Really, is there no end? Why do you have to grovel over every woman you see? Even if you are married, it's just seen as normal for you to fanticize about and look at every other woman. Why can't you just be satisfied with one? If you already have all the sex you could want, why do you constantly want someone else? It makes me feel like I will never ever be good enough and nothing I do is enough, he will still be looking for something else. Why do you do this?
2006-10-05 12:14:48 · 25 answers · asked by Ferosia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that looking is normal, if I see a beautiful person I look too, but I don't take it a step further and imagine them naked or having sex with them. My husband dreams about cheating on me almost every other day, what the hell?
2006-10-05 12:35:26 · update #1
Why are all women b i t c h e s? ( that was as bad as your question )
We do not grovel over every women we see.
Just because we are married does that mean we are supposed to walk around with our eyes closed? I dont know who you been talkng to but we dont go around fantasizing about them.
Appreciating another womens body doesnt mean we arent satisfied with who we are with.
You obviosly have some serious self image issues if your man looking at someone else can make you feel like you arent good enough.
2006-10-05 12:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by RedEye 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the urge to have many sexual partners has been a part of man's nature since man came into existence. in almost every mammal species the strongest male had first choice of a mate or multiple mates. this was to insure that the best genes were passed down in order for the species to survive. females were not allowed to have sex with any other male other than the dominant male. over the centuries this practice has been affected by morality adopted by civilizations due to religious influence. until just recently the Inuit tribes practiced sharing their wives with male visitors as a ritual of hospitality. there are also many instances of eastern societies accepting the role of prositutes as a normal way to deal with the male need for a variety of sexual partners. all men are tempted to have multiple sexual partners. this urge is controlled to a greater or lesser degree by the man's emotional make-up. the process of natural selection has developed the traits that males find attrative sexually in women. women have invented ways to enchance those features to make sure men notice. i guess one should be glad we do not live in the age when men would take a woman they were attracted to with or without her permission. men are the way they are because we had to evolve that way to procreate the species. women are the way they are because that is the way they had to evlove to attract men. if a man sleeps with multiple partners he is a stud. if a woman sleeps with multiple partners she is a slut. but if the truth be known i have found that the curiosity about multiple partners exists in women as well as men.
the stigma attatched to exploring those curiosities is mainly what keeps women from experiencing sexual freedom. i think you can love someone and not be sexually fulfilled by that person. on the other hand i also feel that you can be sexually gratified by someone you are not in love with. that is where men and women differ on this subject. women do not distingish between love and sex. to men they are two sides of the same coin.
2006-10-05 20:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes the reaction that you give him when he is doing these things. If he was really having those dreams do you actually think he would be telling you them NO! He just wants you to get mad and jelouse. Do not feed into this. Start giving him a taste of his own medicine start looking at other men when he is around. Start telling him that you are having romantic dreams about other men.
2006-10-06 01:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm married and I still look at attractive women, Secondly I wouldn't be married in the first place if I didn't do that.
Sorry to say that you suffer from low self esteem nothing your husband will do will change that, it's all on you, I know it sucks but you have to figure things out on your own. I've never cheated on my wife but I can't turn off my brain and stop liking women all together.
2006-10-05 23:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by firefrost8k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men looking at other women has nothing to do with you at all. It is genetic. Men like new and different. Get it out of your head that it has something to do with you because it doesn't. Most men will look!! Most men will cheat if an opportunity is in front of them. It is a choice they make and has nothing to do with the woman they are with. They act first and deal with the consequences later if they should get caught. It is never you.
2006-10-05 19:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beautiful sights will always turn heads weather its a mountain, waterfall, sports car or someone of the opposite sex. My wife and I both understand this. When either of us sees someone attractive we point them out to each other. What you are asking for is for a person to ignore beauty. Its just not human nature. I dont understand why you are so threatened. I doesnt faze me a bit when she points out a hot guy, I know I'm the one she loves.
2006-10-05 19:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it is just in our nature as the male species, if you look at animals and other creatures, they are the same way..I know when men say I do at their wedding, I think they want to be true and dont mean to cheat, but it is just the way we are programmed, I dont care how good hearted he is, it is in his blood to do so. Women are not too far behind, if not worse
2006-10-05 19:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. I think you opened my brain and typed out my thoughts. I totally understand how you feel right now because I am feeling the same way. I give my husband all the sex he wants, I look good for him, and I love him and it still doesn't suffice. He still went to a strip club (TWICE) and got lap dances. PIGLET.
2006-10-05 20:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend i know how u feel, that is every man in the world, they are a bunch of backstabbing hoes. if they were a female they would say yes to sex to every guy that advanced them. there is no such thing as true love, men are nasty assss hoes. it took me a while to figure out they are all the same, for many yrs i tried 2 think they were diff, but they are not. if yoiu have a better chance becoming a lesbian and finding true love and a faithful partner as sick as that sounds.
2006-10-05 19:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look, guys are very visual creatures - we like to look.
But there is a big difference between looking and actually acting on it.
If you guy looks and doesn't touch - don't worry - he just enjoys the female form. In fact, when you should worry is when he stops looking.
2006-10-05 19:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by RT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋