we were able to meet as well. She explained how sad shes been feeling recently, and that she still loved me, although she walked out on our marriage because she believed I hurted her. But the thing is, I dont feel the love from her side. I mean, her ways of showing love before was different, but now I just feel like shes just saying "I love you", gives me a few kisses, and asks how was my day.
Am I just imagining, or is it possible that my ex just says that she loves me but what she actually means is that she misses having someone in her life? She says that she can feel my love, so Im sure that Im not doing anything wrong. But I remember how she insisted on the divorce because she kept on saying that she can never forget how much I have hurt her, & I believe that she is still hurt after 7 months of seperation, but she probably doesnt know it. Am I wrong?
2006-10-05 13:26:33 · 11 answers · asked by Zwerg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I told her this, she felt dissapointed, and told me she will try her best to show her love. Does this mean something as well since shes trying so hard?
2006-10-05 13:27:46 · update #1
Well, this sounds a whole like my situation even down to the time line. This better not be my husband asking this question. Truth be told, when someone is in pain because they hurt, they don't tend to show love like they should. That doesn't mean that she loves you any less. Listen I love my husband very very much, and was tired of being hurt as well. I filed for divorce, but really did not want to. At the time I felt I had no other option. Now I would like to work on my marriage at times and then not at all at other times when I think of the pain. I guess deep down, I would like to work my marriage out and let time take the pain away. I really don't want to lose him. Yes, I want someone in my life, and I don't just want anyone. I want him. I am sure this is how your wife must feel. Yes, after 7 months of seperation, I still feel pain and I am sad. I don't want to have my marriage just end. This is probably why she tells you she loves you, because she doesn't want to have the marriage end, and she is trying to make things better. I say give it another shot, and stop the seperation for now. You two being seperated is not going to help save the marriage. You need to feel like you belong to one another. How ever don't forget the problems that landed you two in this mess. Seek therapy or something, so it doesn't end in a repeat. She loves you dearly. I know, I am in the same boat as her.
2006-10-05 13:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Evie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if you break it down into seperate parts....1. she said she has been feeling sad lately, so ofcourse, a girl would want a shoulder to cry on during this time. 2. She walked out on your marriage....depending on what you did this could go on either side of the fence. If you cheated on her, she will never forget it, even if she says she has or will....it won't happen, the thought of you with someone else will always be there. However, if the reason you "hurt" her was for another reason....you might want to examine if she has a hard time committing and looked at you "hurting" her as an excuse. I don't think there is one right answer for this question...I don't know either of you and can only see the outside situation...it's up to you if you want her back or not.
2006-10-05 13:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by JC L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have not said how you hurt her, her words, but one of two things, either she is really missing you and still loves you, misses being with someone. maybe she has been with someone and got dumped. could be a number of things. if you don't feel the love for her like before, don't go around her. if there are no kids in the realtionship go on with your life and tell her to do the same
2006-10-05 13:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I certainly wouldn't rush into anything with her. I've been there and it sure sounds fishy to me.
Sounds like my ex husband did after our divorce. He called telling me he wanted to send me flowers, he kept telling me he loved me. I told him he never gave me flowers when I was with him, and only told me he loved me in bed. I told him " It's a little too late for both now ". Just be wise with your decision, please ?
Please don't confuse me with the other evie above.
2006-10-05 13:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-03 16:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not even read your whole question, but had to say this..
Women don't forget anything, especially ANYTHING to do with heartbreak or sadness. NEVER NEVER NEVER will they forget.
2006-10-05 13:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by dudeman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's just trying to gain your trust and loyalty back so she can hurt you the same way you hurt her but even harder
2006-10-05 13:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by mookie mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Dudeman it is so true we never ever ever forget!
2006-10-05 13:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by michelle b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's lonely don't fall for it. Remember why she is your ex.
2006-10-05 13:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is..but why dont u believe her..dont quiet think u really know either
2006-10-05 13:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋