Ok, help with your advice out there. My husband and i have been seperated over a month. Everyone says i should be getting more comfortable with moving on with my life, but it isnt happening. I still love him as much as the day i married him, i still miss him, i still go to bed at night crying. I still wish for every day that goes by that i would hear his voice, and the day ends and it doesnt happen. He hates me, its obvious, and its obvious he is happy with his decision. Our seperation occured because we could no longer get along. What do you do?
2006-10-05 12:39:41 · 14 answers · asked by Elly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will pray for your heart... and your marriage...
2006-10-05 12:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by 57chevy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi i feel sorry to hear that .
i don't think that he hates u ! sometimes when there is a lot of problems the person think that he hates the other , but it is not true !
try to call him & meet him , talk with him about the reason of divorce , try to solve with him the problems that caused the divorce , may be u can change from urself a little & he too .
tell him that u love him & want him .
so if he really loves u he will appreciate that & u can continue together.
& if he dont want to go back , so at least u tried , u ll not lose anything the divorce already happened . so u ll know well that there is no way .
& then keep urself busy all the time , to forget the feeling of missing him . there is many ways to pass threw that .
finally , dont close on urself u must do something instead of crying ! be strong ! life is too short to pass it in sadness .
2006-10-05 12:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by semsema 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Separation and divorce are just like a death and you grieve them just like a death. The life that you planned for and had expectation of has died. You need to grieve that loss. It takes time and it's different for everybody. A month seems like a long time but it isn't in the grand scheme of things. Have a good cry every night if you feel like it. If you're still crying every day in a year's time then worry. But for now just go with the flow and enjoy being miserable. It will help you if you analyze your feelings and do a bit of an autopsy of your relationship so you can better understand what worked and what went terrible wrong so you learn from this and not put yourself through a similar experience in the next relationship.
2006-10-05 12:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When self is the center of a relationship, one tend to be selfish, self pity,self-centerd, who would want to with such kind of person. Self is when our soul is fallen due as the poison been injected into our souls. Thus, our mind was no longer sobered, our emotion was no longer loving, and our will is harden.
How do you get over the self? Read God's word by praying
Heb. 4:12 For the word of God is living and operative and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing even to the dividing of soul and spirit and of joints and marrow, and able to discern the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
You also mention the cause of this separation.
Character of each individual is hardly changable after age of 15. unless....something dramatic happen in one's life. May this be an experience to conform into His death and live out His resurrection life for death cannot hold the resurrection life.
Grace be with you. Amen
2006-10-05 12:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by tonyleemba 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to hate him back - I can think of a reason - because he knew how much pain he was causing you when he left and he's still gone knowing that it hurts you - this would piss me off enough to at least stop crying about him - focus on the bad times and the fights.
there are too many men out there to cry over one - who obviously is a jerk anyway - get out there and have some fun
2006-10-05 12:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by kim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a month isn't a very long time at all. Many people take years to get over bad times, daeths, divorce etc. if you husband is happy with the desicion, obvioulsy you can't go back. You need to have your cry and let time heal the wound. i feel so bad for you right now, you will be remebered in my prayers.
2006-10-05 12:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by NY Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sounds like you need some one to talk to with a unbiased opinion. Get counseling and see how it goes. You don't say why you got a divorce? But it does sound like you need help to move on ..mourn him like he is dead then you will be able to let love back in your life with some one new. I do understand your hurt as do lots of people reading this...we have been there or are there you are never alone with this type of sorrow.
~May love & light come in to your life~
2006-10-05 12:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to hear more details such as:
How long were you married?
Do you have children together?
What do you feel was the reason you weren't getting along?
Do you suspect him of cheating?
Was he abusive?
the more details you provide the better picture you paint & therefore, the better, more relevant answers you will get. Good luck sweetheart
2006-10-05 12:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by panamared12345 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy oh boy you got it bad. ( sadness of love rejected)
Your feelings are natural. I promise you, there is likely someone that thinks of you when they go to bed at night. Your the focus and strength to them. Find them and seek them out, and they
will support you in this time of need. We are all here to help you.
Look at the number of responses. People do care, and do listen.
2006-10-05 13:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by rjm96 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup its very unhappy.. he did alot of work for charity too raised tens of millions, He made alot of human beings snort over the years.. I easily have already had 2 jokes despatched to me on me cellular about it (ill, ill ill!!!), He had Leukaemia, which killed my dad..my honest condolence's to his kin,
2016-11-26 19:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to get in a little therapy and talk about the matter with other women who are going through similar situations.
2006-10-05 12:42:29 · answer #11 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋