I am 13 and I have a 16 year old brother. He was all I had for my entire life, up until I was about 10. Those years we didn't have any other friends because we were homeschooled, eachother was all the friends we had. We were really close, we never went a day without talking and discussing something we liked. Now that he's 16, he has a computer, a game, and friends online he's never met before. They all seem more important to him than anyone in the family now. A few minutes ago, he said he can't stand any of us and doesn't like us (love was on the tip of his tongue). We haven't done or said anything against him. He barely has to do ANYTHING. But he complains about us as if we are the scum of the Earth. It's hard hearing those words from someone who used to be my best friend and hero. I love him more than life itself, but I don't think he feels like that anymore. What I'm even more afraid of is when I turn 16, will I be the same? Will I hate my family? How do I deal with this?
2006-10-05 13:12:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think everybody goes though that. He didnt mean it. He just going though some changes right now. Its hard. My brother used to be the same way but we're now the best of friends again. Give it time, it will pass.
2006-10-05 13:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by circe459 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All teenagers deal with things in different ways. Your brother thinks you and your family don't "understand" him, and immerses himself in these distant friendships where he feels part of a community. Maybe your parents are a little leniant on him; they should at least give him a few chores in the house, and limit his computer time. At the same time, they must also reassure their son, as should you, that they'll always be there for him. This is a typical teenage thing to do (he sounds exactly like the 'Kevin the Teenager' character from the British comedian, Harry Enfield), and it doesn't necessarily mean you'll be like that. You may be a little moody on times, but as long as you remember your family are always there to discuss anything.
Please don't worry about your brother. When he grows up a little more, he'll come round.
2006-10-05 20:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hating your family is typical 16 year old behavior. There is something about that age that makes you suddenly decide your family is worthless and you know everything there is in the world to know. The parents get the most heat during this time, but younger brothers or sisters are not immune. I wouldn't worry unless he starts isolating himself from you completely, or becomes very depressed or starts hanging around with guys who look like thugs. Then your parents should step in a make sure he doesn't have a drug problem. I feel for you. Just hang in there and let him know how badly he is hurting you. Chances are that he will remember those great times and change his attitude. Good luck, Sweetie.
2006-10-05 20:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your brother is having a hard time with growing up right now. Unfortunately he's taking his frustrations out on his family. He probably feels like he's missed out on a lot of things up until now. He is feeling resentment because he thinks he has been cheated out of part of his life. He has some growing up to do before he will realize that family is the most important part of life. Teenagers rebelling against their family is common. He's trying to find his independence. He was probably blindsided by puberty. All you can do for the time being, is give him his space. No, you won't be like him because you are seeking help. Just keep a good attitude and support him by staying out of his way and he'll come around. It's hard to deal with being a teenager. Most parents forget how rough it was when they were growing up. That's what makes it hard on teens to grow up. And teenagers can drive a parent crazy by wanting to grow up too fast. When someone reaches their teenage years they think they know it all and resent anyone who doesn't accept it. Hang in there until he gets a little older. Everything will be OK.
2006-10-05 20:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by renaissance man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is too complicated for anyone to answer over the internet. You really should check with someone outside of the family. Try a school counselor or teacher. There are many different things going on, from the psychology of the individual, to your family function and even the influence the others are putting on your brother.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-05 20:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Echelon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this happen before.
Young kids live in the world their parents keep them wrapped safely in, then the kids see what else is out there. The kids rebel big time because they have a feeling that their lives are really different due to being in the world their parents kept them in.
He probably does not hate you, but he is really pissed off at your parents. He is finding out about all the stuff he is missing out on. Your just getting caught up is his general anger. You might feel the same way when you get older.
2006-10-05 20:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just going through a phase. He's getting older and just needs to find himself and start dong things he likes. I'm sure he didn't mean it when he said he didn't like you all anymore. Just give him some time and space
2006-10-05 20:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh that sound really hard. oh i would probably just not think about it. he probably doesn't really mean all that. i would keep busy so that would keep my mind off of it. hang in there
2006-10-05 20:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by olivejuice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just think that you wont be like him if you see what it does to you, you will know how it feel s to someone else!!!!
2006-10-05 20:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by morenosenorita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother sounds kinda like a a hole
2006-10-05 20:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋