in 12 weeks prego & every thing that he says & does just irratates the living crap out of me. he complains that i dont have sex with him as often as i use to, which is true (but that is because he is bothering me, & im soo tired)he complains that all i want to do when we get home is sleep which is true, i wake up at 7am, work from 8:30- 5pm, then wait at his work till like 7:30-8pm till he gets off (we commute together, cuz we live together), then i cook dinner, we usually eat around 9ish, depending on if i make something or if we take out, then i clean everything up, so by 9:30ish is the 1st time all day i really get to relax... (he wakes up at 8, starts work at 11:30) it is soo annoying that when i finally get to relax he just becomes this annoying dependancy that he feels like i have to entertain...i just wish that i was not so bothered by him, does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this?
2006-10-05 13:18:58 · 18 answers · asked by miss me! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well... this is a side effect of pregnancy... don't do anything rash like breaking it off.... This will pass in a few weeks--but you guys really do need to sit down and divide the chores up in a more even way.
oh yeah, tell him you are preg. with HIS child and he really should start rubbing your feet and back now...... You deserve it
2006-10-05 13:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by samantha h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tough that you live together, and even worse that he doesn't understand how much you are and will be going through being pregnant.
Could be your more irritable because your hormones are running high from the pregnancy.
Could be he's not mature enough to be a father.
Could be time for you to break up.
If you still deep down love him... then I'd try to talk to him about all this. Maybe couples therapy? Maybe you guys just need some time apart for a few days. (Can you stay with a friend/relative?)
You guys are going to be parents, and need to decide how that's going to affect your lives together. Good luck!
2006-10-05 13:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lynzee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunetly its part of your pregnancy. When I was Pregnant with my first I was so bothered by my hubby I did things not be with him. But I think your boyfriend needs to start doing things to help you out. Plus then you wont be so annoyed with him. Im not pregnant and I got annoyed with him by reading your question. He needs to be a little more caring for you, you are caring his child and he needs to realize this is your chance for lots of rest before you have the baby. Cause when the baby is here you wont be sleeping at all!! I think I would have a good talk with your BF and let him know what is going on and explain to him that mabey your sex life would be more interesting if you didnt have to do all the work around the house!! Good Luck!
And Congrats on the baby!
2006-10-05 13:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
More info really needed. Do you love him? Are you in love with him? If you answer no to these questions then you shouldn't be living together just because you are having a baby. You need to take a really hard look at this relationship now before the baby is born. If you aren't staying together that will give you time to get your life on the right track before the baby comes along.
2006-10-05 13:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by copswife93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband got on my nerves for a while. It will get easier. Just find a way to talk to him nicely, find a book that can explain it to him. I bought a pregnancy book when I forund out I was pregnant so my husband would know what I was going through. Some men just dont understand. I wish you the best, just try to stay calm. And trust me, the books work. At about 12 weeks I was irritable too....about everything!
2006-10-05 13:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by DevelopedBeauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant, everything my husband did pissed me off. It's the hormones. But your man sounds like he needs to stop complaining & actually do something. You need to make him start doing his share of the household responsibilities. What happens in a few months if you have to go on bed rest. He needs to be a little more compasionate & helpful. You should tell him this & make him understand. This stress is not good for you or the baby.
2006-10-05 13:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by jamieinreno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was experiencing the same problem in the beginning of my pregnancy. I was tired all of the time and wanted nothing more than to lay down and sleep when I was home. Now, however, I am well into my second trimester (23 weeks) and am having more of a sexual drive than ever!!! My boyfriend (and baby's father) can't keep up with me! Your energy will return in the second trimester. Try exercise. You should explain to your boyfriend that it would be well appreciated if he would help you in your daily chores.
Good luck and have a happy, healthy pregnancy.
2006-10-05 13:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Taryn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a day like that all you can do is rest. That is all you need. The only thing you can do is explain everything to him about your body and the changes and if he doesn't understand, bring him to your next appointment and let someone else tell him he's acting like a jerk! He should be trying to spoil you now. I'm pretty sure you have him spoiled, since he is all in your face for attention!
2006-10-05 13:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Honesty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie a lot of it is just hormones but let him break everything down to him and let him know that you just need some time to get adjusted to being pregnant...and as irratating as men seem to be while you are pregnant try to set aside some time for him guys are just as bad as babies sometimes and want lots of TLC
2006-10-05 13:28:33 · answer #9 · answered by candigirl_77091 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u dont desire him around u and the child until eventually he cleans up his act and gets in restoration if u dont do it now than its gonna worsen and dont enable it get to u if he tells u u r gonna make him do drugs back its an addects way of of bobbing up it okay to apply back , all he did develop into susetute one drug for yet another so actual he hasnt realy shanged he in basic terms enable pass of the unlawful drugs for a criminal one . and dont ythink that once the youngster is born he will substitute he needs to alter now earlier the youngster is born the longer they get to maintain eating or utilising the extra good it truly is going to likely be to provide up or perhaps nevertheless u r convalescing your self u are additionally an enabler because of the fact u r allowying it to proceed and u are additionally a co dependet reason if he's pleased along with his drinks then u are chuffed reason hes no longer harassing u . so dont wait until eventually the youngster gets there refer to him now and get you the two right into a software jointly so he can see that uwant substitute besides for the child , because of the fact if he proceed to drink and he acedentally harms the child by potential of any potential he would be in penal complex and risk is theyll take the child faraway from u , im no longer asserting theyll take the child at beginning im in basic terms asserting after the child is born say if the child wakes up crying an he trys to percentthe infant up and hes so inebriated he accedently drops the child or somethin , i dont think of u will pass away your infant in a daycare midsection full of drunks so why enable a inebriated father shelter the child , make him get help if he dont seek for help im sorry shrink him loose until eventually he does the main serious concern proper now's u and the child
2016-10-01 23:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by haslinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋