how do i get my husband to trust me better? i have never doubt him, he's had bad experiences with past relationships and it has never been an issue b4. well kinda. but never this serious and intense. my husband thinks i have slept with someone b/c i decided not to have sex with him after delivery of our little girl to prevent from not having a third child. I think of everyday I have to carry those to around while he is at work in this HOT miami son...FELLAS please tell me what to do...Ladies pls help. I am going to ATL and ALABAMA (WAR EAGLE) to visit my friends but he acts so jealous and as if he doesnt trust me. My friend from college (a guy) came into town and he was cool with that. Now when I go on the trip to visit family and friends I wanted to visit a childhood friend who is in jail. I asked him if it was ok with him he said "I dont care." What do i do in this situation???? HELP!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-05 12:41:42 · 15 answers · asked by Wouldn't u like to know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I JUST GOT THE 3 MONTH BC SHOT TODAY SO WE WILL BE HAVING SEX!!
I AM NOT GIVING UP ON MY MARRIAGE!!
I AM COMITTED TO HIM AND WORKING IT OUT...
2006-10-05 12:50:04 · update #1
I BELIEVE IN GOD AND THAT HE WILL WORK IT OUT ONE WAY OR ANOTHER!! I WILL BE PRAYING FOR US AS I SHOULD HAVE ALL ALONG.
2006-10-05 12:53:12 · update #2
Just explain the situation to him that you weren't able physically to have sex yet.... also remind him that you are the primary caregiver for the baby and you don't want to have another baby right away....
Talk to your man about how you feel and you two should try to come to reasonable understanding about kids and how often to have sex. Try marriage counseling..
2006-10-05 12:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, when you two first got married ther should've already been that "wholeheartly" trust. Turn the situation around, would you mind if he went to his girlfriends out of state? Even though there is nothing going on with you or someone else your husband will always feel that way. Deep down he does trust you but just understand the way he thinks and acts. It's different now you cant visit guys friends that are locked up.
2006-10-05 12:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have been hurt in the past it can take some time to trust again. I am extremely happy in my 13 year marriage but boy did we have a rough start. Trust was a HUGE issue and it took many years for both of us. If he is a good guy and you love him then you will just have to give him time. Don't give him any reason not to trust you. Don't do things that make him feel insecure and he will learn in time to trust you completely. Why would you want to hang with all these guys anyway? If you have found your best friend in your husband then you don't need to hang with other guys. Would you really want him hanging out with other women? Not sure that you do that but just my suggestions.
2006-10-05 12:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by copswife93 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I don't think you can do anything. If you're loyal to him, that's all you have to do. It is up to him to confront his feelings of mistrust. I feel for you, I have been there, and I ended my marriage because of the very same reason. I got tired of being accused of infidelity, even though I never cheated.
Ask him if he's willing to talk to a professional so he can figure out why he's having so much trouble trusting you. Offer him your support and let him know that you're doing this to make your relationship stronger and happier. Your efforts might make him realize that he's going to lose a really great thing if he keeps doubting you.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-05 12:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by chicago_mojo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must be feeling insecured.Men dont express themselves easily.Try to find out the point and expain him,if he loves you he will understand.Besides, there are many other options for birth control,refusing sex is not the right one.Insecurity is the problem in marriage which is not understood by either of them which leads to clashes and even more so try to convince him by showing your loyalty the way he understands.You know your husband better than anyone else.
2006-10-05 13:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Res J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was like that in the beginning with my wife for the same reason. In time the relationship strengthened and now I trust her explicitly and this is a two way street. I can't speak for anyone else but just wanted to share my experience. There is hope for any relationship that is honest and open..
2006-10-05 12:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love this man and want to make the marriage work, then you will have to earn his trust somehow. Be extra loving, observe his likes and dislikes. If he hates to see you talking to other guys then don't.
Mind you it will take years and years.
If this is his only fault then you could give it a go.
Still he sounds like a spoiled little brat, not a grown man.
A good man is comfortable in his own skin and does not need
to throw tantrums or make your life more difficult than it has to be.
2006-10-05 12:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take a day at a time and it will get better. He needs for you to show him that he can trust you. Be there for him every day and he will get over it.
2006-10-05 12:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why not tag him along...
u need to consider ur marriage first above anything, u should talk to him and make everything clear, if he still won't believe u then give him time to see you are trustworthy....u shld not force him to do that, u should gain his trust.
2006-10-05 12:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That issue should have been resolved before the wedding day...If he doesnt trust you and you are not f***ing around, then he is the one with the issues, not you..Tell him to get over it
2006-10-05 12:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋