I have been getting up in the night and looking at porn sights my wife just found out and is very MAD she says it is wrong and I should not do it behind her back what do think
2006-10-05 12:34:40 · 34 answers · asked by clueless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, she is right. You are leaving your har and going to look at porn. She is right there beside you, why not show her some love if you wanna get off?
2006-10-05 12:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
See, that's your problem. You're sneaking around to do it.
I'm up front about what I do. My wife is well aware that I look at the nudie sites and download movies. She has no problem with it, but then again she's European. I've noticed over the years that most American women are really uptight & anal about porn. Europeans are more liberated & open minded. You'll NEVER hear about a European woman b!tching her husband out over watching porn.
Americans overall are the world's biggest prudes. Does this sound familiar: "I-I can't have an abortion, it's against my religion." ??? But yet these same women have no problem spreading their legs to engage in pre-marital sex. Boy... their religion sure flew out the window on that one. Most of those religious beliefs are elective and selective.
Be up-front dude! It's okay to look at porn, but only as you don't use it as a substitute.
2006-10-05 13:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Larry F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she there with you? Why would you rather have rosey palmer and her 5 finger sisters instead of your wife? There may be more underlying issues there. Maybe you're not attracted to her physically or something.
I don't have a problem with my husband looking at that, but I know for a fact if I'm anywhere in the vicinity, he'd most definitely want to jump on me before bootin' the computer up and looking at some porn.
2006-10-05 12:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should look at them together. She said, not behind her back, so invite her. Well now, how would you feel if you caught her looking at big ones in the middle of the night?! I caught my husband, got mad, got some jewelry out of it and now I'm over it. Wish I would catch him again so I could get some more jewelry! I told him I was really hurt by it more than mad about it.
2006-10-05 12:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by dreamlander 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question to answer, for the following reasons.
I enjoy watching porn movies, but my wife will not watch them with me. I enjoy watching Dr. Sue on Sunday nights, and my wife cannot stand her. She tells me that a person must be sick to have to watch porn, but then she says she can live without it.
I mean I could go on, but I hope you get the point.
Every couple is different, but I do not think you are wrong to watch porn if your wife will not join you.
Good Luck to both of you
2006-10-05 12:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she is not MAD...she is hurt. If you are getting up in the middle of the night to sneak peaks and get your pee-pee hard by looking at other girls..she is hurt and confused. You have just made her feel insecure, insignificant, and you have made her wonder what is wrong with her that she is not good enough for you. Love your wife.
2006-10-05 12:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. They hate it when you get up in the middle of the night. Don't be so sneaky. Let her in on it. Invite her to look at porn with you. If she doesn't want to don't push it. At least you are being honest and it's out in the open.
2006-10-05 18:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women think so much different then men do so of course she is going to get mad. Us women blame ourselves thinking that the husband does not desire us anymore. We also think you must be bored with us because you are looking at other women. Us women will never understand why a man has such a fascination with looking at naked women.
2006-10-05 18:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong at looking at porn, but like she said, you shouldn’t do it behind her back. Ask your wife how she feels about you looking at porn. You never know, she might actually like watching/looking porn with you.
I’m very open to my husband sexually. He knows that I wouldn’t mind him watching porn, but he rather see me naked than anyone from T.V or Internet out there and the fact that I take good care of my self. From time to time, he and I enjoy watching porn together, learn from it and just enjoy each other. After all, that is what a marriage about…..enjoying each other right?!!!!.....=)
Goodluck!!!! =)
2006-10-05 12:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by L!LO 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree. She's right there, and your SNEAKING in porn instead. Plus, it's and insult. You're basically saying she doesn't do it for you that you need to watch whores instead. If she's not in the mood, then, I'm sorry, but you need to respect her and just stop watching porn. I had the same situation with my hubby getting up off of the couch, sitting with me, and going into the computer room jerking off to porn! HELLO!!?? Ask and you shall receive!!
2006-10-05 12:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by afafae25 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋