why isnt there more in place for domestic violence sufferers i suffered it for along time went to a womans hostal and got thrown out for working to much took my kids there and was told there was no place for me i got my self out after beeing stabbed and told the best any one good do for me was put me on a 6month waiting list for counciling and perscribe me anti depresents! couldent get any help getting rehoused with my to kids and live a three minute walk from my abuser where he has had counciling anger managment etc is it me or is there somthing wrong with world when the abuser gets more help than the abused
2006-10-05 13:20:18 · 8 answers · asked by mango_ie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
the thing is i live in britain and it makes me angry! that offenders have more rites than victims
2006-10-05 13:26:30 · update #1
tried womans aid thats who ran the hostel and victim support and as for the council they said they couldent re house me for various resons more like wouldent and as i had a roof over my head technicaly im not homeless and he is the father of my kids so by law ive to tell him the kids school where they live etc so il never be free and i reported the fact that he stapped me and it was a charge of asualt and a afray and he was bound over the the sum of a hundred pounds !
2006-10-07 13:41:17 · update #2
My sympathies.
You have to find a place where you can clear your head. Anti-depressants don't work.
Don't make up. It don't work. Be selfish, think about your own needs. Can't help.
2006-10-05 13:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Perseus 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that the system is all wrong, you are very brave for standing up for yourself and getting out, sorry it took you so long to get on your feet again through no fault of your own, we have a young woman on our street who was viciously beaten last Christmas and held hostage by her ex partner for more than 24 hours, he was arrested and eventually send down, he is now getting the best of everything for his crimes as well as counselling, she is still waiting to be rehoused in a different area so that when her ex partner comes out of prison in 3 months she will be away from the house and him, nothing much seems to be happening for her and she is now panicking big time, her offer from the council was bed and breakfast, not the sort of life you want to bring a child up in is it, is it any wonder a lot of women refuse to go for help, the help is never there when they need it.
2006-10-06 07:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you would feel that way. There is a program with the government, you would go to your unemployment office actually, and apply for it. They will give you 3000.00 to move to another state. I know your family is there but maybe if you leave for a year or so then come back you will not have the same problem. Unless your abuser is the father of your children, Then it is a little complicated. Did you report it when you got stabbed? I hope this helps. my two cents worth
2006-10-05 20:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by Doug favors universal insurance! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to hear that. The world seem to be turned upside down. Keep pressing on for your rights. Try other places and see. reflects on the possile solutions. Fair help is waiting somewhere. All the best.
2006-10-05 22:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact victim support and womens aid, they offer all sorts of support for women in your position. You can also contact the council if you are still being hassled by your ex. They can offer you homeless accommodation as the refuge didn't seem to work for you.
2006-10-05 20:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the guy has mental problems, which does not help you.
Try the Salvation Army.
They are great in times of need, and you certainly fit into this catagory.
2006-10-05 22:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by lordofthetarot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel really sorry for you chuk, there but for the grace of god i could have been in your shoes, as my last partner was abusive and violent. luckily for me, the police scared her off and hopefully she is now in prison. even so, i am terrified of getting involved with someone else, incase i have an even worse experience.
there should be stiffer sentences for abusers, and whatever else it takes to control these vile cowardly controlling monsters.
2006-10-05 20:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by swot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to north america, where the criminal has more rights than his victim
2006-10-05 20:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋