I have been married for 13 years and a half, together 16. We have 3 children. There is a problem I used to thinkthe sex was ok, I have been having problems right now with stamina also getting it hard, I have been to the doctor. My wife told me thats my problem, I don't feel supported. It also feel like I have alt of pressure to try to perform. I don't know what else to do, because all I hear is complaints and no show of love and support!
2006-10-05 12:50:28 · 18 answers · asked by jokay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find a way to release your stress; vigorous exercise for at least 20 minutes 4 times a week. Any way you can increase your heart rate more; park further out in parking lots, walk the stairs instead of the elevator. Stress has so many side effects, you need to focus on yourself & do things to make you feel healthy & happy. Then your "problem" should get better.
2006-10-05 13:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are far from being alone in this. Nothing kills the sex drive than feeling pressure to perform when our bodies will not cooperate.
The problem you have can be either emotional of physical. You do need a doctor who specializes in this to talk it through with you.
Most of the time when men are feeling good and have no hang-ups about sex performance is not a problem. But let any stress from anywhere come into your life and things change.
One of the biggest reasons for an emotional problem revolves around how you feel about your wife and how you perceives she feels about you. If this is out of wack you can be sure you will have these problems.
Age is a major factor also. The older you are the more likely this will happen, at least at times.
See that doctor and make sure it is not physical. If not then you have to work out the emotional thing.
2006-10-05 20:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sorry about your problem. Many men experience similar problems. Did the doctor tell you what the problem could be or what could be done about it? Your wife should be more supportive. Maybe ther is a reason why she is not. There are hidden reasons for just about everything we do. The pressure and strain to perform does not help your problem. Express your concerns with your wife and be sure to follow up with your doctor. Good Luck
2006-10-05 19:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by LadyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like ur wife isnt interested in sex anymore so therefore she doesnt care if u can get it up or not. when u get all the answers from this sight that u want, print them out and show them to her and see what kind of reaction u get. By the way , what has changed about u since ya'll got married? ever take an inventory? maybe u should. good luck
2006-10-05 19:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our body is the outward part of our being. All man has three parts: body, soul, and spirit.
Soul is the inward part and include mind, emotion, will.
Hidden inside the soul is spirit include conscience, intuition, and fellowship.
If we let the soul be the dominent part of our life, it will control our body. But our soul is the self, consequently, this self will run out from within and also from outward environment.
We should turn to the Lord, God is Sprit, those who worship Him mush worship in spirit and truthfullness. If you exercise your spriit to be the strongest part of your being in your talking and living. The spirit will saturate your soul, then the soul will take care of the action through your physical body.
God created Adam. And out of him, Eve was made to accompany him. Something is wrong beyond your comprehension. But turn to the spirit and pray, once your conscience is cleared, the intuition would be keen, the flow of strengh will come in with endless supply.
May your spirit and soul and body be preserved complete. 1 Thes. 5:23
2006-10-05 20:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by tonyleemba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 16 years, she still wants sex that bad?? Dude, I don't know, most guys have the opposite problem. Can you get some viaggra? It worked for a friend of mine.
We're newlyweds, and we're fine going without sex weeks at a time. Neither one of us has a problem with it.
2006-10-05 19:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow I understand where you are coming from, I have been married for 10 years but all together we have been with each other for 13 1/2 years , and we have 2 kids, and as far as sex well sometimes my husband has that same problem, I asked him to go and see his doctor , but he won't , see I do get disappointed but there is always another day ,,,,,,
2006-10-05 19:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find a good answer please email me.
I have been married for 38 years, and my wife has told me the same thing. She says it is not her problem, it is yours and you are going to have to deal with it.
The doctor informed me that it was both of our problems, that one person does not get it on alone. She tells me just bring the money home, so I am taking it that she does not care if I go out and find someone to please me.
2006-10-05 21:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a tip that always works as long as you're capable of having sex.
For 2 weeks for 15-20 minutes every night you and your wife do everything except have sex.....hug, kiss, cuddle, massage, touch....everything except penetration.
In 2 weeks you'll be back to normal.
2006-10-05 19:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with her and tell her that the way she reacting and acting towards you is not helping you in the situation you're in. There are other ways to please you wife and I'm sure your wife loves and wouldnt nothing stupid to hurt and destroy your family.
2006-10-05 19:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋