How do I stop being gay---- FOR REAL---- no bullshit answers like "your born that way" or "you can't change who you are" please. I need real advice. Thanks!
2006-10-05 12:49:34 · 20 answers · asked by Baby L 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You could join the clergy and agree to a celebate existance, although I've heard this doesn't work so well.
You might pray to God to make you straight. My grandmother says he laughs at those kind of prayers, but there are many on here who sware by Him (or is that a sin too?).
Radical sexual reassignment surgery could help you. If you changed your sex, you could live the remainder of your life as 'straight' person, sortof.
If you find that you can't go under the knife and can't remain celebate, then you might try a number of chastity belts that are available to help you control your urges.
Or you could just accept who you are, as you are, and get on with enjoying your life.
2006-10-05 13:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Todd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my dear ~ you sound confused. Alright read closely, you want to stop being something that is inside of you- why?. Now one day when you are alone, and maybe a sex scene of a man and woman or a film with a gay sex scene in it and realize where you want to be. If you are young, you may just be conflicted. But I suspect you know exactly who you are. You want to stop ~ well you didn't even say which gender you are! So how can we help?? But if you are serious ~ just stop desiring what u desire thereby stop being who you are and live unhappily.
But just for the record ~ I wonder if everyone is a li'l gay. God bless :o]
2006-10-05 19:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those answers you call bullshit, are not bullshit. They are real answers, from real people, that have really been where you are. I am sorry that you cant see that.
I will try to answer your question though, as you wish it to be answered: not being gay.
Do not allow yourself to associate pleasure or romance those of your sex. When you feel you are associating those things with those of your sex try to imagine one of the opposite sex in that place instead. If you pleasure yourself do it to the imaginings of one of the opposite sex. Mind you, they have actually used these methods clinically and they have an extremely high failure rate, as do all 'x-gay' treatments. But you may be able to 'pass' as straight by having fulfilling relationships with those of the opposite sex.
You would benefit greatly if you got some consoling, or talked to some people on a hot line. I highly recommend and psycologist, or psychiatrist, one that is 'morally neutral'. Those that advertise as being 'Christian' or a 'family values oriented' tend to be grossly biased and may cause a lot of damage.
If all you hear are those 'bullshit answers' though, from professionals, friends, and so fourth then you might want to step back and reevaluate how relevant those answers may actually be. Please Do not discredit people, and their answers, as being bullshit just because it is not the answer you WANT. Unfortunately in this world we rarely get the answers we WANT. But we very often get the answeres we NEED.
Good luck in your life my friend. Whatever road you end up traveling, may you find peace and happiness.
2006-10-05 20:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by aiji.tenchijin 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you're a guy, don't think about guys, think about girls. If you're a girl, think about guys. Think before you act. So if you are walking like a gay person, change it. If you talk like a gay person, change it. Don't use the words that gay people would normally use. Keep telling yourself that you are not gay.
I thought about this before I came out, but it didn't work. Maybe it will work for you. Good luck!
2006-10-05 20:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Electro-convulsive therapy doesn't work.
Aversion therapy doesn't work
Denzodiazepines don't work.
Analysis doesn't work
What works is acceptance of what you are. Learning to love yourself as the person you are is a major step forward in learning to love other people as well.
Unfortunately the bible-thumpers round here have yet to understand this.
If you don't accept this you might end up like Foley - sad.
Or you might kill yourself
Or you might make your wife and children very unhappy.
Accept yourself
2006-10-05 20:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be gay then you won't be gay. Or you can just lie to yourself for the rest of your life and suffer. Do you know how many gay people are really around though? Probably half the population in Chine are gay.
2006-10-05 19:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to see a head doctor and work things out. It really sounds like you need help and you're not going to get it here.
2006-10-05 19:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by stephenl1950 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the good things about the opposite sex (I can think of good things of both). Then think of someone who if they were of the same sex as you you'd like them but they are of the opposite sex. Divert your attention away from guys (if ur a guy) and focuse on your religion; how you breaking God's law (sorry if I have to bring this in here) Gay in itself is perverted and very promiscous (especially when acted on). God doesnt appreciate this type of behavior even between the opposite sexes. The only lawful relationships should go on between man and woman in marriage and there is no same sex marriage. All it is is a void marriage. If being gay is ok what stops people from marrying animals, multiple wives, and heck wives and husbands! Sorry if I sound rude but think of the beauty of God's miracles and how precise procreation works.
Peace. Sorry if I was harsh...maybe it helped? :-)
2006-10-05 20:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by justmyinput 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you cant. but u can pretend you are straight and get married to the opposite sex and live a miserable fked up life still wanting someone of the same sex.
but goodluck haha. i hope u wake up to yourself and realise YOU CANNOT CHANGE
2006-10-05 19:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only pretend. Nothing else works.
Good luck with that.
Tell me how that works out for you will ya!
2006-10-05 20:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋