Everytime someone asks a question regarding how to get acceptance from people, be it friends, dates, employers, etc, it seems like the automatic response is for everyone to spit out "Be Yourself!!" I've followed that advice all my life, I've never actually tried to change myself, but I have no friends, never had a boyfriend and everyone around me seems to get annoyed at me and people avoid me. So I'm being myself, and it's scaring everyone off. It's been like this my whole life (even during early childhood) and I go to school in a very large city in HUGE schools. So, should I NOT be myself?
2006-10-05 13:20:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be nice??
2006-10-05 13:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From time to time you should diverge from that rule. On the large part though you are who you admire most. I admire teachers and authors with whom I am familiar, so I shape myself in the form of an English teacher. It's all a matter of finding someone else who shapes into the person you admire and cherish most. Unfortunately it's difficult to find people like that. So you need to hone in on what you enjoy doing and associate with people who do that too. It can wield some quite exceptional results!
2006-10-05 13:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by minstrel_of_munificence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not going to be yourself, when you get up in the morning, who will you be...
I suggest you go to YouTube.com, and look under "Hurt" by Johny Cash...
On of the things he states in the long reflecting on life is how he lost his way, and how he could get himself back...give that some thought.
To NOT be yourself is a lie, and to slip into conformity is an even bigger lie. The world is full of BS people...if I ever meet you on the street someday, I want to meet the real you.
2006-10-05 13:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Only joking. It sounds like you need to change then be yourself cos you don't sound happy.
Move house, change job, get some surgery. Get out of the routine you are in.
When you lay in bed at night before sleeping tell yourself your healthy and happy every night until you are.
2006-10-05 13:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm going to be frank- Looks do matter no matter what any one else tells you -its true! Personality comes second. Thats the part where "be yourself" plays in. If you do the best with what you've got and your nice and talkative you cant go wrong :)
2006-10-05 13:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No why would you change yourself just tired to be a more funny person and just chill when your talking to people and another thing is people can tell when you are nervous so just chill out and don't worry about how people see you just do you.
2006-10-05 13:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by YouNyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you act like somebody else and people like you, do you think they like you or that person that you are trying to be? Its tough, I used to go through something similar. The trick is to take chances and talk to people who you would normally be to shy to talk too. There are tons of people out there and if someone doesn't like you don't let it bother you. Above all else, keep your calm and keep trying.
2006-10-05 13:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by caballero5792 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not yourself, who would you be?! . . and if you changed to present someone that you are not, is that something that you can continue to do to hold on to your new so-called friends? . . . it's always best to be your true self . . and you must understand that not everyone can accept the real you . . but never be fake, or change who you are for ANYBODY . . they're not worth it . . who are you trying to please, them or yourself?! . . . any TRUE friend would like you for YOU! . . . it's better to be yourself, and be happy alone . . than to be someone you are not and be miserable with fake friends . . .
2006-10-05 13:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take time to stop and think about what you are doing to make people not be your friend then change it are you sure you dont have any friends or are you one of those people that has a ton of friends and thinks you dont have one
2006-10-05 13:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not from me it isnt..i am all like go get what u want n help with ways to improve ya self ..and even be vindictive to do so sometimes.. u got to do what u have to do for u..no matta what that is sometimes..go get urs
2006-10-05 13:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you haven't discovered who you truly are. Sometimes, it takes a really long time to figure out who you are.
2006-10-05 13:50:18 · answer #11 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋